Do you ever feel like people are waiting for you to make a mistake?

My grandfather is one of those people that always seems to be looking and waiting for people to make mistakes. Mistakes to him aren't mistakes, they're terrible, terrible things that people should never, ever engage in because it makes you a terrible person, even though he's guilty of them himself. He's much easier on himself when he makes a mistake than he is on someone else if they make a mistake.

I've never felt like people were "waiting" for me to make a mistake, but I've definitely felt like certain people couldnt WAIT to poing out my mistakes! Even if it wasn't necessarily a mistake, but just did something differently from how THEY would have done it. I hate that.

oh yea. i had some friends that turned on me,and after awhile,every action was weighed and measured for "hidden meaning".any excuse to cuss at me. i swear if i farted on the wrong pitch,they thought that meant something. you know how they say "those looking for fault will always find it".

My father was like that. It was like he was purposely setting you up to fail. Not too much with me, but with my brothers. Even my son sometimes. One example my brother used to describe it once was my father giving him very vague directions on where to go get something and then got mad at him and yelled at him when he could not find it. My dad's friend was there at the time and he followed my dad's instructions to my brother and he said he would not have been able to find it from those directions either.

all the time, and thats because they are. People want you to fail, so they can say "I told you so, I knew you werent good enough" they like to feel superior and they can only do this by making others feel inferior. I feel for you for the way your mother treated you. Mine was exactly the same. Like you said, its an easy target, they need an easy target as they are not capable of handling anyone that might fight back.

Um, I feel similar to you, but no one ever hit me or yelled at me for "messing up". I only got that if I did something wrong on purpose. However, I felt realitves (aunts, uncles, cousins, ect!) and others (ex freinds, classmates, and even some teachers) wait for, or have to set me up to, fail just so they can talk about me or brag about how they did well and I failed. Those people, I had to cut out of my life.

Man can I relate to this type of feeling, and it is an eerie one for sure. It makes you sometimes want to always be able to prove to everyone that you are not a failure and can make it as well. Where I work there are times I feel like there are people wishing that I would screw up and make a mistake just so they could be rid of me, but usually it happens the other way around, and they are the ones let go instead. It can be a hard thing to get thru, but thru Prayer, Patience and knowing God is in control I seem to always get thru it as well.

I would imagine, being a Mum, that she was more annoyed that you were goofing up because she felt she was failing in your upbringing, and perhaps wanted better for you. I used to think I always got the blame for stuff in my family, because I am the eldest, but now I'm older, I know that my parents were only doing it for my own good in trying to teach me how to succeed in life. Brightest Blessings.

Hello my dear beauty queen friend. It is just opposite to me. As a teacher, I wait for my students to make a mistake if I know that it happens to be one that is easily made by any one of them. This way I can manage to help and tell them the right answer, whose mistake can be used as a typical example. I love to help settle common and typical mistakes that my students make in their study. Of course, it would be great that none of them would ever make mistakes. Thank you so much for the discussion and I am so happy to read your new discussion again here at mylot. Good luck with you and take care, dear friend.

Are we sisters? sounds like we had the same mom! My mom DID set me up all the time. For example....I had a 10:00 curfew. If I was so much as a minute late...I got grounded. It was impossible to be on time anyway unless I showed up at least 40 mins. early. She had all the clocks set ahead at different times and I had to be on time according to whatever clock she was looking at when I walked in. Needless to say I spent much time in my room as well as countless hours listening to her yell. I once timed her yelling at me without once responding to her. After a while I started giggling. She stopped yelling to ask me what was so funny. I said, "Do you realize that you have just yelled at me non-stop for one hour and 6 mins. and 32 seconds?" (something like that). After another 20 mins yelling I got sent to my room for a long time. it was great.

OMG! I think you and I must be related! You have just described my mother down to the last detail! It's quite amazing because a lot of people do not believe how my mother can be and I am often thankful I have a sister who up until now I thought was the only one who understands what I'm talking about! I have encountered people like that so often in my life. I married someone who took over where my mother left off. It's as though for a long time I was not aware that there is a different way of relating that doesn't entail criticism and put downs, let's not forget verbal abuse! I have a father who is arrogant and judgemental as well so my poor sister and I copped it from both sides! It has caused us to be perfectionists and we demand too much from ourselves sometimes. I do agree that some people should not be allowed to have children.

I do not have such feelings. I guess most people are caring about their own business. They either keep silent not to add burden on you, and anticipating your own realization. Kinder people would help you to find out what is wrong, which does not always bring about positive acceptance on the spot. Only people close to you will point out your mistakes out of reaction, and even get loose bad words to annoy you. These are usually your parents, but ill trained in parenting skills. They feel disappointed, because they cherish high expectations. You should understand them in the first place, very hard to do so, though. With modern parenting education, they would have an accommodating heart, and be friends with you. Let you get calm down and figure out remedy. Anyway, keep happy and healthy physically and mentally, that is what they want to see.

I think there will always be people who would wait for us to mess up. it's a bit unnerving but then again most of the time these are just people who are envious of us. they want us to mess up so they can rub it in our faces and proclaim to the whole world that we're not as perfect as everybody thinks we are. regarding your mom, I'm sure it's a different case. you're right. maybe she was just letting off steam. it's not right but it does happen. just try to take it in stride. =)

thats what i feel during my first class. i was thinking that my teacher keeps an eye to me so that she can actually caught any mistakes that i will make. (hehehe child act)

i feel that way almost everyday at my workplace.my boss is the most horrible person i have ever known.he's what we call in the philippines as "plastic"...when he's infront of you,he's like an angel but don't ever turn your back coz he'll surely surely stab you with he's double edged sword...the hell with him.

that is the way the management is where I work. They wait for you to mess up...you can walk on water for 39 hurs and 59 minutes a week and they don't notice...but one little mistake and there they go. They write you up and it goes to personnel. I usually bring my lunch to work, one day I did not have it and we stopped to get something. I got written up and reprimanded for not asking permission. The person I was with does it all of the time, she got written up too.

OH beauty sweetheart that is so sad! I wish I could give you a huge hug and make you feel better. I am very lucky I guess in that I have had a supportive group of family and friends around me. I sometimes feel as though I am never off of my eldests back but I do hope he doesn't feel the way you did. I know he doesn't really as we do talk a lot when he isn't in a bad mood! lol Huge hugs honey and I know that you don't mess up - you are a fantastic person! xxx

I feel some people who are unkind to me wait for me to make a mistake and laugh at me. It's annoying. After that, I will be away from these people.

Call me paranoid but I deal with this all the time at work. There's always eyes and they just watching and waiting. People have tried to get me fired from work before so it's really nothing new.

well apart from my family memebers yes i have always seen people are really waiting for me to make some or the other mistakes so that they get a fair chance to laugh on me and fool around about me. today no one after all wants each other to be successfull in life its just there is too much jealosuy around you. i have found myself loosing many times in my life infact more than expected and have also see people feeling happy about me loosing in my work, it makes me feel bad actually that our fellow memebers have got so much bitterness filled in them these days about us :(