He Should Have Called!
By jsitko
@jsitko (1169)
United States
February 13, 2009 6:51am CST
First of all let me say that I love my husband very much. We have been married 5 1/2 years and are very happy. There are still things that drive me crazy though, I am sure he feels the same way.
The other night I started cooking dinner at the usual time so it is ready about 30 minutes after he gets home. He was running late so I slowed down the cooking as much as I could. A half hour rolls by and he is not home yet, an hour goes by, now I am worried and I turn off the oven and burners. I call him on his cell and he doesn't answer. Now I a really getting worried. I call about 5 minutes later and he answers in this happy voice like usual. I was a little mad, ok may more than a little. I asked where he was and he said almost home, I asked what happened, why so late. He said he had to make a stop at the realtor's office (we are looking to buy a house). I said, Oh didn't know you were going to do that, why didn't you call and why didn't you answer your cell. He got a little irratated at my questions and then I explained that I was worried. There were traffic issues on the news and I was not sure if he got mixed up in that or if something else happened. He understood and about 45 minutes later he was home, not too sure why he said he was almost home...
When he came home, he washed up and we ate an over done dinner that just did not taste too good.
Why didn't he call??? He didn't think he was going to be that late.
Why didn't you call when you realized you were going to be that late??? Never got an answer because I never asked this question.
Thanks for reading this and thanks for letting me vent!
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4 responses
@Komalkamboj (60)
• India
13 Feb 09
i know what i means to vent it out. have a girl talk . So many times we wives don't ask questions , that will lead to a argument or worse a fight . But we girls are more thoughtful than men . Men really can not multi task. so if they are stuck in traffic, they are stuck and irritated, they will not remember calling us thinking we will be worried . In fact they will except as to keep quite when they vent out their frustration over traffic situation
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@jsitko (1169)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Hey Komalkamboj, You are right, most men can not multi-task, especially when they are irritated and frustrated. It is like it consumes all their feelings at that moment and they can not think of anything else. I have seen my husband get into that zone before and I try to calm him down and get him in a better mood. Thanks for your response and have a great day.
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@jsitko (1169)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I agree sometimes I have to be quiet so I do not start argument or say the wrong thing that could trigger a bad mood. Then the have the guts to say that we are moody. Some days I think men want to get married just to have a woman take care of him, when it should be the both taking care of each other. I blame the Moms of the boys that baby them too much and do not give them chores to do around the house or help cook, laundry etc.. My husband helps around the house but there are things he did not know how to do because his Mom never taught him.
@Komalkamboj (60)
• India
16 Feb 09
ya even me.... , we wives try so much to keep our husbands in mood good , we think of talking at the right time . Sometimes i wonder we girls bare up little too much , we are little too extra caring and considerate . They say anything they wish & will without thinking once it will hurt us or something .
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Well if he said that he went to a Realtor's office, at that night? anyway if he is sincere of telling to you that he is sorry he was late i may have understood better.
It is not easy for us wives to wait and think what has happened to our husband.
It is really important to call and to send even just an sms to know where they are and why are they going to be late. Sometimes, i do realize that before my husband is like this, doesn't know how to call. But since i cried that to him and talked about it, he learned his lesson.
And every time before he goes back home, he will call me, telling me he is on his way. He wasn't late to go home ever since. it is a matter of communication too since it is vital to a relationship.
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Hey Strawberry, Thank you for your response. He was at the realtor's office as he gets out of work at 3:30 pm and the office is open until 8 pm. He said he got into a conversation with the finance manager about the house we put a bid on. (we did not get the house, a higher bid was made). He did say he was sorry for making me worry, so I am hoping that he will call me the next time he will be that late. This is not a habit of his and that is why I worried. Hopefully lesson is learned. Have a great day!
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
13 Feb 09
It would have been nice if he had called, especially since he knows what time dinner is going to be ready, but men are just unintentionally thoughtless sometimes. Perhaps in the future he will call you since he now knows how much you worry over him! Husbands--what can we do with them but love them for who they are? I wish you both a Happy Valentine's Day!
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Hi Jillbeth, I hope he has learned to call me when he is going to be this late. The roads he travels on to and from work can get a bit hairy and there are accidents and traffic jams most times. There are many nights when he will stop at the store to pick something up, but that usually only makes him 15-20 mins late. I never worry you much until it is more than 30 minutes.
Like you say is all we can do is love them and that I do. Thanks for your response and hope you have a great Valentines day too!
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@22angel22 (450)
• United States
13 Feb 09
This is just something that girls think about and guys dont. Even if you have a schedule and know exactly whats supposed to go on every day, they don't realize it. I've learned to not keep tabs on my hubby and he actually tells me more now and asks if its ok to stay late at work, or to work overtime on the weeken, or even to run to the store.
The worste is when he asks to pick up a certain friend who doesn't have a car. My only problem is when it takes him an hour to go get him and bring him home and then another hour to take him home and came back. Just a waste of gas to me.
haha.
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Hi 22Angel22, Thanks for your response. I try not to keep tabs on my hubbie, but I do worry a lot when he is real late. It is not his nature to be that late. I would get irritated too about picking up that friend. That is very time and gas consuming. Hopefully, hi friend is just as kind and gives him money for the gas he uses.
Thanks again and have a great day!
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