Do you think myLot should inform us when we are.....

@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
March 13, 2009 3:46am CST
.....rated negative by someone? If we are informed, would you want to know who did? Will this stop "troll" activities? Would it only ignite or encourage disputes and misunderstandings? Do we have the right to be informed? Or is it better to stay this way? Besides, "ignorance is bliss."
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@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
I think sis, I should go for "ignorance is bliss" lol I don't want to have a misunderstanding with anyone who I might put a negative rating....Alhough I don't remember rating anyone negatively... hmmm... I don't think so. I put positive ratings on topics and responses automatically hahaha... I think it might be better to let it be unknown cuz I think myLot is trying to create at least a harmonic type of social networking and not get divided by bad or good rating *wink* I'm right or am I right? kidding tee hee... =P
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
I agree, being vengeful is part of human nature so I guess it's best to stay this way. I, definitely, would have freaked out crazy when I know that kissieme rated me negative! LOL
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Vengeance is not ours...it's Gods! *sounds of roaring thunder in the background. LOL
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
hahaha. that's what I'm afraid of... lol theresa going berserk over a rating, God forbid lol... peace... lol
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
13 Mar 09
I'm not sure that I want to know who rates me negative (or positive). It would be nice, though, to see a +/- total score against discussions and responses. This might be the actual number of 'votes' received or it could be a percentage of all the votes in a discussion. That would show which responses were rated the best. I think that to know who was rating one negative (or positive) would only lead to arguments, favouritism, cliquishness and those are all things that should not be encouraged here. We have our star, of course, which tells us our total rating as a percentage. Personally, I don't find it very useful. MyLot are adamant that they can and do detect 'hate' campaigns where a particular person (or persons) may systematically negative rate an individual.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yes, you got a point there. We'd rather really leave it this way. Thanks.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 09
I think the My Lot members feel happy about getting a best response but they are hardly likely to enjoy being told they have had ... number of negative responses from ....,..., and .... The My Lot member might try to retaliate and give the My Lot member a negative response even though their response was really good. I think that many disputes might happen and it even might make some My Lot members feel unhappy. It could lead to some members feeling they aren't valued by My Lot members so the could leave My Lot. In this case I do believe it is "ignorance is bliss".
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yes, same with me. At times, I think, I'd rather not know and move on with my life.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
Yes, you are right wordseller. I am convinced now about the purpose for mylot to withhold such info.
• India
14 Mar 09
Negativity in any form cannot be digested by us as humanbeings. It is better that myLot won't let us know all that bad stuff. By default, people expect positive things for all they do. Taking this as a cue, it is better to stress on the positiveness more rather than the negativity which promotes nothing but hatred against others.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
13 Mar 09
i thin that mylot is right and it shouldnt inform about the negative ratings got to our discussions. may be there are a few people who take advantage and do this silly task but i think we shouldnt be bothered about it as it is just the waste of time and in that time we can mylot and it is also a depression and we tend to think more about it and all these we let us down, so why not just do our work to mylot and write here in a fresh mood and do our earnings instead of wasting time and energy to find out who did that and all. and morever i dont think people have time to do all this and may be there a few persons but ignoring is just better for us and also them.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yes, I agree. We should just ignore those who take advantage of this feature. Thanks.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
13 Mar 09
HI I think mylot is doing its best way not to inform us about negative rating. Its good because if some one knows that the other is rating him/her negatively obviously they tend to mark negative the other one. SO I feel its not necessary to know for our good and also for the mylot. happy myloting.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yes, it is an expected reaction. Thanks.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
I think myLot should keep it the way it is right now. Although your idea is pretty tempting and kind of promotes transparency among members. You're right also that it would kind of create animosity among myLotters. Maybe myLot just want things to our doings to be judged and realized within our capacity to learn our mistakes or to at least make use of the tools of the trade. Meaning, whom you thought have wronged you, you yourself can give him/her the - regardless if your judgment is wrong or not.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
You're right. We should learn from our mistakes! But... what if you weren't aware that it was a mistake? LIke in my case, someone thinks I offended someone but to me I knew it was never my intention? Is it my fault if the other person took it wrongly?
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
It simply means you lack awareness.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
That's why you lack awareness because you really weren't aware!
@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Mar 09
I lie to be informed.We cannot be the targets of invisible enemies for no fault of ours.If we know at least we have the chance of reason it out with that guy.We will never cross the limit and make a ugly scene for the fear of being banned.So Mylot should inform us who is rating us negative.
@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Mar 09
Thanks for being so nice and understanding.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Mar 09
Thanks too for sharing your view. :-)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
I personally don't want that to happen because some people don't take defeat/negative ratings lightly it makes them unreasonable and vengeful. But I respect that is what you want.:-)
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I wouldn't want to know who rates me negative. I think it would stop members from being honest, really. If I earn a negative rating (and I have at times) then by all means, I'd want even my friends to rate me honestly. Trolls....i doubt anything would slow them down. Disclosing who is rating you negative could only cause hard feelings where there is no need, i think.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
I agree. Too much knowledge is just as dangerous. :-D
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
13 Mar 09
Yes i think it should be done.But on the other hand it will create fights and arguments here.People will be interested in fighting here than spending their time earning money.I think it is best to ignore the star and do the best we can.We will get earnings and one day we will reach the ten star.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
16 Mar 09
I too feel bad about it but since i know it doesn't affect earnings i am active over here.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Maybe I just felt bad that my star turned from ten to 9. And there's that inner desire to know the exact reason and not just speculate and assume as to what caused it to plunge down.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Mar 09
Well, that's good. :-) Good luck!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Mar 09
i would like to know when someone does this. guess it probably start alot of fights. they have to be azzzholes to go & around looking for something to report. i think that's all some of them. they just want to cause trouble but i don't understand why.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Mar 09
it's a shame people want to act so ugly.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
i think every site has troublemakers, attention-seekers, and plain azzzzzzholes, like you said. Too bad myLot's got some of them too.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Well, since it does affect our star rankings and stuff, well, I guess we have the right to know when someone gives us a negative rating, though the question as to whether myLot should tell us just exactly who gave us such rating is another matter altogether. In that respect, I'd have to agree with you that ignorance is bliss. However, it could really help if we'd be informed as to the posts which garnered us a negative rating so that we can avoid making such posts in the future.
