If you felt unfulfilled in a relationship.....

Maybe i'd hang on for a while and see if i can still work it out with my partner.. but good thing, i'm very much contented with my present relationship.. i really love my hubby and same thing goes with him.. we care about each other(a lot) we accept each other's differences, etc..

Hi ronnyb, This is a very interesting discussion. There are a lot of factors affecting the relationship of 2 people. There are also a lot of things enveloping the idea of being "unfulfilled" within adult relationship. These are some of the things I have just observed that might have little or big effects on feeling unfulfilled: 1.If one is expecting an in depth relationship which the other one was not able to fulfill. 2. If one is not satisfied sexually, or intimately. 3. How the two were brought up, their family backgrounds might seem to be a tiny thing only but it really has a big impact on feeling unfulfilled sometimes. 4. Promises made by the other half that was not fulfilled and the future of that being fulfilled is already dark and gloomy. I have encountered some of the points above. Based on personal experience, I tried to talk to my husband before the issue goes out of hand. Usually, we meet halfway. I tried had and still trying not to think so much of these differences as it may aggravate the scenarios. I can say that I can hang on and will still continue to hang on for as long as I feel that there is still love and respect on his part left for me.

It all depends. If I were married, I would just stay but I wouldn't look to my husband to be happy antmore. I would just find a hobby or a lover.But if I felt unfulfilled in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I would voice my feelings right away. If my boyfriend doesn't hear me, I would leave that very instant.This relationship should be based on mutual love and respect. If I can't feel it , then it is over,

In times in the past, I would hang on. I have held on in my marriage also. If I had it to do all over again, I would move on faster without marrying until the right one came along.

I think finding out what is wrong with the other person in the relationship before you do to much maybe they have a problem they cannot talk about,maybe once they talk and bear their soul you will probably find the problems go away.If however they do not have any problem and they are unhappy maybe it is time to move on,depends on how long you have been with this person and what they mean to you,it is a hard one.xx

Hi ron. From personal experience I think it's because one of the two persons involved no longer whats to be in that relationship but doesn't have the courage to end it, so they start to "neglect and ignore" as you say, the other partner in the hope that he/she will get the message and end the relationship for them. If you're the one doing the ignoring/neglecting, it's better to tell the other partner outright that the relationship is no longer working for you. If you're the one being neglected, sit your partner down and have a serious talk about whether he/she is still committed to the relationship or not. Hope my comment helps.

In such a situation I will prefer to hang on for sometime and let the things become normal, but don't know how long may be till I have the patience in me or the things getting worse not looking to solve the problem than it will be better to break the relationship for the sake of all

Hi ronnyb! There was a time before in my married life that I was ignored and taken for granted. I had in my own way told and showed my husband how sad and hurt I was. He felt that I was just over reacting and I guess, I was sometimes. He was very busy at that time but he still shows up each meal that I prepare and cook. However, it is not enough at that time that he comes home to share a meal with me because he will surely be running to work immediately. And there were some instances that after work, he will be with his colleagues hanging out until dawn and will be off to work very early in the morning. There were still a lot of things that had frustrated me with his way. Then there were fights because he just can't get it and I just don't get it too. I hanged on to the relationship knowing that we love each other very much and I just have to be supportive of his work and just to be patient. Well, after his project that time, he completely changed and he was not that stressed out and always in a hurry. I guess, I believe in him and the love we have for each other. I am happy and contented with our relationship even it is imperfect. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

I have been with my husband since sep 2001. If I say everything was great 100% all the time I will be lying and everyone will know it. We have a rule with my husband that we talk things over as soon as we notice something wrong. We try to cool down before we talk because we realised that we dont achive anything if we talk while angry. So to your question no I wont live. I will do anything in my power to change what its causing the problem it takes a lot of give and take and compromise on both sides but its worth it in my case.

