Fundraisers!

@JenInTN (27545)
United States
February 27, 2009 11:08pm CST
I have done so many fundraisers that I really dread it when they come around. If you involve your children in extra curriculars it's really just a matter of time before you start peddeling strange products around to anyone who will buy..lol..My recent has been girlscout cookies. It's not so strange and most people like them but the selling of them makes me feel bad in these economic times. I can not tell you the things I have bought because I knew mine would be having a fundraiser and it's kind of an unsaid rule. Do you feel obligated to buy..and or sell? How do you feel when someone approaches you to buy something for their children? Are you ok with it because it's a good cause?
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Well, because I'm on Disability and my budget is very tight I usually don't feel bad or obligated to buy anything. If it's chocolate I almost always will buy it though! LOL! What's the name of that really great cookie that Girl Scouts sell? Is it that chocolate mint kind? You know which one I'm talking about. I think it's most everyone's favorite as well. LOL! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Thin mints..lol..I've sold a bunch of those! lol..Another popular one is the Samoa..chocolate with coconut on it. I sold 54 boxes of that one. Thin mints weren't far behind..the people that ordered the ones you like ordered about 4 boxes a piece..lol..they are a favorite. Thanks for the response.
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• United States
1 Mar 09
Yea, those are the ones I'm talking about! The Samoan chocolates with coconut! They are soooooo good! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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• United States
28 Feb 09
JenInTN with kids you are so right, however it also teaches them to be responsible to a point as well like counting the money collected, how to deal and speak with people, presentation skills,how to set goals cause they want to win that prize. If I feel its good cause and the individual is sincere and i'm able I help. I do remember what it was like being a brownie and a girlscout alot of work, then my duaghter was a girlscout as well for awhile. Ya know what as they get older thoe the fundraisers become more cause their is football, basketball, dance, debate the what what club you name it. I am also good at saying NO when need to.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
You bring up a good point. It is good for their presentation skills and teaches them to work toward a goal. Money counting is a very important point too. Thanks for the response and take care.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I hate school fundraisers. I do buy something from my son's fundraisers that he brings home, but do not go out harassing family to buy things they really do not want. I would rather give the school some money.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Me too lilybug! I'd gladly donate to keep from doing them. I just hate to see the children be left out of the parties and etc. I have kept mine out of school because of this before.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
1 Mar 09
I didn't face any situations such that in my life yet. I buy things when I need it and I sell only good things which is not of my use. In my school also, the teachers used to arrange such things when there were a flood or some kind of problems occur in our country but we were not suppose to sell anything but donate something to that fund, that was it.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Mar 09
They do arrange things like that too. There is also the fundraisers that support certain clubs. I would much rather donate than sell stuff but that's just kind of "part of it". I don't care for it though. Thanks for responding.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
3 Mar 09
A little confuses! Why do you prefer selling that donating. I mean even if you sell these things at cheap price, the person has to spend money to have it, while in donation, he doesn't not!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Hi sanuanu..you misunderstood me..I would like to donate instead of sell. I don't like to ask people to buy things they may not need. I understand times are tough for people and it makes me feel like I'm begging. I wish I could donate instead. They don't give us that option though and our kids are left out of trips or parties if we do not sell. I would rather donate.
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@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Most generally we help our son sell his fundraising things, and usually buy. But this year we didn't becasue of the way it was handled. The school sent home a badly handled letter. Stating all children MUST sell 10 items, and there was not to be any door to door selling, and if caught, your items would not count. Then the letter finally stated, the reason they must sell the 10 times. It was to be able to attend the end of the year party. My first response was, oh heck no. How rude is that. There are many people that can't afford to help out with fundraisers and I surely wouldn't go begging for it, or having to explain to some friends and family why we had to sell this knowing they didn't have the money and they buy anyways, and the could be their only gas money, or grocery money. I wouldn't feel right. And, no door to door, Ok I understand that children shouldn't go alone to do this, but why can't us parents walk with our children to the homes of neighbors to sell this stuff? My neighbor has 5 kids, all in the same school, that's 50 items she's to sell for all of her kids to be able to attend a lousy party. She's a single mother, who doesn't have a car to be able to drive these kids around to friends and family to sell this stuff, she was so hurt over this because her kids always look forward to this party because it's one of the biggest events they get to attend threw out the year. It's just unfair. She didn't sell and had to explain to her kids why they couldn't go to the end of the year party this year. My son, as well won't be attending because we will take him out of school that day. Anyways, I sorta got off subject some, lol.... We always try to help out the kids that approach us, inless it's just a bad time. I like seeing new products these fundraisers have to offer.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I get mad when the school adds a party for the ones that sell x amount of items. Mega party is what they call it here. It's not fair for those with more children or little family to help. I always buy from the children but I think the school is wrong for making the less fortunate feel even more so. It's funny how aware we can be of our "status" at such a young age. Thanks for the response.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I would have gladly helped as we have in the past years but they upset me with there digraceful letter. It is not fair what so ever to parents that can't make ends meet but want to give their children the best they can. I felt bad for the children who live down the road, because I know they struggle to fit in because of their finacial situation. Kids know when and where they fit in, and it makes it sad when some of the parents of the fortunate kids, make it known that they can buy their kids things. I wish you best of luck selling the girl scout cookies. Do they still give badges for that?
