Do You Own Up To A Mistake?

@lynnemg (4536)
United States
February 15, 2009 6:57pm CST
If you make a mistake, big or little, do you admit it or try to get by with it? I am one who will admit my mistakes and shortcomings. For example, if I tell my kids to do something and find out later that they had previously been told not to do it, I will tell them that I made a mistake and should have checked before I told them to do it. I think that it is important to take responsibility for my own actions, no matter what the circumstances are. I believe that honesty is the best policy. What about you?
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I try to. I try to recognize my mistakes but we all make them. I am very big on taking on your own mess ups. No devil made you do it. No my mommy beat me so I beat my kids. No my daddy messed with me so I mess with my kids. No "but my friend does it all the time" None of that. I tell my kids they are their own person. They can't say someone else made them do it unless there was a weapon held some where. They can always talk to me if they get in a hard spot. It would be wrong of me to tell them this and then ignore that rule myself.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Very well said TL, we can not say one thing and do another. There are reasons why we may do some things but they're not excuses and we are still responsible for our own behavior. It seems to me, today there is a disorder or an illness for just about anything. One of my biggest problems with labeling our children is that some people use it as an excuse to absolve themselves or their children of responsibility. I could not agree with you more the devil did not make you do it nor did anyone else. If you did it own up to it. The what an excellent response I just had to add my 2¢ worth to it. Happy Mylotting!
@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
16 Feb 09
I would always be the first to put my hands up and admit a mistake that I have made. I think someone that can own up and say, "it was my fault" is a very good quality to have. I also find it a very good and noble character trait in other. So many times i have seen people make a mistake and then try to cover it up. It never works out and only causes more fuss in the long run.
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 09
This is something that I definitely do! I do consider myself to be honest at heart and if I have made an honest mistake then I will admit that I have done this. There may be a little embarrassment at first but this will soon disappear! I think also that you feel good about yourself when you can take responsibility for your own actions. Honesty will help you go from strength to strength! Andrew
@wardiane (18)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Mostly i do. When i was working,i was in a position where i could not pass the blame,so it was always my responsibility.When a mistake was made it was mine.But i was like this most of my life,if it went wrong,i said so.You must stand up for your mistakes,not blame someone else. If it is a shared mistake ,own up to your part but dont try to blame the other person.
@healer (1783)
• India
16 Feb 09
I am not a mom but i have friends and family and i cannot say that i always admit my mistakes to my friends as there were situations where i cannot take a mistake but it was rare. To my family or very close one i always admit my mistakes and make up one way way or the other. I believe in honesty is the best policy but i my past life i have made mistakes which i have not admitted it.
16 Feb 09
I wish I could say I own up to a mistake, but the fact is I don't. I will argue with someone just to prove I'm right even if I know I did the wrong thing.
• Nigeria
16 Feb 09
You are definitely right. There is something some folks do not know about mistakes and failures. some people are scared of failures and mistakes, but the truth is that, without failures and mistakes, we cannot be a better person. irrespective of the level of mistakes, it is wise we own up to it, by so doing, we shall learn something from it.
@xbrendax (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I will only own up to a mistake only if it is really my fault! Most mistakes I make happen because of others in the home doing dumb things first to mess me up in some way, for example: My mother put a bowl of milk down for the cats in a spot it shouldn't have been and I didn't see it and accidently kicked it across the floor and milk splashed all over the walls, and another time mom had just a couple of pairs of black slacks in the washer, she left them there for a couple of days and the light above the washer was burned out, so I didn't see them in there and put in my sheets, detergent and some bleach. After the wash was done, I was shocked to discover her two slacks all spotted and ruined because of the bleach, it was not my fault! Why didn't she take them out and why didn't she tell me the light was burned out so I could go buy light bulbs! See what I mean when I say others help cause my mistakes!