I guess it all falls to how much you love the person you're in relationship with? I mean there's always going to be up's and down's in one's life and of course in one's relationship. It's not a 100% smooth sail heck it might even be lower than 50% chance of having a smooth relationship but what makes it tolerable is the love you have for your partner, that's where one start and talk about the things need to be talking and change the things needed changing. Without love then one's got nothing to hang on to thus everything the couple will do will inevitably fail.

i might have hung on longer a long time ago but i would be gone in a new york minute now. i use to think i had to have somone but after 2 failed marriages & a few failed relationships i found out there was alot of things worse than being by yourself. i've grown to like my company pretty good. lol

When I was much younger I would leave. The first sign that things weren't perfect I would walk. I learned the hard way that all relationships are not perfect and after the initial phase you will more than likely encounter issues. I remember something good old Dr Phil said about relationship problems, he said you should not walk away or turn to a third person until you have done all that you can do and have left no stone unturned and there is no hope of resolution. After you have done all in your power then walk away with the knowledge that you did the best you could with what you had. Those words resonated with me because up until then I had not much luck in love. I would stay and do all I can to sort things out now but there are some things that are deal breakers such as abuse, addiction and cheating in some of those cases I would suggest my partner seek help and come and see me when he is better. Communication is so important and such a difficult issue for a lot of couples especially as it seems so hard for males to communicate effectively, I guess couple counselling is a good idea if the woman can drag him there! The only thing you can do is let the other person know what the problems are and talk about them, suggest therapy and after that there is not much you can do if your partner is not willing to listen or talk.

I did just that. It went well for a lot of years. Then started going downhill. I felt neglected and unappreciated. It was like all I was good for was cleaning and cooking and doing slave labor. I never got thanked, smiled at, or helped. It was all up to me to keep the family in clean clothes and dishes. I was miserable. It was like he never heard what I was saying. He'd be really sorry after our talk, but nothing would change. I hung on. Because I knew he was a good man. He has integrity, decency, compassion and so on. It made me feel worse, that he could treat others so well and listen to them, but not me. But I stayed. I did not want to be like the rest of my family (who I've managed to avoid for the last 30 years). After about 5 years of this, he started coming out of it. Now he thanks me, appreciates what I do again, treats me like a queen. I think he was just going through a bad patch, like I was, and we couldn't reach through the barrier for awhile. I'm glad I hung on. He is well worth it. He's a prince in all the right ways. (Not talking about money!)

hi there.... my answer might be a little longer.... first i have questions for you, you can reflect the answer onto yourself alone if you want...1. are you married? 2. if not, do you have kids? 3.if you are just a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, do you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with him and with that kind of treatment?first, if you are married, dear you don't have any choice but to cling to it, try your very best to work things out and most especially pray for it. you see, i married early and realized married life isn't a perfect life. i kept on praying and read books on how to have a nice relationship with your spouse. i came to the point that i thought things are hopeless, i was the only one trying to work things out, i can't do this anymore sort of stuff. but you know what, i once read that you treat your spouse/partner the way you want him/her to treat you. simple, golden rule, do unto other what you want others do unto you, same principle to relationship. if you are married, there is no other way but to stay right where you are and make things work out for the best, especially if you have kids. May be all you need is a little nice and serious talk, like what i did to mine, actually, i didn't talk to him, i wrote him a letter, because i'm tired of talking and ususally i am forgetting important matters that need to be tackled, other than he was not a good listener or communicator, so i write a letter instead because he can surely read clearly. however you communicate with him/her make sure that you are laying all the facts not just your side of the story, all matters should be discussed (so i suggest you write it first so you may not forget on to things). mine, i even tackled important dates for me that he forgotten, his friends, his treatment to me, and ending up the letter like saying to him how much i love him and still believing that we can work things out. wow, so long...... second, if you are not married and has kids, may be you should get marry first but do the communication process before hand so that both of you may voice out what you guys are expecting with each other. but if you do not have kids, obvious dear, leave it.....nothing to loose, all to gain, you deserve so much better than that, forget all those happy memories because its no use compare to sad ones. third, if you are just boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, might as well leave him/her as soon as possible because staying there is not worth it. lastly, if you are married, whatever happens stay there, God's gonna bless people who keeps on doing what is right even if it hurts..... God bless