you propose, she says no

South Africa
February 18, 2009 2:27am CST
What do you do as man, when you propose and your lady says NO. Do you move on to find someone else or do you stay with her until she finally thinks she is ready?.
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@owlwings (43480)
• Cambridge, England
18 Feb 09
I think it would depend entirely on how she says 'no'. Most ladies are well aware that you are going to propose (in fact, they usually engineer it so that you do). If your proposal was out of the blue, then you need to think again about what a relationship really means to you. If you got a flat 'no' without any hint of a 'but ...', then it's probably time to move on because she is probably looking for an excuse to end the relationship but wants it to be your decision. If she's at all interested in continuing the relationship, then she will let you know. Relationships, especially ones which get as far as a proposal, are two way (or should be). By the time you make a proposal, you should already have both discussed marriage and what it means for both of you. In other words, by the time you propose, you should already know that the answer will be 'yes'. If you aren't fairly certain, then don't go that way till you are!
• South Africa
18 Feb 09
I have asked some men this question, This is the best answer I have gotten so far. Thanks
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
If she says no, you would probably think what is the reason why she said no. That's the same question i want to ask you, did she say to you the reason why she don't want to marry you yet? We ladies would of course state our reason why. I mean would you think someone would just say No... and that's it, no reason why? If it is a low flat key tone Nooo, well i think your girl does not like to continue the relationship anymore. If this is the case, you better not hope for that and yet continue to move on with your life. I think there is someone really for you to have. If your girl is not yet ready, then ask her again when is she ready.
• United States
18 Feb 09
that depends on if she says 'no' or 'not yet'
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
there are two proposals that we normally make, is it for her to be your girlfriend or a marriage proposal, you tell me. If it is just to be your girlfriend then you better move on , but if it is a marriage proposal then you can stay. Because the girl might not be ready yet not necessarily she dont like you since she accepted you as a boyfriend in the first place. My only point of view, happy posting.
@nathanye (196)
• China
18 Feb 09
For my point, if i am facing this NO. I would not think like you whether to find another one or stay for her ready. The very first thing I am going to do is to think about myself. Why did me get NO from my lover? Am I not so trustable? Am I not mature enough?... I think what we should do is to think about the reason, but no to escape.