When is a friend a real friend?

@mrsl2008 (634)
February 20, 2009 3:31pm CST
How do you determine who is a "real Friend"? Is it the ones you see all the time, or is it the one/s who you may not speak to or see that often but if you called them in the middle of the night with a problem, they would help you anyway they could? After a little issue with a friend I considered a really good close, I have been wondering!! Have you any feelings or experiences about who is a real friend?
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I consider true friends the ones who are there for you.SOmeone I can tell my problems to and they listen.Someone that doesnt discriminate,treats you like family,visit if not able to call,text,email to say hello checking on me.Someone who is my friend thru the good and bad.Someone that is not two faced and just keep it real and honest
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@mrsl2008 (634)
20 Feb 09
Disvachic, thanks for your response. As with some of the other response, you make sense and I totally agree. It sounds like there are some great people on here with good views and morales. Thanks x
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
20 Feb 09
you're welcome
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@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
20 Feb 09
A real good friend should always stood by you whether you are sick or poor. They won't consider to reap benefit from you by just making friendship with you. They are just your friends, and ask for nothing.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
20 Feb 09
Clorissa123, this is how I am with my friends. I'm just there when they need me but have found of late that some will take everything from you without a simple thank you. Hence the question in the first place. I will gladly give anything to anyone (within reason!!) with no expectation to have it back but a thank you will always make me feel like it was worth it. Thanks for your response x
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
How can you exactly know if a friend is a real friend? Can we say that a friend is genuine when she's not around whenever you need her? Let's admit, we have a lot of friends - from casual friends, acquaintances, best friends, close friends, or true friends. But we must know that a real friend should be there whenever you feel down. Real friends make us brave when we are afraid , make us strong when are are weak, but most of all, they teach us to hold on when tears keep on falling. If you have a friend who is nowhere to find whenever you need her, maybe it's time to think twice and ask your self "Is My Friend A Real Friend?"--- When a friend stands beside you, and lifts your spirits to the sky, you know that they deserve the name friend. I agree with this. Friend is someone who always beside us when we need them.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
hi there friend.. well, for me, a real friend is someone there for me always..eventhough, on my happiest moment and painful moment of my life.. you can have a real friend that makes you laugh, someone who can cry on, who will respects my decisions in life, who can give advices, a sister to me, who will make me scolded when i go on a wrong decision, who can keep a secrets.. it makes me happy to have a real freind in my life.. nice discussion..
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I dont think you HAVE to talk to them everyday, I think a real friend is one you could go without speaking to for a while, and pick right back up where you were. I think you respect each others space and privacy, you can completely trust them, they will always be there for you, they respect your relationships with others, and they always support you even if they dont agree with you. That is my opinion of a real friend, If you find one of those let me know...lol Cause they are truly hard to find.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
20 Feb 09
I totally agree with the space & privacy, Staceyv81. And your right they are very hard to find. thanks for your response it makes alot of sense x
• Chile
21 Feb 09
I know that, a real friend is the one as you say, that you dont need to see too often, but you can always count with him. As example, my very best friend lives kilometers away, so we dont met for months or even years, but when we see again, its like I´ve seen him yesterday, nothing changes, its amazing. And I can count with him of course.
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
21 Feb 09
When you are in your most joyful moment and you have friend near you to enjoy this moment, count that person a real friend-and when indeed, you are in your darkest moment, when everybody else is running away from, a real friend will run towards you-that is how you tell a real friend-he is not with you for just a season, he is there in the thick and thin of your life's daily battles!
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• Philippines
21 Feb 09
A real doesn't always be around us everyday or something of that sort. A real friend for me is the one that would never turn his back to you when everyone else does. I mean, he's there to the rescue whenever you have problem and would never leave you in times of trouble and ready to sacrifice for the betterment of yourself and would never betray a friendship. I've had several experiences with users, you know, those who calls you a friend but only when they needed you and that's so hurtful. So now, I'm very keen on people. I value those who I know is worth valuing and be friends to those who worth it.
