I'm scared for my sister

Being there for her is already a huge step to helping her out. Although you guys live 100 miles from each other, at least she knows that she can turn to you for help. And, for someone in your sister's position, this is good. Maybe, if you even get the chance, you could always try to go visit her, and actually be able to hug. I'm sure that she would really appreciate it, as well as need it.

You said that she lives 100 miles away? About how long would it take you to drive there? If I were in your shoes, I'd make the time and take an unannounced trip to visit her. I say unannounced because tht way, she doesn't know you are coming so she doesn't have the opportunity to try to make things look better than what they really are. You would get a first-hand look into the situation. Besides, showing up without her knowing that you are going to may brighten her day a bit, and you could finally give her the hug that you want to give her.

Good day... I think there is nothing that you can actually do unless you take time to visit her and really talk to her before it's too late. Unfortunately, divorce is the only thing that I could think of when it comes to bad marriage. I hope you can help your sister.

Good day... I think there is nothing that you can actually do unless you take time to visit her and really talk to her before it's too late. Unfortunately, divorce is the only thing that I could think of when it comes to bad marriage. I hope you can help your sister.

Thats awful...you can always go and visit her and give her support. I would encourage her to leave him and if you are able to have her come stay with you for a while tell her she can come stay with you. She needs to get herself out of the situation but she's the only one who can do that. Be as supportive as you can! Good luck!

I would definitely be feeling the same way, if I were in your shoes. Is there someone else near her, a family member or a good friend, that you can trust to take care of her? Maybe check in on her every once in a while, be a good friend and give her that shoulder to cry on that you may not be able to because you're so far away? I would also say plan some frequent visits to see her if it is financially possible. I think this would mean a lot to her and probably help her a lot in the long run.

The best thing you can do is encourage her to decide what she wants to do with her life. If she want's to leave him, offer to help. If she wants to stay, maybe counceling is an option. Let her know she has family and friends that are there for her no matter what. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

It is difficult for you to know your sister is suffering and that you are unable to help her. I think your phone calls do assist her a bit. Perhaps you could suggest your sister goes on vacation because it might help her take stock of her situation. If that happened she could possibly come home a happier person and be in more control. Your sister is trying to hide from emotional pain and she needs to make a decision about her future. She won't be able to do that unless she begins to think more clearly. Good luck to her.

Get her to come and stay with you for a while,they are not talking either is my guess ,and at the moment she sees no future for herself other then the one she is now living .She needs to talk herself out ,some T.L.C from someone ,who cares and a bit of fun so she can learn to laugh again.Hopefully she will see that this was not because of something she had or hadn't done and stop beating herself up over it so she can make plans to live her life ,weither they stay together or part.I do hope that things work out for you all and soon.

You could try introducing her to someone new. Start her on a dating program. Let her see that there is a chance for romance notwithstanding her loser husband.

i think that this is the worst time for you and for your family and especially for your sister i think that you should do something that she do not feel any kind of stress in her life as this can lead to brain problem make her feel happy you should be with her she is alone now and help to solve the problem between your sister and her husband

Hi Suzy, I felt sorry to hear that from you. I would recommend you have to go and accompany your sister. She needs you, she needs guidance and a shoulder to lean on. Besides, it's already almost a year in that situation and maybe there's a need for a serious talk between them to make big decisions. Cases like that really happens to relationships that did not work out well, there would be some deep reasons. I wish your sister will be able to cope up with it. :-(

Be there for her. Ask her if she wants to stay with you.

First off reading your situation I kind of relate to it. My sister too had some emotional issues a year back and I had to support her through everything..In the beginning I supported her and listened to cry on the phone day in and day out..Thats all that I thought I could do..But I realized one thing after six months of support..that is I have to be strong in order to make her strong..you basically need to give her a reality check...make her understand what she is missing out on..if she has kids then they need her..your parents need her..YOU need her..my point is stop being the weak one and YOU need to be strong and jolt her out of this depressive phase as it will (trust me) destroy hers and your life..Be the critic that she needs and you be stong..

SuzyLong, I think for now, phone calls will suffice since you cannot make it to her place. However, if it is at all possible, have you ever thought of asking her over to be with you? I think it would be better to be away from where she is and that a change of environment would definitely be better for her. It will be just depressing and be of no help to her condition if she stays back where she is now. Or, you may see if the both of you could make it to some place together for a short retreat or holiday just to get away from things and away from distractions of everyday life. Hope this will be of help and that your sister will have enough courage and strength to take the first step. Have a nice day.

Please, make out time, and visit your sister, no matter the distance. She needs somebody like you arrond her now. Talking to her on phone is of no use. It's you alone can save your sister. Your presence can better. Thanks.