Girls: Do you kiss on the first date?

@agrim94 (3805)
India
March 10, 2009 10:52pm CST
-Okay, my friend went on a date and at the end he told the girl he wanted to kiss her and she said she doesn't kiss on the first date... -he is used to girls kissing him the day he meet them ( i m not so lucky) or at least after a date so this threw him way off...! -It sort of gives the message that she aint not interested but she said that wasn't the case and had a great time... *Is this normal? How many of you girls do not kiss on the first date?
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17 responses
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
28 Mar 09
I don't kiss on the first date either, unless I would have known the person longer (for example if you get friends first and then start dating). I see no point in giving away everything fast; boys may think you will agree to other things fast too if you kiss on the first date. Off course, you wouldn't want to date such a guy but you most of the time don't know that in advance. Once you know someone well enough or when you feel this person is worth your trust you can take things to the next level.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
30 Mar 09
You are very welcome, have a nice day.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
Thx for the response cyberfluf. i understand what ur trying to say and no one would want that she should be taken as easy girl and kissing should not happen unless you are very comfortable and quite attracted to the person you are going to kiss.
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@cptlo1 (93)
• United States
12 Mar 09
lol man im a dude and the girls i been with gave me a kiss before going out with them. 1 girl i didnt even go out with her we just talked like friends and she tried to kill me giving me a tounge kiss lmao. I would be mad if i didnt get kiss on first date i will feel she is not that attracted to me.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
Wow ur lucky man... how about passing on little bit of your luck to me so that i might also get my first kiss. I wish i had your luck or what ever makes girls kiss you like this.
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• Philippines
12 Mar 09
i dont go on kissing someone on the first date. because for me, kissing is a very special way of saying that you are attached to this guy and it is very intimate. kissing someone you haven't come to know yet on a first date is like you can kiss everyone you're just acquainted with.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
I understand your point and yes to kiss someone you have to be quite comfortable and attracted with the person and i dont think these thing can come in first date.
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• Philippines
12 Mar 09
I don't. I mean its too hasty. Brain first before libido. hahahaha I don't want to be tagged as the girl who guys can easily get. My guy friends tell me that when a girl lets them kiss her on the first date, it gives them the impression that she's easy to get. It's 1,2,3. If they get to kiss her on the 1st date, who knows what she will be willing to do the next time they go out?
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
Yes you are right most guys who get kisses on first date would tell to everyone hey this girl kiss on first one and she is easy meal and next date she would be in my bed ...most boys but not all.. There are several guys and girls out here who kissed on first date and are still going on strong even after 10 years and are married with kids too now..so i guess depends lot on person you are kissing.
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@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
11 Mar 09
When I was younger and in highschool and college, I didn't kiss on the first date. Though, when I met my husband at 19, I kissed him on the first date, not sure why, just felt right and we are still going strong 10 years later.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
Thats wonderful that your relationship has lasted so long and still going strong..i wish you all well in your family life.
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• United States
12 Mar 09
I don't have any rules about what to do on a first date. If the date is going well and I am attracted to someone, and I feel like kissing them, I will, if I am not feeling any attraction, I won't. I don't see the point in refusing to kiss someone just because it's a first date. I've kissed people I was not dating, I guess a kiss isn't that big of a deal to me. :D
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
I think it depends upon girl to girl and society to society. In some societies girls dont kiss till they are married and in some societies it is ok to kiss but i think it should be individual choice when and whom to kiss. If you feel comfortable kissing someone then if it is first or 20th date shouldn't matter,
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• United States
11 Mar 09
i kiss on the first date if not before lol but i have known some people that actually waited till their WEDDING day to have their first kiss so its not totally a definite that she doesnt like him.. i would take into consideration what type personality she is and if she is usually different and kisses other people on their first dates or if she has been this way to everyone.. i dont see the big deal but some people are really picky about it
• United States
11 Mar 09
jeeze am i the only one that has replied that has no issues with it?!?! lol
• United States
25 Mar 09
thanks for the br
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
Well u dont have to thank me for the BR.. ur response deserved it and it should be me who should thank you for responding to so many of discussions started by me . I do like to read your responses.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
11 Mar 09
i never ever kiss when i had my first date.i even shy to look at him and i have colds hand and dont know what to say
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
11 Mar 09
i have cold hands because i get nervous
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
how cold can ur hand be.. i guess if u have very cold hands it can be little problem when ur intimate
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
I guess I don't agree on kissing on the first date. Well, even if it's the second or third date. I am a reserved person, so when I was younger, I only kiss my boyfriend and it would just be a kiss on the cheek.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
:) thats nice to know.. Girls usually say they would wait till right time and i have never been able to understand whats right time. How do the girls it is right time?
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Actually, in my case, I never knew when the right time was, I just felt that I really did like my boyfriend at that time, so he was just able to kiss me on the cheek after 2 weeks I guess.
• United States
30 Mar 09
Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for a long time now long distance. So whenever he chose the time to kiss me it would be right. Though i don't know when he would kiss me or where or if he would ask or if he would just kiss me. It would be romantic when he would kiss me though
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@bubbletush (1332)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
I don't kiss on the first date, not even on the second or the third I am more of the conservative side and in our country, people are not expected to kiss unless they are already in a relationship. So unless he is already my boyfriend, he could not kiss me.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
thats nice .. but were u never pressured to kiss by any guy?
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
luckily never. I guess because most of the guys from the Philippines are also the shy type.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 09
I dont like kissing on first date.Man,you should know sometimes,girls do not like you rude to her by ask kiss.Just show her the love and one day she will accept your kiss when she find you are the best or good man.Thank you
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
so a man has to be the best guy in world to get a kiss.. too much work for a kiss dont u think so?
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
i dont kiss on first or second date.. hehehe :D i think a need a lot more to be at ease with my date. and kiss for me is a special gesture we use for special persons for us.. :D :D
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
thats right it has to be very special but i can never understand when kiss would be special and when kissing same person it wont be special
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
for me i kiss my special someone when words are not enough to express how happy i am being with him.. i love kissing him and saying i love you to him. every kiss with him is my special way of saying how much i love him and i miss him. :D
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I think it depends on a couple things. If she knew the guy for a little while before, I tend to think she wasn't feeling the chemistry. On the other hand if this is the first day they met, I don't see any harm. The true test will be if she goes out with him again.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
11 Mar 09
Well it is a matter of knowing the person well.Well unless and until you know a person and understand a person, how it is possible to take drastic action like kissing. As far as I am concerned then unless and until you become very friendly such intimacy should be avoided and it needs more than one meeting to do so.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
Ok i understand .. so when do u think i mean how much time do u feel it is ok before you kiss a guy?is it time or how close friends you have become before you think of kissing a guy?
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
16 Apr 09
It really depends on the guy. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. The more I like the guy, the less likely I will kiss him on the first date. Some things are worth waiting for.
@bezzamae (447)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
not really. i just wait for the right moment to do such act.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
11 Mar 09
so how do u decide it is right moment.