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@18101989 (700)
• India
21 Feb 09
well it is a really difficult to find out which of your friend is your real friend because you have so many friends but it is difficult to find which one is real friend. Only some important time is there when you can feel the friend is true or not. When he/she helps you in your bad time. When he/she cares for you. When he/she tries to help you when you are going wrong. When he/she do not let you go to wrong path. When he/she do not always say yes and have courage of saying no whenever it is wrong. There are some other ways by which you can find whether your friend is true or not.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Feb 09
i consider a real friend if i am comfortable to be with them. I can count on anytime. Even we didn't meet everytime but they always talk to me on the phone or any other means of communication. Real friends will help you if you have problems. I have a lot of real friends. They are like my brothers and sisters.
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• Romania
21 Feb 09
A real friend is the one who does not betray u when u are in need.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 09
A real friend is someone who is willing to stand by you may it be in laughter and pain. It doesn't matter when you see each other often or not but you know that at anytime when you needed them they are willi8ng to lend a hand without second thoughts. I have several friends that I consider as my real friends. For at anytime I can call on them and I know that they will never fail me. It feels good knowing that someone will be there for me and I would do the same for them.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 09
A real and trusted friend for me helps you in times of need and in times you have problems. I have this friend that is there for me who i can talk to with my problems. I have been with other friends to share my problems with them but they cannot help me. It happened when i was telling a friend i need some money to borrow because my visa has been approved and my money will come at the end of the month. And i have to pay my visa, plane ticket and such. I've been to a lot of friends about it and i also went to a dearest cousin whom i am close with like a sister but she was the worst of all the people i had to go to, she wanted me to pay her in dollars, i said i have no means of paying you in dollars since i don't have a dollar account. And she wanted to have a lot of interest for me to pay so i said, sorry i can't i am desperately in need that is why i came to ask you if you can, although i know she had money. I went to this office mate friend, my colleague for many years, i told her my problem , in no time she gave me and i was able to pay her back at the end of the month. So i said even your own relatives can't help you, there is really a friend who can help you in times of need, and that is really a true friend.
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@ibanag22 (35)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
you can be a true friend by comforting your friend in times of being alone... you will only know if she's a true friend if she can give time to your special occasions... she can also accept other people who are part of your life... she would always listen to you problems..when you trust each other.. and in times of being in need you two can help each other...
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@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
Real Friends? Those people who will be there for you no matter what happens..a real friend is someone who will be there to make you smile when you're feeling down, etc.. I have few friends whom i consider "real".. i hate "friends with benefits" type because they are just around when they need something from you (money, etc) yay!!!
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• India
21 Feb 09
In my opinion friends who really give us hand in times of our distress and who really help us in times of our pain or when we are confused and when we know where to go can be termed as a real friend. Even after a fight one who doesnt go away and still knows about you and your nature calmly comes to you and consoles you is a real friend. But one who gives you a word and cant stand by it or atleast try to stand by it is not at all a friend. i always pray god to give me truthworthy friends.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
20 Feb 09
A real friend puts up with your bad and good habits! A real friend also respects you,will do things for you,be there when you need them and be someone you can talk to about just about anything! I almost forgot! A real friend will understand you! When this all comes together you'll be that person's real friend,too!
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@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
20 Feb 09
Everyone is different in how they determine who there friends are and why. I know that personally I determine a friend by how well they treat me. Are they always there for you? Do they support you through lifes lessons? Do they tell you that you are a good friend? Do they share their inner thoughts and feelings with you? Do they ask you for advice? Those are all the things that I look for in a good friend and I try my hardest to let my friends know that they are appreciated and that I enjoy having them there to enrich my life.
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
21 Feb 09
a real friend should be there for you all the time, be there for you in time's of sadness and happiness. someone you can always count into. a real friend doesnt change no matter what. friend who always give you courage in time's of down time of your life, always there to comfort you in a way they can. a real friend is a friend you can trust with. someone who wont disappoint you on purpose. a real friend is a true friend. happy mylotting.
@bharken (89)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
Friends are everywhere. You meet people, he is your friend. But only few are true. I can say that out of 100 only 10 are true nowadays. It is not how many trials you've passed through, not how many tears and smiles you've shared but it is how your friendship last long until the end. My sister have a best friend for almost 7 years and right this 2009 their long lasting friendship is gone. All the things they've shared were wasted. So don't trust your best friend 100%. Leave aside at least 10% trust because anything in this world changes. Nothing is constant in this world except change. ^__^
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