Are You in a healthy Realtionship?

@macel19 (202)
Philippines
March 12, 2009 11:17pm CST
Ir is so easy to say that the relationship you have with your wife or husband is going smoothly without flaws or cracks.But if it were really easy, then why do a lot of women seem baffled when their relationship comes to an end. I can say that I am in a healthy relationship maybe because we just started to build our own family, newly wed and mother to be. How about you are you in a healthy relationship ?
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21 responses
• China
13 Mar 09
Currently we are in a healthy realationship. However, many things can hurt it. Such as the economic crisis. If one of us get fired, it will be difficult for us to support the family. In this case, our relationship will change from good to bad. So if we want to keep a good relationship, we need to work hard. We need to do everything we can to secure the raltionship. Furthermore, people need to talk with each other frequently in order to keep a healthy relationship. Cheers.
@sanell (2114)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I think everyone thinks they are in a healthy relationship and wants to always be in there. My marriage was that way too. Now we have had a lot of roads and obstacles and hardships but this time around, at 12 years of marriage and two kids later, we have had a really really tough time with things. Tougher than I can even imagine, I am so tired and exhausted and I have had it. We are in marriage counseling now, I have a job, he does not, he is still angry with many things, all I have wanted is for him to be happy, he still is not, I think it will take a really long time for all this to change and who knows I may finally say "you know what? I have done all I can I feel like I have exhausted everything, it does not matter what I say or what i do I can not win, nothing is good enough maybe it is time I move on now" I am not sure where i am at right now. I know that I am unsure and that i need a break for now. I am not being granted this without it being thought that perhaps this means the end. It is so hard and saddening to me. I do not want this in a relationship, we are so co dependent it is obnoxoius. I do not know what his view is of a marriage, but it is not the same thing that I agreed to nor do I think he agreed to. He wants a happy family and so do I but not one that is in constant negativity. There is so much baggage and I am sick of it. Maybe I have changed, I am not different I am just taking a stand now, I am saying I want things to change for the better. we will see what happens and time will only tell but I am truly exhausted. I hope that we work things out in the end, but we have to go through this process.
13 Mar 09
Hey, Im 22, shes 19, we have 2 kids, were engaged. how much more healthy can you get? I think were moving into a new house soon aswell, i can't wait! Dan Alldred
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i think, as of the moment i am in a healthy relationship..my boyfriend and i have an open communication and a give and take process of relationship that's why arguments and fights are being avoided..we cherish everytime we're together considering the fact that we barely see each other since he is working and i am studying..well, all i can say is that a healthy relationship always depends on the individuals involve..^^
@yspring (272)
• China
13 Mar 09
i am just a student in china ,so what i can say about relationship is the relation with my mother father and freend and so forth! i have good mentality,i can do things right ,everyone around me will be nice to be a friend with me,and my family is proud of me too.i feel i have a good and healthy relationship!
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@bamrahkirti (1818)
• India
13 Mar 09
To make a relationship successful you have to adjust,adapt and compromise lot with a positive bent of mind.You should feel free to express your concerns and thoughts with your partner.I have been married for the past two yeas and with usual and unusual ups and downs in life,we are doing great with each other.We do face misunderstandings,troubles and tensions in our relationship but at the end of the day we solve everything and start the next day afresh.
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• China
13 Mar 09
of course when I choese her I know it will be
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@jaymeeliz (505)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Well, I guess I am in a healthy relationship. We both love and trust each other and I've nothing to ask for.
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@rioboots (37)
• United States
13 Mar 09
im happy with my relationship. he respects me, and i respect him. i think we will last a very long time.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
13 Mar 09
There is no easy relationship. Quarrels help make couples know about and understand each other better. It also strengthens and seals the relationship.
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@csrobins (1124)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Just because you ar newly weds and stuff doesn't mean you are in a healthy relationship. Don't get me wrong...I'm sure you are especially if you are happy you are in a good one and are counting your blessings. But people aren't just in good relationships because good things are happening. It is how it is responded to and how you take care of each other.