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
I've been busy - as evidenced by me replying to this post 3 weeks after you actually post it - but it's good to be back.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Mar 09
Haha, well,,,,,welcome back!!!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yes, I'd get by not knowing who did it. But it might help if we will be informed about the ratings we got. Haven't seen you in a long while, BTW.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
13 Mar 09
I think it is perfectly all right if mylot does not inform us about the members who are rating us negatively.It will only add misunderstandings and revenges.I have felt the heat of negative rating and warning from noexpiry form with no fault of mine.I was hurt badly and altogether stopped visiting the site.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Site? Meaning mylot? Or was it another site?
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• India
14 Mar 09
from site i meant "noexpiry"which is also a social networking website.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
Oh, I see. I am not familiar with noexpiry that's why I had to ask. :-) Thanks.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
16 Mar 09
well it is good that mylot does not reveal the identity of the one who rates negetive.It helps to keep a healthy relation between people.Just ignore it and concentrate on how much more discussion you can participate in
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Mar 09
Yeah, agree. Forget you got rated negative, and move on with life! :-)
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I guess It should just be this way. Not knowing anything. So we won't be bothered and be paranoid about what we want to say. If you know youd be rated negative for one comment then it would hold you back in telling them what you really feel and you can't be yourself anymore.There was this one time I thought I saw my star rate was "9" already the red one? And then suddenly it became "8" again the yellow one. So I thought.. hmmm someone probably had rated me negative that is why I went back to "8"..
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
25 Feb 12
Wow you really dug up my 3 year-old discussion from the grave! That is true. It is best to just ignore it and let it be. As for me though, only when I feel that a post is extremely offensive do I hit the minus button, which rarely happens
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
14 Mar 09
Hey Theresaaiza! I think that mylot should keep a closer look at who does do negative ratings and reportings of abuse because there is alot of things going on here that is not being done for the right reasons. But, they would really need to take a look at their reporting systems and change it so that they would be able to know who exactly is reporting and what they are reporting. I think that mylot really needs to take a long hard look at their sytem because there has been alot of things going on here that they need to stop.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
I think that's exactly where the problem lies, myLot isn't looking very closely into it. They are waiting for us to write them, complain to them, shake them awake. But they ban us, delete our discussions without letting us know. I don't mind if they won't inform us about our negative ratings, but at least they should have the proper sense to inform us before deleting anything, or removing anything. Sometimes, I wonder, is there really a person in charge here? Or is it just a computer-generated admin that is reading codes or syntax. I don't know.
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
I think they should at least give you totals. If you suddenly see your negative votes shoot up you can alert myLot that someone is trolling you and they can do something about it right away. They should be aware by now there is a serious problem with trolls and allowing them anonymous voting they are encouraging the trolls.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
That's a good suggestion. I think that would help control the troll activities.
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
13 Mar 09
Hello friend, This is really a debatable topic. On one side, if you know who has rated you positive then people would start swapping it and start rating their friends. That would be wrong and should not be allowed. On the other side, there are these good for nothing people, who would rate any response or discussion negative just for the sake of it, without even reading it completely. I personally think that the present scenario is better, as even if someone rates you negative for a few discussions but you continue to participate honestly here, it will not affect you much. Thanks
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
hi to you too. Thanks for dropping by. Yeah, those two sides you mentioned are arguing inside me too. Although I do agree with you that mylot should inform us when we got negative but the person is kept anonymous. At least we could keep track of our mistakes.
@csrobins (1120)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I think in this case ignorance is bliss because everyone would just start getting revenge and stuff. I value my anonymity on here but I would still like to know how many are positive verses how many are negative on each thing I write.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
I hope mylot explains to us why they don't. I hope it is for the best of all of us.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
i'd go for the last one: "ignorance is bliss" because in my case, and i'm sure as with the case of many others, i only write what i feel is true. i'm only one. if people would not agree with what i wrote it is their right. if they choose to harbor ill feelings about what i wrote then it is their own doing for they can just always ignore what i put down. i'm only one. i'm not perfect. i have my flaws. i have my weaknesses. people who choose to seriously take offnese with what i wrote prove that they can get offended by only a single individual like me. as long as you're true to yourself in commenting on the discussion they started then mylot does not need to inform us if we're negatively rated. smile :) many people appreciate you for who you are.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
Yeah, I gave it some thought, being ignorant is somehow worth it. Thanks.
• Malaysia
13 Mar 09
Hi Theresaaiza, I am quite new here. What this about troll activities? I try to look for it in mylot FAQ but couldn't find what is troll activities. Anyway, I don't think it is fair for mylot to reveal members who rated you negative. It will only become a 'battle' between members and getting even with one another will become another issues here. I think "silence is Golden'
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Mar 09
HI baby honey, you are right about the "revealing" causing further conflicts so I guess it is better this way. Troll is just a slang word we use here for people who unreasonably rate you negative, or do anything against you just to decrease your rank, or whatever bad it is that happens to you eventually. They are mylotters too and are just as anonymous as you and me. We can be trolls to somebody else too but then we should choose not to because that's a very bad.