Half of teens polled blame Rihanna for being beat up!

United States
March 14, 2009 7:12pm CST
http://shrinkify.com/li9 half of the teens that took this survey thinks Rihanna is at fault for being beaten up by her boyfriend Chris Brown! how sad is it that those teens think at that age that its OK to have that happen!! i mean if they dont know by that age then they i would think are more than likely to get into an abusive relationship or stay in one.. so sad in this time and age that ignorance like this is rampid.. can you believe it? how do we educate people to know that its NOT ok??
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29 responses
• United States
15 Mar 09
ok first off i want to go on record saying i dont care what the excuse is short of self defense where there is an immediate threat to ones life DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A CRIME!!!!!!!! anyone who says she had it comming or she deserved it is either ignorant or just plain stupid. second, you ask how do we educate people that this kind of behavior is not acceptable? the answer to that is simple we hold the abusers accountable for their actions. wheather it be jail time community service or anger management training the message must be sent that we as a society will not tolerate this kind of behavior......and ladies please if youre the victim of abuse or domestic violence you DO have options speak up and speak out....hiding your abuse only sends the message that its ok for your man to beat you or otherwise abuse you...make a stand and end the abuse.....
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• United States
15 Mar 09
*Applauding* Thank you! Abuse of any kind is never acceptable, and anyone who thinks that it is will be in for a world of hurt. The minute that anyone hits a person, it is automatically abuse. If a man hits a woman, for any reason, that is abuse.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
I hope that they make an example of Chris Brown as well. Some people have dropped interviews, appearances, and concerts with him, so some people are making an example of him.
• United States
16 Mar 09
maybe the law will make an example out of chris brown.. i doubt it but maybe they will and it will help
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@rebelmel (1386)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I heard about this last night. I think that it is horrible. I think half of the teens are blaming her for this because she was looking in his cellphone. That does not make it okay to put your girlfriend in the hospital. She took him back too, which sends out a bad message.
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• United States
15 Mar 09
all that over her looking at his cell phone? thats messed up!! yep she is just making a bad example herself by taking him back.. im sure this drama wont be over soon since he will prob just do it again if he isnt locked up for this incident
@rebelmel (1386)
• United States
15 Mar 09
He apparently had a message from some other girl or something like that, and Rihanna saw it and asked about it and ended up getting beaten up. Invading someone elses privacy like that does suck, but no woman should be beaten up for being worried about her significant other.
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• United States
15 Mar 09
There are so many rumors going around about what happened. The predominant one that I heard was that Rhianna and Chris broke up, but their publicists or people around them wanted the 'appearance' of a relationship to continue, so they encouraged the duo to ride together. The argument began because whoever text messaged Chris was the reason the pair broke up in the first place. There is also the part of this story that argues that the split was one sided, and that Rhianna never wanted to split with Chris to begin with. NO matter what happened in that limo, what transpired afterward was a shame and a debacle.
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• United States
15 Mar 09
I am shocked at these girls. It is never okay for anyone to hit anyone, and no woman, no matter what, deserves to be treated that way. I want to know who these girls are, and ask them if any of them have ever been in an abusive relationship? Chris Brown had no right to hit Rihanna and it was not her fault for being abused. What I will blame Rihanna for is going back to him after he did this to her, she should have stayed away from him after he did this to her. It is her fault for staying with him. Rule 1 of abuse: Never stay with the abuser! The minute he hits you, that gives you the right to leave. Rule 2 of abuse: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Women, no matter what your status, profession, situation, or anything of that matter, no man has the right to hit you. This goes for women as well, women you do not strike a man unless it is in self-defense. If a man hits you, you can hit back, it is called self-dense. These women who say that it is Rihanna's fault need a reality check. People are not perfect, and men can and will abuse a woman no matter what the situation. Abuse does not discriminate and anyone can be a victim of it. Just about every woman in my family has been physically, emotionally, verbally, or mentally abused. I was a abused, verbally, emotionally, and mentally. I was a child and a teenager when my step-father used to verbally and emotionally abuse me. Did I ask for that? No! So, should he have called me horrible names? Never. Abuse, no matter what it's form, is not okay.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
It is sad, but that means that it is up to women such as ourselves to educate the women of this country about abuse and that it is never okay for a man to hit a woman.
• United States
16 Mar 09
exactly.. from now on since she went back then that i could see being her fault but not the initial incident.. so sad that people are this ignorant still
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
7 Apr 10
While I don't believe it was her fault...I do think she made a poor choice in standing by him. By doing that she is sending the message that it is ok for men to hit women. Since kids look up to her...that's a really bad message to send. I really think she needs some therapy as well. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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• United States
11 Aug 10
yeah it does send a bad message.. of course this is months later but i think they are finally just leaving each other alone and i hope it stays that way!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Hi, moonlitmagikchild. These teens don't know what they are talking about. Even if Rihanna played a part in provoking Chris, it still is not right to place the blame completely on her for being beat up by Chris Brown! It was not all her fault!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Very horrible!! No wonder so many teens minds are all messed up. All because of stuff like this!
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• United States
11 Aug 10
i know its horrible!
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@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Mar 09
Last summer, I worked at a shelter for women, who were or had been victims of abuse. And one thing that I've learned is that it's generally not these women' fault, if they're beaten up by boyfriends, family members, and such. It's really sad, when this type of situation happens, whether the victim is a man or a woman. But the fact that almost half blamed Rihanna does show how little some of these teens know.
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@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Mar 09
I agree with you. It is tragic.
• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah its so sad since its bad enough she went through this to begin with but then when a victim is blamed its just tragic
• Canada
6 Nov 09
That is absolutely pathetic!!! I can't believe the kind of things that teenagers are learning. Where the hell are they learning them? Who teaches teens that a woman can be blamed for being abused?
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• United States
29 Nov 09
maybe a lot of them have homelifes that are bad to where its normal to them.. thats the only thing i can think of
• United States
15 Mar 09
It's actually pretty common for people, sometimes even the victim's own relatives, to think that she did something to deserve it. That's what the man tells her too. And it's one of the many complicated reasons that women end up staying too long with such a man, because they are convinced that if they just try harder to "be good" then it will all be wonderful. It's very sad.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yep and to see that so many that young are already thinking that way just makes them easy targets to getting stuck in a relationship like that
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
No one in her right mind is willing to be beat up physically. When you beat that person she is already emotionally scarred. Violence is something that has to be avoided at all cost. Violence is never right and I don't understand why half of the teen blame Rihanna for being beaten up. Is that the new face of today's youth? Sad and very alarming indeed.
• United States
19 Jun 09
i hope it isnt a sign of how youth are thinking
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Wow i did not expect that. I kinda blame him truthfully. I mean their young and on top of the world i'm sure their reactions are rediculous and i think he should pay for it. I mean seriously she could be the biggest Bit** in the world and women still don't deserve to be hit. Let alone beat up pretty bad.
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• United States
12 Jun 09
yeah no matter what i dont think violence towards a woman is ok..
• United States
10 Jun 09
that is shocking, i think they blame her cus the story is that she looked at his phone and hit him. Thats dum it her lil hit hurt him then he is a girl. I think its dum that ppl think they know what happed only them two know what happed i don't even think the cops got all of the story. like for realy ppl blam her for picking up the phone like how do u know he didn't tell her to do something with it like check some thing and he for got (if he was cheating) that who ever text him. Ppl need to quit acting like they don't go throw there bf phone trying to make it like she is the only plezzzz.
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• United States
11 Jun 09
i know its very messed up!
• United States
15 Mar 09
I personally think that it's not okay that she gotten beaten; I've known woman who they get into physical battle with their husbands or boyfriends, and to them they think it's fine. I think that half those girls may really think that way and the other half might have even liked her so they don't care and others just really like Chris and just putting the blame on her. I think if we want to educate people about this then we need to teach them the signs of emotional abuse first , because that's where it all begins once people understand the signs of emotional abuse and realize that that's not okay then we can probably prevent people thinking it's okay to be hit. I think we as a society wait till something major to happen in order for us to be outrage.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah your right.. starting by teaching them about the first signs would help so much
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Well, those teens are really ignorant in nature, and I truly won't agree with them. People in relationship should respect each other, not to use abusive force to hurt each other. SO, it is not okay to use fist to hit your love one.
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• United States
11 Aug 10
lets hope when they get into a serious relationship they think different so they arent the next rihanna
@stephyjh (38)
• United States
15 Mar 09
It's NEVER ok to beat a partner! What are these kids thinking?!
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• United States
16 Mar 09
i dont know but its very disturbing!
• United States
15 Mar 09
I think this is so so sad. I will advise all parents especially of girls to tell there child that Rihanna made a huge mistake by getting back with the guy that abused her. The is really really sad and that it is not Rihanna's fault that Chris hit her regardless of what ever the altercation was about. Rihanna is not the blame for Chris hitting her but she is the blame for walking back into his life now if she get's hit I feel that it is her fault for going back to someone that would put there hands on her in the first place. Some of our youth is so screwed up including Rihanna for being with a woman beater and Chris is screwed up to for being that woman beater........Great Day!
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah shes only responsible for the future as in if she goes back then its her fault
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
A lot of people who grow up in abusive surroundings would think that it is okay for someone to beat his or her partner. Blaming the victim of domestic violence for what happened is an age old thing. Even in this supposedly modern society, a lot of people think that way. It is really very sad to hear that even the young generation have not learned that domestic violence is a no-no.
• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah i could see if these kids had grown up in an environment like that to think it was ok but hopefully half of these kids arent growing up like that.. i hope
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
that is ridiculous that many teens believe that rihanna is to blame for that trouble or wrong done to her. i could not believe my eyes reading this. it is like teens have gone numb already. don't they know who to blame. or are they blaming rihanna for sticking with that guy, though they should have the right to blame rihanna for sticking for that guy. but still we should blame the man who did this. sometimes i don't know if there are still people who believe the right things. or sometimes i think if what i believe is the right one cause most people seems to differ from this belief that the man should be blamed for this.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah the way people decide what is wrong and right just seem so screwed up now.. its truly scary
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
15 Mar 09
This is a pretty scary statement. To think that teens would think hitting and or abusing someone is ok to start with scares me. Then to add on that they think that she probably deserved it also scares me. Of course, by Rhianna going back with Brown, she must in some way believe that she deserved it as well. How bad of an example is that for all the teens watching this all happen. I just don't understand how this kind of thinking still can exist.
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• United States
16 Mar 09
i dont either.. its a sad sad thing
• United States
15 Mar 09
NO man or woman deserves to be abused in any form its the lowest thing in life...And are we sure this isnt the first time he's even hit her once an abuser always an abuser
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah there have been some people that said this wasnt the first time which is really scary that this has been normal for her
• United States
15 Mar 09
I think that'a terrible there back togetherrr. I lost a lot of respect for her
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• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah i did too.. i thought she would be strong enough to know to leave him