Affection

@lampar (7591)
United States
February 18, 2009 11:05am CST
Hi! friend, what is your opinion of couple showing intimate affection toward each others in public? Is it acceptable in your culture or religion?
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• Netherlands
21 Feb 09
I don't see anything wrong with a couple showing feelings of love in public as long as it is within reason and tasteful. I always hold hands when walking with my spouse and we also kiss within reason in public also. I don't see anything wrong with a short kiss on the cheek, lips etc. but if you are talking about heavy petting, groping, tongues down each others throats for a half an hour etc. then I don't think "public" is the right place to do those types of things...take it home or to a motel. As long as people have respect for those around them and do not think it is a "peep" show...or more, then it's OK with me. After all, when you are in public there are a lot of people that this might and should offend such as very religious people or little children that have no business watching your "business"! ;)
• Netherlands
22 Feb 09
Thank you very much for the nice compliment and the best response I truly do appreciate it. It's nice that you agree also! I think that when we live in a World with so many different types of people, cultures, religions etc. then it would behoove us to try to reach some happy medium ground when we are in public that almost every one can live with & accept, saves so many hurt and angry feelings towards others and after all, we do all have to live and share the same space so getting along only makes life easier and more enjoyable! Hope you have a great Sunday! ;)
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I can tell you are a new member to mylot, thinking since your comment is such a moderate one and sound reasonable, just want to give you some encouragement for well written comment, also will help you to reach star quickly. Yes, so many different people,various cultures and religions and customs, we all are supposed to be a happy family of human race with intelligent minds able to solve, tolerate, communicate, understand and live peacefully from constantly learning from each others. It is always a good sign when i know that there is one extra person out there has moderate view and not resort to extreme personal belief or understanding in judgmental of others.
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• Netherlands
26 Feb 09
Thank you for your compliment and encouragement I really appreciate it. I wish I had compliments like that when I had my other myLot account where I had hundreds of posts and never once did I receive such encouragement...I'm sure that if I had that encouragement when I was new here a long time ago it would have encouraged me to post even more than I did in the beginning, I hope you give other newbies nice compliments so they can be encouraged also! ;) I just personally think that if we are all going to live in a one World and deal with each other day in and day out then it would be a much nicer World if everyone had moderate views when outside of their homes instead of trying to force their extreme personal beliefs on others only to anger them and cause more riffs between people than already exists! I don't see anything wrong with a person having their own beliefs but I also think that if you Know you are going to anger people then you should keep your views to yourself when in public and voice your views as much as you wish when in your own home or in the company of people that think the same as you do. ;)
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@se7enthbird (8325)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
yes it is acceptable but of course with certain limitations. what is not acceptable is showing intimate affection in public specially when you are just a minor. i hate to see students (high-school) specially when they are in uniforms and you see like they are insepreable. thats were teen-age pregnancy comes in. if you start to be too close at an early age then that is danger. i am more happier to see middle aged couples or more aged ones to see holding hands and still showing their love for each other. i have a friend and her aunt and uncle still hold hands while walking, still talk together and laugh together. i want to grow old that way with my wife. i want to stay sweet and loving even we are all gray already
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• Philippines
19 Feb 09
har har har buddy of course i know that. i mean when they start this kissing kissing you know where will the lead to. i have a three year old son and when he turns in his teen years i just hope that he will be a reserve peson like me.... . i just wish that he finish his studies first for there are a lot of girls.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Ok!, My friend./ I understand your point now...but looking at that 'cute' avatar, i can not guarantee you that he is not going to get many 'affection' from girls later on, so you better keep an eye on him regularly....hahaha..... Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
i dont just have to keep an eye i need to keep both eyes on him har har har. thanks he is really a charmer. i know a lot of girls will fall for him i still hope and pray that he will grow to be a responsible person. i will always makes sure that i am watching....
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• United States
10 Mar 09
Gay or straight , I think it is beautiful. i love to see couples holding hands and kissing.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Yes, me too! Better than seeing fighting or a shouting match. LOL!!! Thank for your response.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
22 Feb 09
If they are married couples and their activities dont go beyond the red line, I have no problem-I mean, you just dont have to show affection to your wife or hubby in the bed room, comeon, let the world know you feel good!
