aggressive or assertive which do you prefer

@enciel (371)
Philippines
March 13, 2009 9:44am CST
I think there is a distinct difference between these two things being aggressive and assertive, which do you prefer and why?
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4 responses
• United States
13 Mar 09
Aggressiveness is only a good thing to be when you first meet someone. Assertiveness deserves far more respect in my eyes. Being aggressive, to me, only shows someone is: arrogant, dominant-seeking, narcissist.
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i guess that's a good way to put it. aggressiveness doesn't look that bad when placed in that concept of trying to meet someone for the 1st time.
• United States
13 Mar 09
As with everything, there are levels of aggressiveness. Meeting someone for the first time does have a little to do with whether or not someone is seen as a narcissist, but I generally prefer cool tempered people who aren't out to impress. Those are the most fun to get to know.
• Canada
13 Mar 09
I would much rather be assertive than aggressive but I'am typically much too passive.
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
i am kind of passive myself as well but i think even passive people can be assertive
@benny128 (3621)
13 Mar 09
i think ita a fine line between the 2, tho also depends on the type of aggression i suppose, i am an out going person and am assertive but that just comes from being confident in myself. tho i always try not to be too assertive and value other people as if too assertive that can come across as aggressive
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i guess they are somewhat related to each other then? i guess aggressive is when you become overly assertive? lol
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
13 Mar 09
Agressive is purely a violent term full of negativity. While asssertive is a term which is more associated with confidence. Assertiveness comes with right knowledge and aggressive is negative.
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i prefer assertiveness too but most leaders always say that you should be aggressive etc. i sometimes wish they knew what they are saying.