do you say hurtful things while fighting?

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
February 27, 2009 4:36pm CST
i think that we have all done this at one time or the other and some of us still do this at times, and i know that i have done it before and i really regretted it before when i would say something that i didn't really mean just beacuse i was upset with my other and my other has done the same thing with me, and now i try and not do that and i just walk away when i see a fight coming and that usually helps, but i was just wondering about all of you, do you say hurtful things while fighting? i would like to thank you in advance for taking the time out of your day to come by and read my discussion and try and help me with my discussion, thanks and have a safe and happy weekend, happy mylotting!
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18 responses
@neha2k94u (408)
• India
28 Feb 09
Not very hurtful things, but if I am very angry with somebody then I used to recall all the past mistakes made by that person, I make him feel very bad for wat he did to me... Y shud I let go somebody who hurt me... Isn't it...
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• Philippines
2 Mar 09
I am guilty of this. When my boyfriend and I argue we say things out to let things out, especially some hurtful ones. I think it's better rather than to keep them bottled up for a long time. After the fight, if you know each other really well, you will realize what you both said out of anger, and which ones are true and meant to be said.
• United States
2 Mar 09
I have the nasty habit of purposly hurting someone when I'm fighting with them. Particularly my husband. I will just be so hurt (always over something stupid) and I just have to hurt him back. I feel so bad and now I try not to do that. See, it was my husband who pointed that out for me. lol.
@genterx (110)
• Mexico
28 Feb 09
I dont fight usually with people and if they have done something to me , I tell them what they have done and then let them try and figure out what they did. If the person does not accept his mistakes I stop ta;lking to them all together.
• United States
28 Feb 09
when i very mad i am a very mean and unpleasent person. i argue woth my sister, and we say very hurtful things to eachother.
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Yeah, I did said some hurtful things when I fight with my girlfriend. Out of strong emotions I said hurtful things to her. But I never hurt her physically. After wards I regretted it. I really didn't mean all of the things that I said.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
as much as possible i don't..because i know for a fact that whatever's the reason of our fights i know that we can fix it and i don't want to regret it afterwards. happy mylotting!
• China
28 Feb 09
Yes, I have done that. When I tangle with my husband, we always say something that hurt each other. After that, we regretted to having said such words.Now, when I am angry with something, I just tried to do something else and consider it when I am in a calm condition.
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Sometimes i do say hurtful things especially if im mad at someone. i just want to get even. i know its wrong but if you're too emotional. sometimes we say things that we later regret.
@uicbear (1902)
• United States
28 Feb 09
When I was younger, when i would get angry with someone, I would walk away and give myself time to cool off, just so that i wouldn't say anything that I would regret. I didn't want to say things just to hurt them, especially since the things I'd say probably wouldn't have anything to do with why i was angry. This was great if the person I was angry with would leave me alone. but, if they badgered me about why I was upset, I'd get even more angry and explode. As I have gotten older I have become much better at expressing what I am feeling. I take a deep breath and try to focus on why I am angry and tel the person what the deal is and try to work it out. if I start to get frustrated, i will still walk away, but usually it doesn't come to that.
@Archie0 (4974)
28 Feb 09
Actually i do. i am not good at my words when i am angry actually i dont get angry soon but if i get i just take out the persons old things and every weakness sometimes, but recently i tried to stop it, i feel bad too but at that time i am unaware as what i am doing i have done this to one of my friends i remember once we were fighting on normal issue which began to fire up when he started irritating me a lot. that time i really spoke very bad to him actully he is not working and keeps grumbling and i showed him over that he really felt bad about it and i too later on i apologised to him but he said back to me that he couldnt believe i said such words to him
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
28 Feb 09
I have said a lot of hurtful things when I lose my temper in an argument and those are the things that I never meant. But most of the times I just hurl back insults at a person who is trying to hurt or insult me. I happen to cool down and put it all behind real quick and also I have no ego that stops me from saying Sorry. The other person also would understand that in the heat of the moment sometimes one does lose control over oneself. Have a nice day!
• United States
28 Feb 09
I used to say really messed up things but now i try to bite my tongue and walk away. I usually ended up feeling really bad about what i said anyway.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Well I try not too, it's not avoiding it I just don't wanna hurt her. I just take a walk first, and give us space for a while to think. I think when you say something hurtful, you can't return the words that you said, you can't even eat it back. When things are mellowed down that is the right time to settle everything, small issue or big issue, and both of us can think well. When you start an argument it sometimes starts a heated discussion and I don't like it, it wont just solve the problems to make a solution and to work out things right. Have a nice day to you!
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
28 Feb 09
Hi, Yes. Plenty....inside & few murmur... =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• Australia
27 Feb 09
I always try my very best to keep pure emotionally-fueld attacks under control if I ever get into an argument. I try and only argue about the point at hand and not let it bleed over into anything else. My biggest problem is that quite often I'll bottle emotions up about smaller frustrations, so when I eventually get into a big argument over any issue, I may throw in other random issues which have upset me too. So the single argument turns into many... which is a really bad thing to let happen. :(
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I have said a lot of hurtful things when I fought but at that moment, I think I always mean it.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Normally what i say when someone makes me mad is something like "You hurt me" Or "I hate you" when really i dont. I can be such a baby when I'm angry. But I love to make the other person feel gulty. Because its NEVER my fault lol. I dont ever call anyone names . It does no good for anyone. The guilt thin works though :):)