Is It Proof Of Love ?

@jess07 (319)
March 19, 2009 3:21pm CST
Hi, Do you think jealousy is proof of love or just because the hubby considers the other as property ?!
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5 responses
@ponganne (19)
• Australia
19 Mar 09
I honestly believe that jealousy is an ugly emotion which stems from insecurity and lack of trust. A person could only enter into a relationship armed with trust and faith in the other person. Excessive jealousy can destroy a relationship. It will be hard to constantly reassure the other person that he or she is the only one.
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• United States
19 Mar 09
It is definitely exhausting trying to "prove" you love the other person.
@jess07 (319)
20 Mar 09
Hi ponganne Thanks for your response you are right =) Thanks again ! Jess.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I guess it's normal sometimes to get jealous as it adds spices so they say in a relationship. However too much and excessive display of such emotion is unhealthy and poses threat to any relationship. And to the extent of treating the other one as "property" not a loved one. An overly jealous partner tend to rationalized his jealous actions as act of love and protection. But real love knows the difference between obsession and freedom. In fact, in some extreme cases true love means letting go of the other if it's a one-sided love affair.
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@jess07 (319)
20 Mar 09
Hi Silverjam I very much agree =) Thanks for your response =) Jess
@daneg33 (1131)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
I think jealousy comes from insecurity. If someone is insecure and not confident in themselves, they will always be jealous, because they are sure that they can't hold onto what they have, and yes, in a way, that makes the other person a "possession".
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@jess07 (319)
20 Mar 09
Hi Yes you ar quite right I tend to sometims be jealous but i suppose that comes from the past of my relationship. In a way i don't think it's really jealous, i just like to know what he's doing, who with and if possible keep an eye on him. I wont let him do the same thing twice! Thanksfor your response ! Jess
@blueunicorn (2409)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I do not think jealousy is proof of love. I personally think it comes from insecurity.
@jess07 (319)
20 Mar 09
hi thanks blueunicorn, I think you are right . This hole conversation was started from a conversation with some friends of mine. I see that there are many opinions ! Thanks again ! Jess
@soulist (2986)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I totally agree I don't think that jealousy is proof of love, if anything it is insecurity, control and distrust. I don't like jealousy in relationships and I am trying to keep it from entering my thoughts.
• India
23 Mar 09
I think it's a normal thing as in many lovers one of them tries to know what the opposite one is doing so as to be protective and also to be upto date about there lover. Ya sometimes they get much of jealous which is bad..
@jess07 (319)
23 Mar 09
hi Yes you are quite right it is too much jealousy that destroyes a couple ! Thanks for your response Jess