older children asking parent for money.

Hello my friend deedeehall Ji, In fact generally, at that age, if children are still trying to settle themselves professionally may require help from others, may be encouraged, but in case, if requirement is totally other than real ones, should be dis-couraged. It all depends upon individual cases. One must understand requirement and then act accordingly. May God bless You and have a great time.

They should learn to stand on their own two feet.My son came to us once to guarantee a car loan and the rate of interest was horrendous so we lent them the money at a very low rate ,they were very happy with it and are paying us back ,slowly over three years,they were desperate for a car as they have four kids and need to work and get there by car so it was an act of mercy more than a loan,but like I say it has to paid back.She should say when I have had the last lot back you can have some more,it is to much to expect a mother of three to keep giving money away,She must be going without or her little ones are.

I don't think that it is wrong to help specially your children even if they grow up, but not to a point that your children are already abusing your kindness. I do have a brother who keeps asking my parents for financial needs and we understand the situation, my parents lend him money but does not worry if my brother would pay back or not but the thing is, if you borrowed money, you have to give it back to the person to whom you have borrowed. I think that we as children also would not be depending much on our parents like asking for money, but instead we are the one who are suppose to give money to our folks and bless them too for what they have done to us. Anyway a parent would not abandon their children and to this we really are to honor also our parents for they are given by God to us. As it is said in the ten commandments to honor our parents. Happy Mylotting!

well i know how it feels for a older one to ask for money. if they are much concerned about their self respect or what we call as ego system. then they will never as for money from anyone, but if they dont pay much aatention to these things then they wont ever ask for one. i have such a situation in my house where one of my older sister asks of money from her mother even when she has got married.which i think is really shamefull but she doesnt feel anything about it

Wow.30?and yet still asking money from parents?wow that's quite amazing but somehow pathetic.I pity the parents.

It's amazing. in this phase, children or call they adults, will pay money for mother's life, they just exchange.

Gee, I learned that I had to be self sufficient... I can't believe that these children can get their hands on so much money... That is a huge amount of money... I feel sorry that people can not survive on their own, it is a sad state of affairs. I know I'm struggling and just barely getting by...

I guess she need to talk to her kids and tell them and explain to them her expenses and bills considering she has small ones to feed and take care...I am sure they will understand her..If she kept on giving them for sure they are thinking that it was just okay and that she has all the money to support to them whenever they need one!

She needs to sit the older ones down and tell them that she can no longer lend them money so not to aks her for any more loans. These kids seem to have made your friend part of their regular income plan and it needs to stop. Since they're so used to turning to her, though, she should warn them so they can make better plans. My son and my husband's son used to borrow from us all the time. For a while my son would pay us back but then he stopped and my husband's son never paid us back, so we don't loan them a dime anymore no matter what they say. We're not mean about it...we just tell them that we don't have it. Your friend needs to start doing the same thing and eventually this will stop.

Of course it's not their rights to do so.Their mother bring them up and they are already adults.They should depend on themselves.What they should is to make more money and let their mother live a happy life insteading of continuously asking for money.

definitly not right. lol...anyone who is an adult, i don't think it's right for them to ask their parents for money. but who knows..they might have some problems to support themselve.. or they wanna start their own biz.but run out of money at first...

I don't think there is anything wrong in asking money from your parents. Afterall they are your parents. I think family members should help each other, no matter how old they are. About the current situation, one has to know whether the children are really in need of money. Or are they asking money in order to enjoy. If there is no emergency then your friend needs to give their choldren some good advice.

it is wrong for childern to ask money from their parents when they needn't ,may be you should cut the amount or give them nothing let them know you aren't god you can not do everything for them