@dodo19 (38499)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Mar 09
I certainly think that I am in a healthy relationship. My fiance and I are honest with each other. We try not to keep things from each other. Yes, we do fight, but we always try to solve this argument, before going to bed and such. I can't say that our relationship has always been easy. We have seen our share of difficulties. But we work together, and we try to solve things together.
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@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I feel that my marriage is a healthy one. We respect each other, love each other, and work together as a team.Of course we have our bumps in the road, every relatioship does. My husband and I both believe that if two people never fight, one or both is lying. There are no two people in this world that get along each and every day and see eye-yo-eye on absolutely every issue. Relationships aren't always easy, they ake constant work, cimmitment, and compromise. It takes two to make it and only one to break it.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I might say I'm in a healthy relationship with my husband. Relationships can be one of the best — and most challenging — parts of your world. They can be full of fun, romance, excitement, intense feelings, and occasional heartache. I admit we get lot of struggles and I know not all relationships are always a bed of roses. The important thing is to learn from mistakes and start again then move forward into tomorrow. In our relationship we have mutual respect where he listens where I can be comfortable and vice versa. I'm now gaining trust that I know the key to a healthy relationship, its ok I get jealous sometimes but we talked about it and resolve the issues. We try to be honest and need to be. We support each other, during bad times and in good times. And the important thing is we have a good communications. I really thank God for having a such a good relationship with my husband, God put us together and we need to work things right.
@xlinzixx (511)
14 Mar 09
i would say im in a very healthy relationship as me and my partner are very good with communicating with each other. which is a good thing as i believe the key to a healthy relationship is communication. we still have the odd argument which is only natural as were never going to fully agree on everything. happy mylotting
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
14 Mar 09
My husband and I are in a healthy relationship now, though we've had our rough times, it's gotten a whole lot better in the last few years. We have a very open and honest relationship where nothing is held back. When one is upset about something it get's talked about, right then and there. I trust him, he trust me. We have seperate lives, as well as we have one together which makes things go smoother. We've been together for going on 10 years, and i feel the next 10 will be even better than the first 10.
• United States
14 Mar 09
i think i have a healthy relationship now.. back about 6 months ago i would ahve said no but now i ahve to say yes.. we both had to make some changes in ourselves for eachother and now thigns are great.
@rebelmel (1387)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Every relationship has it's ups and downs, and it's important to remember that it isn't easy to get along with someone 100% of the time. My boyfriend and I have been living together about six months, and we have had a few fights. It's important to remember that we love eachother and no matter what we are fighting about, it probably isn't as important as making sure the other person is happy. The last time we argued, I actually stated this, and we really haven't fought since. It's important to get to know a person, too. We all handle grumpiness and being angry in different ways, and we all get over it in different ways. It's important to learn where eachothers buttons are, and learn not to push them. In my opinion, no one can gauge your relationship but yourself. other people don't know everything about your relationship, so it's impossible to gauge how healthy it really is. Learning to be a listener rather than being angry has helped my relationship become much more healthy. We try our hardest not to walk away from arguments, and not to bottle things up.
@parvezjs (422)
• India
13 Mar 09
Yes! We are having a healthy relationship.We got married a year before and now we are expecting parents.Before when we were newly married we had many disputes,ups and downs in our relation.It took a long time for us to know each other well and to make our relationship healthy.But now our relationship has become a very strong bond that we cant live without each other.Other than job we dont go anywhere without each other and as we are soon going to be parents we are having a very good time with each other,making our future plans,plans for our child,searching names for our baby and many more things,so in short i can say that i am blessed with a healthy relationship with my wife.
@kiran8 (15325)
• Mangalore, India
13 Mar 09
Hi macel, I feel that the first few years of the marriage is the best and the healthiest because there are not many complications esp regarding outside factors and the children. Most problems in a a marriage arise when the children are growing up and start becoming individuals in their own right. At that stage all the old small minor problems which seemed unimportant seem to come back with tenfold impact...it depends on the partners how they are able to solve it..