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Yes they do and we've sold alot of them but not as much as some. She'll get her badges. I have always tried to sell for my girls but on the occasions I would have 4 and 5 a year...I hated it. My oldest was in cheerleading and to be honest her things would not have been paid for if ti weren't for the fundraising. I just hate when it comes to that..especially when given a party for the ones who sell the limit. I once kept mine out of school because of this too and we had a great day. Better than any old Mega party.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
28 Feb 09
i use to buy anything the kids were selling but i don't have the kids come here like they did at the store.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I'm on the way jo! lol..I actually did fairly well with the cookies thos year. I thought it would be harder with the economy but I sold over a hundred boxes. Sometimes I just hate asking because I feel like I'm putting them out.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
28 Feb 09
bring them on!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
Most of the time I will just buy for the sake of charity. But if the funds are being raised for the school itself, I will have to know what is the cause. If the cause is worthy IMHO, then I will buy. Otherwise, no, I will not part with my money. I remember the times when MY mom will dread me bringing a donation card home. So instead of going house to house with me to hunt and solicit for donations, she will dig her pocket and give me a sum to donate and then cross out the whole card and sign it so that I do not need to do it. And I am grateful for that!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I would rather give up a little money too but sometimes I feel obligated. Schools and such will offer rewards to the ones that raise a certain amount of money and it's usually a fun day reward during school. The ones that don't participate have to stay in a classroom while the other kids get a free day. It's sad that they use that type of sales plan to raise money. It really makes the child not involved feel left out. Thanks for the response.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
For me, I rather stay in the classroom and do my own stuff. No need to be strong armed into something you are not willing to do in the first place.
@dpk262006 (56708)
• Delhi, India
28 Feb 09
I really feel disgusted and bad when someone approaches me to buy a product, which I may not need or I may already be having the same product in my home. I feel that ours is hard earned money and we should not be forced to buy a product for the sake of it, till we are convinced and comfortable about it.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Thanks for the response dpk! I love your honesty. I also feel badly about approaching people for fundraisers because I often don't have the extra money or just feel obligated when they approach me. It is definately a pressure tactic among us. Thanks again and take care.
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@dpk262006 (56708)
• Delhi, India
28 Feb 09
Jen! Many thanks for your kind and warm words about me, yes I believe in honesty and honestly express my views. I feel uncomfortable and ill at ease when such kind of pressure tactics are applied. Take Care!
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
1 Mar 09
It can be good and depends on what is on offer of course. The fact is though that we do live in a small town and so there is a limited "market" for things like this unfortunately. The schools would have Fetes once a year and maybe a street stall where they would sell things that people had made, i.e. cakes, biscuits, jams etc. It was the same for the Senior Citizens, Retirement Village and Nursing Home plus sometimes they would have raffles as well. My partner was always on a very tight budget and that continued even after we became a couple. It was often nearly impossible to refuse to contribte something towards the fundraisers and more so as it would be for a worthwhile purpose. The one advantage we did have was that my partner is from a large family (10 children) and all but her have left the town. However several of them have their own businesses and they all come back once or twice a year, mostly to see their mother or their in-laws if they married someone local. Most of them would leave money with my partner for her to buy something for them at these fundraisers, as they know how few people there are here who can support these worthwhile ventures. These days we mostly donate goods when there is any sort of fundraiser on and that is always well received. Also most of the things we produce are in demand so the money raised is generally well above average for those things.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Sounds like a funraising festival. I don't mind those at all. They are a lot of fun. Thanks for responding and it's nice to hear from you.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
28 Feb 09
Look I'm not mean spirited and I'll be the first to donate for a worthy cause but I confess I hate being approached to buy chocolates and other useless items for fundraising. I also hate raffle tickets and like you, I have bought the lot myself because I hate approaching people and ask for money. At my daughter's school they started a new option for parents at the beginning of each school year, accept to be involved in fund raisers or donate a set amount to the school at the beginning of term one. I wonder which option I chose? (LOL) Having said all that I don't slam the door to girl scouts if they come to the door, it's not their fault I hate fundraisers.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Hi Paula! I think it's especially tough for the kids because most of the time there is a party or trip involved that they won't get to go to if they don't sell a certain amount.Of course they want to go. I don't like fundraisers either but it seems like there's always one coming up or somebody else having one. I wish we had the option to just donate some money at the first of the year. Thanks for the response.
@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I hear ya. When my sister was younger she sold a LOT of cookies, and then the German club sold gummy bears (that was before they became a big deal in the states.) She always felt she needed to support other people's fund raisers. I, on the other hand, after dropping outta Scouts in 8th grade, never joined clubs and still got things to support friends who had to.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I wasn't really into a lot of things when I was younger and never really dealt with fundraisers before my girls. I would rather take a beating sometimes as to have to ask people to buy stuff. That's why I buy things from everybody else. I know they will buy from me. LOL
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Unfortunately, a necessary evil. We would not have to do it if Nasa held bake sales and schools received all the money that they needed, instead, huh?
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I agree..NASA can visit the moon..surely they can bake a few pans of brownies..lol. I do understand the need.