How to become a better partner?

India
March 3, 2009 8:10am CST
There's no rocket science to being a better partner. Everyone in this world desires to be significant, appreciated and respected - that's all. If you can make your partner feel all those three elements, you will be the best partner in the world. It is when we neglect the person because we are already married or settled with them, when we take them for granted because we believe we don't have to woo them anymore, or when we are too busy and neglect their needs that we lose them eventually. Try to follow this three steps:- First step- Show your partner value and appreciation. Second step- Pay respect and trust your partner implicitly. Third step- Give proper attention and care whenever you can. What you guys feel about it? Suggestions and responses are welcome from your side.
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12 responses
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
3 Mar 09
hi, great...all correct! step 4:-Listen actively & Trust. step5:-Give More & expect Less. step6:-Say 'I Love You' everyday in different modes. Goal looks to be Near? =Lahiri,Kolkata,india.
• India
4 Mar 09
hey thanks for adding good and effective steps
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
What you say is right. You need to care for your spouse and make sure that you listen to them and have trust and respect for each other. It is also important to develop a good communication between your spouse. The more you know your partner the better. You should be helping each other much and not competing with each other. And when you have petty quarrels of fights, don't get pride get in the way, this is a big stumbling block in a relationship. Improve yourself more by taking consideration of what your spouse is suggesting you. Listen to him and he will also listen to you. Give and take my friend is essential. You should also surprise your beloved by giving him or her the things she do like or doing things he or she would appreciate you.
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
hi there, woundedeagle13.. thank you for this very simple yet profound post, i really appreciate it. i also suggest for people who want to be better partners or messengers of love, to go grab a copy of Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages." it's a very simple yet very helpful book that helped me understand more about speaking the language of love. happy myLotting!
• India
3 Mar 09
hi dreamleaper, definitely i will try to grab a copy of your suggested book. I highly appreciate your support thanks.
@dik_an (475)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 09
Hii, i love your suggestion :D. For me, yes I will feel He is love me while He give me attention by phone me, chat, give me spirit, and so on. I also believe in him, in his love. You know, married couple in distance should believe each other and keep our promise, I believe that our marriage not only an egagement between two of us but also our family and our Lord. Sometimes, He sings for me, I do not know how I feel his love, it is soo complicated. I think, I also try my best to be his parner. For me, it is impossible to know everything about someone. I want to learn him, what's he likes and dislikes, what's his hobby, how to make him happy, how to be a good wife for him. I will learn about him in my life, as his partner. It is enjoyful for me to learn about him, the men who love me and I love him hehe. I feel grateful to be his wife. Happy mylotting!
@benny128 (3615)
3 Mar 09
just be yourself, your partner become your partner for one reason she/he liked you for being you. You have to always show respect but doing things you wouldnt normally do wont make you a better partner. Tho being true to yourself and not being someone you arent will make you a better partner as thats who you are.
• India
3 Mar 09
Yes i completely agree with you. There's no point acting differently and not being what you are.
• India
4 Mar 09
Hi , thanks for your suggestionsand u r avsolutely right.In my opinion if we are a good human being we are aotomatically a good partner ,dont you think so?
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
I think this is where the golden rule applies. Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you. Respect is the highest of them all, because if you respect someone, you don't do anything to hurt that someone. If you respect someone, you listen to them and be concerned of their well-being, that's why you get to be sweet. Get to know the person, know his/her hot button. Different strokes for different folks. Give yourselves some time to adjust. Remember, there's no perfect formula to love and you can't change someone overnight, perhaps never.
• United States
4 Mar 09
Sometimes it's really hard to be a better partner when you are not a feeling well. But in myself, I always try to be a better wife to my husband even sometimes I reach the point that was irritated in things but i was realized and be cool. When you loved someone you can do anything to make a relationship better with respect, trust and understanding.
@suzzy3 (8342)
4 Mar 09
Sometimes it just happens,but it is up to the neglected partner to point this out.Have a quiet word you don't have to argue or do anything unpleasant.Both partners in a relationship need to feel loved and wanted,otherwise you are on a lost cause.you wake up one morning and it is all over,they have left or gone off with someone else and you have no idea why.You hear plenty of stories about someone left and not knowing whats gone wrong,the other one had enough,and some poor soul did not even realise there was a problem,so communicate with one another.It is not just up to the woman or the man it is up to both of them {or civil partnerships}before the rot sets in.sometimes it just happens one of them has found someone else and no matter how hard they try it is over.xx
• China
4 Mar 09
haha,good suggetions ,i will according your meanings to put into practice,i belive it will effective at the very sight
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
agree on this one. you can always find a person who can be your friend, your companion but its very hard to find a person who can be your partner [like one who will respect, love, trust and take care of you all at the same time]. thus, you really need to take care of that person if ever you already met him/her. i agree on the 3 steps as well... since for married couples and those who are not but have a stable relationship for years now, trust and respect is the main thing to consider. i already have a 6yrs married life... love will come 2nd to trust and respect, for if you have trust and respect love will always be there. if you don't respect your partner you might end up llosing the trust and love of the person...
• India
4 Mar 09
Best way to become a perfect partner is 1. If you are female....just spend less money of your husband for shopping. and 2. if you are male..... just do as your wife says..... Kidding.......