Sad news sister-in-law died
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
February 12, 2009 1:51pm CST
You know that I have been talking about my oldest sister-in-law having had a series of strokes and is now in a nursing home, and that my husband also has had a stroke. Well he just got a call this morning, that she died this morning. So now we have to find out whether we can go to Saskatoon for the funeral or not. He does not think so because of him being unable to get around. He has arthritis and the stroke destroyed his balance. Anyway we have been phoning around to let the other brothers and sisters in laws know. I already called my younger son since he and I are on the same cell phone network. But it does give me an estimation on what might happen to my husband. I always expected Mary to go, it was just that I was amazed that she lived as long as she did. She was seventy-one years old.
In a way she is no longer suffering, but it is so sad.
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22 responses
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear of your loss. You're right she is in a better place but it's hard for family to loose members of the family. Too bad you couldn't get out to Saskatoon on better terms I'm only about a three hour drive from there.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
Well you definitely made the right decision it would add stress to the whole situation having the worry of getting to the right place at the right time. They say this is the Golden Years. I am sure your sister in law would want to do the right thing as well. Take care.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I'm so sorry about your sister in law hon. That is definitely sad, but at least she isn't suffering any more. With all the strokes, I'm amazed too at how long a life she lived. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers hon. Big hugs to you.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
I was expecting her to die a few years ago. By then she could not hardly swallow, and she could not dress herself, and she had to use a wheelchair. My husband had a stroke and he needs a walker and I have to help him dress, but Mary was much worse and was that way for eight years. I am glad she is at peace now.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I am so sorry for all of you, it is very sad. How is your hubby dealing with it? Its got to be really scary for him, specially since he has had a stroke. It probably wouldn't be a good idea for your hubby to make the trip anyway. It would be especially hard on him, I am sure his sis would understand and not want him to put himself in danger or jepordy.
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I am so sorry to hear this. I said a prayer for you and your family that God would give you peace.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
Thank you. I know that God is looking after me and HE has answered my prayers. I know that HE knew that my sister-in-law could no longer live on this earth the way she was. And HE took her rather then let her continue suffering.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
12 Feb 09
It is always so sad to lose someone we love and we're never prepared no matter how long we've been expecting it. She's with God and she'll be awaiting you when it's your turn. I hope your husband is ok?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
We were expecting it for some time. She had a series of stroke starting eight years ago, and she lost her ability to speak, she could not drink unless they put a gelatin in the water, and of course, she first had to use a walker, and then a wheelchair. My husband is the same as ever. The doctor told him to walk with the walker more often and do more exercise.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
Thank you. I was thinking last night about her. She was quite lucid, but she could not get the words out. They think she had a heart attack.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family. I do know that you worry about your husband, just remember to cherish and enjoy the times you do have.
Take care!
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
13 Feb 09
iam so sorry i too have been following your story about your sister in-law you are right she don,t have to suffer any more.all the pain and suffering is a thing of the pass.and again iam so sorry your family having to go through this my prays with be with you and family.
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@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear of your loss and hope you are holding up well. I am just now getting back on the pc for MyLot, been working on a few things here. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Ainge
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@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
13 Feb 09
My sympathy to you and her loved ones. In view of your husband's condition it probably hits you really hard that life is fragile.
Take care, dear and know that your sister-in-law is in a better place.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Sorry to hear about your lose.
and ya know she is out of pain now and in a better place.
I do beleive this.
I think if you can fly or drive how far is it. Maybe son can drive ya or you can fly and some one pick you up at air port.
I think you said he had a walker and airlines let elderly in wheel chairs on first also they have the wheel chairs at the airport he would just hav eto use his walkr every where else.
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister in law. You and your husband, have my deepest condolences.
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@busibee (187)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I am very sorry for your loss. It is very hard to lose someone, especially if they are sick for a while. It is better she is no longer suffering as no one deserves that, but it is still hard to say goodbye. I wish you and your family the best. XOXO
@Jamestimer (50)
• China
13 Feb 09
I am so sorry to hear this bad new. But you and your family should not loss happy.
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