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
22 Feb 09
If married couple show it in the house, the world including you and me do not get to see , so nobody know they feel good about each others, i guess that is the main reason married couple had PDA. For unmarried couple, probably they are so emotional attach to each others that sometimes very hard to control those feeling from acting out in public instead of doing it for show. Do you agree with my analysis? Thank for sharing your thought, happy mylotting!
@ank_47 (1962)
• India
18 Feb 09
effection should be true ,but not like acting effection. if there is more intimation between them ,then there will be effection between them . so there is more effection between them, they will be in a good manner. if their effection is liking acting, then they will do more action when they are in public . much effection,kissing,hugging is not acceptable in our country and religion , when we are in public because when we are in public we should behave in decent mood .there should be no kissings, more huggings. all will see us in a confusion stage .
@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Thank for your comment. I am not sure whether it is acting or not when they displayed affection in public, i usually consider it is genuine act between couple in love. I do not know why you consider it as indecent, but you are entitled to your opinion. I understand some countries consider public display of affection is a big crime and is against their religions and cultures, PDA will confuse many of them especially government officials, this immoral act will bring catastrophic disaster to the country. lol! Cheer! Happy mylotting!
@rmuxagirl (7559)
• United States
18 Feb 09
There are times when my boyfriend and I show our affection in public. We hold hands, sometimes he has his hand in my back pocket or his arm around me. When we part we give each other a kiss. If we are in a restaurant or something he kisses my forehead which makes me feel special.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Yes, he is so romantic , i am very happy for you, my friend. In western culture, public kissing and holding hands between couple are common, but not so in few cultures and religions, they are considered as ill manner or lewd acts; and sometimes can earn the couple jail time or public canning in some countries since they are considered as illegal. It is really mind boggling. Thank for your comments and happy mylotting!
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Ahemmm, if it is here in India, i don't think so. Maybe holding hands and sitting together or slight cuddles but kissing in public, i don't think so my friend. We must also respect other people, so if kissing in public would bring disgrace to them , then don't and mind your manners. If you are just in your home, then do it, nobody is going to react. But if you show that in public, specially here, no , that is not a good idea.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Thank for your comment, friend. I agree some couple may think it is a disgraced to kiss his partner or lover in public, then they should not do it. But for me, it is OK if they do it in public, i do not consider it as no manner or disrespect since i can walk away if i do not like what i see. I have no idea how Indian will react to them since i am not from there. Cheer! Happy mylotting!
@satyakam (1112)
• India
18 Feb 09
Well i'll talk about my country that is India in india every type of people living ,with many culture and tradition and thinking ,here couples enjoy holding hands ,sitting intimately in public place but very rare couple go for open kissing in public,though it is allowed by the law but here couple themselves feel shame of doing .
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Yes, India has many types of different people and cultures, so many are quite open minded nowadays. it is good to know India's law allow public kissing, it is so cool! I know many countries considered it as illegal even though it is just kissing, couple should not feel ashamed of doing so when the urge arise. lol! Thank you for your comment! friend.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
18 Feb 09
How intimate are we talking here? In general, I don't mind it. Kissing and holding hands and stuff doesn't bother me at all. If it's like... broad daylight and in a really public place, I don't want to see an extended make-out session with roaming hands, but even that wouldn't bother me at a club or bar or some such, at night, where there wouldn't be little kid eyes watching. American culture seems to vary widely in opinions on that sort of thing, which might have a lot to do with religious beliefs and specific upbringings. My personal religion really says nothing on the matter one way or the other.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Thank for your comment. I mean general type of intimacy like kissing and cuddling between two persons in love. American public are usually more tolerant and accepting toward public display of affection than other cultures i think.
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I believe there's a time and place for everything - and it depends on each individual's upbringing to understand what one should do and where. Different cultures, traditions and religions have their own values and restrictions which I think should be respected. Affection is a natural feeling one has towards another -even towards your pets - and if exercised according to acceptable norms, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. However, if one breaks barriers that forbid excessive showing of affection in public, I think that's going too far. For example, some people think dancing is a "vertical expression of horizontal desires" !!!!! But its only for the particular individual to understrand how far is too far.
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