@Sreekala (32804)
• India
16 Feb 09
We all are doing mistakes. I think mistakes are common in human beings. But if you do the mistakes intentionally or knowingly it will make problems. Most probably people will admit their mistake and will ready to learn something from the same except when you do the mistake knowingly. If I do a mistake I will definitely agree the same and will do the possible corrections and in future definitely I will be more careful. Learning from our mistakes is the best thing we can do. I think honesty is related to the same and an honest person should be able to realize the mistake and admit it and will take care in future.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
16 Feb 09
I tried getting by the mistakes in the past , but my concience would not allow me too. I learnt that it is better to admit the mistakes and learn from them. The more we try to to get by with them, the more mistakes we tend to carry out.
@jazel_juan (15753)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
yes i do..i made it so i must admit it..there is no point in lying about it plus i must take responsibility for my action.
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
16 Feb 09
I do agree with you. In the first place, I would never commit something which qualifies as a "mistake", as I give a lot of thought to my actions. Still, if for some reason I commit a mistake, the first thing I would do after realizing it is to say "Sorry" to the concerned person. I do not have any problems in owing up to what I have done. I am an egoist but not arrogant.
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Yes, I do it all the time because I want my love ones to do it too. I don't like that others would blame me of things that I am not responsible of. So when I make mistakes, I recognize it and I apologize. It will also prevent fights when I keep blaming other people.
• United States
16 Feb 09
I admit them, and learn from them. File it away in my memory so when I'm tempted again, I'll remember!
@mrdos910 (456)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I usually try and admit my mistakes, a lot of times I kind of wait until I think the time is right. For example if wife is really mad at me, I usually do not admit until she has cooled down somewhat
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Yes, I do and I tend to be almost compulsively honest. Both these traits did not serve to advance my career very well where I used to work. I saw several people who never admitted to the mistakes they made and who lied about the progress of their projects and who had lied on their resumes and who would bs the boss get ahead fast while people like me did not.
• United States
16 Feb 09
Oh of course. It might mean swallowing the ego pride, but yes. I think it's important for children to witness this example in the home so they know how to address making an mistake. It doesn't mean we have to grovel for forgiveness, but simply admitting that we were wrong, we misunderstood, or the like is something that I think brings us further on our life journey.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Hi there Lynn, Well, you've managed to hit a very hot button topic with me personally. Honesty and integrity are two of the the absolute most important qualities to a friendship or relationship of any kind. So, if someone does something and they know that they've made a mistake or broken something I want them to own up to it and to tell the truth. Even if it's something small, like breaking a glass. I don't care that you broke the glass. The glass is not worth anything and they can be replaced but, just have that the respect and the decency to tell me that you broke it. The reason this is such a hot button topic for me is because I have personal attendant care daily. They assist me morning an evening with my personal needs. Twice in the last couple of weeks there have been mugs put back into my cupboard with the handle broken off and laying beside the mug! This makes me so angry and livid. The glass isn't worth anything I couldn't care less about it. It's the fact that you broke it and didn't have the decency to tell me so. Yup a really irritating pet peeve of mine. I'm with you honesty and integrity are always the best policy. In fact even if it's something I consider to be morally wrong you're probably gonna be further ahead by coming clean and telling me straight up rather than having me find out through some other means. That's my not so humble opinion and my 2¢ worth, until next time happy Mylotting!
• United States
16 Feb 09
i can honsetly say that when im wrong im wrong and if i made a mistake in somekind of way ill own up to, i wasnt always like that when i was younger i'd fight you on me being wrong lol even if i knew i was wrong i would not even try to admit it. but im too old for that now lol, i say i apologize never sorry and go about my business.
@dodo19 (40113)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Feb 09
One thing that my paternal grandfather used to say to my dad, who then told me, was that "If you make a mistake, and you learn from your mistake, then it's no longer a mistake." What he meant was that, when you make a mistake, you learn from it and you try not to let it happen again. You move on from those mistakes, in a way. It's certainly something I try to live by. If I make a mistake, I'll admit that I made a mistake, and learn from it. I certainly try to not let past mistakes happen again, while still trying to move on from them. I hope this makes sense to you all.