Open Fingers and Let it go

Oh you really have been asking difficult questions chimes honey! I think it is totally dependant on who is involved and the whole situation! For instance my ex husband , I put up with and hid (or my brothers would have dealt with it) his metal, emotional and physical abuse for years - what finally cut the tie - I saw how badly it was affecting my baby son and could not bear the thought of him growing up thinking it was normal for people to behave in that way or for him to be subjected to the same abuse as he grew up. xxxx

Usually, you just know. But the closer the tie, the longer it is, the harder sometimes.

One of the most difficult things I have tried to do is to let things go that I have no control over. Many of my friends have harped on me for doing this. I have semi-let go of some things, but now to do it entirely. I have come to the realization that I have lived my entire life worrying and fretting over things that are beyond my control. I cannot fix everything. The most important thing I have to do is to focus on myself. Giving so much focus to other things has blurred my vision to what is most important.

We all go through life where we carry our emotional baggage far too long but may be that makes us different from animals and humans-victims of their emotions. Animals get it straight , grwon up kids leave the nest immediately, weak one, when danger comes we will protect you but only till a point if you can not fend for yourself you will be the one left behind to die. But we find it hard to break free and cut our losses. I am one bad at letting go, I simply care too much for people and I feel I have the feeling that I can not live without my loved ones around me and sometimes they do take advantage of me but then I know that I a being taken advantage of still I just let it be for the sake of peace in the family. I amnot sure if I am wrong or right but thats the way I am and thats the way I choose to live because what is life if I can not love them without any expectations from them. while writing this I see your point too but as I said thats the way I choose to live if I have to choose.

I am able to let go of anyone who adds toxins to my life. It is very painful when you do it but in the long run looking back every time I have done it I realized it was for the best.

I'm very picky about who I let into my life. There are no toxins in my life.. I only have people that love me in my life. I did have some really toxic people in my life several years ago, but I got rid of them.. so you might say I shake off toxic people and have no more to do with them.

It's normal for people to feel that way,sometimes we get to a point of bursting of when we can't bear the burden already.

I know that there are toxins that fester in my mind and when they begin to really bother me that is when I realize that my mind is being poisoned by my toxins that I keep fresh always. I then let these go and allow them to free themselves from the confines of my mind. cheers!!

I send them to Coventry...............which means I just stop all communication. If they contact me, I'm polite, but I offer nothing and let them get the message on their own. Some do, some don't. Depends on what they were to me in my life. Like my ex. He's the father of my children, and that kept us connected for many years. But now, all bets are off. The boys are adults and the ex can drown in his own crocodile tears because he 'misses' them and I wouldn't give him a life line! Other people, I just let their crap roll off my back and stay out of their way. But the hubs! He's in for a bic flicking when he gets up my nose! LOL

Simple, you pray, every single day, and let God do it for you. I'll give you a great example in motion right now. I love slot machines. I totally enjoy playing them. I don't mind losing money playing those things. I gave them up for Lent and now I'm beset with temptations to enter all the coin casinos in town. So far I've held out. I'm benefiting financially and just this morning I was thinking I'd just let them go forever. Prayer works ! I'd say that to anyone !

My only way of ever being able to escape the toxins in my life, is to win the lottery and escape overseas.

I agree with Sparks, just stop conversing. If you happen to be around someone in a like situation, you can be polite or what I call cordial. For me, I let the toxins go through meditation, journaling, exercise, etc. I use a variety of methods because it truly depends upon the toxin I'm dealing with. If it is something I can cut out, I do so. If it is something I can't then I do my best to now allow that toxin to affect my life. It's just not worth it. In terms of your gram, animals are proven to be very good for people. They lower blood pressure, and have many positive effects on health. However, perhaps someone could help her to walk them, or clean up after them etc. Namaste-Anora

This is somewhat I also experience. Our minds also can be exhausted when we think too many problems or the like and still don't know what to do. Some really don't want to let go. And others have an easy way to let go, I really envy them. But still when you think its too much then you're not happy..let go...you are just forcing yourself to do that thing but you're not happy...then its not healthy. In my own ways...I meditate and prayers do really works...Trust God...