Do you love yourself?

@parvezjs (422)
India
March 20, 2009 1:03am CST
Do you really love yourself? How much do you love yourself? Today morning I met a person who loves himself the most. He thinks he is the best. He does everything for himself and very selfish. First he thinks of himself then about his family members. He says if I don't think about myself who else will think about me. Are you such kind of person? Do you love yourself the most? Are you living your life just for yourself? I get happiness when I keep others, my family and people around me happy. I first think of my family. I don't think I am kind of selfish person who just thinks of himself. What about you?
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44 responses
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Yes I love myself Everybody must love their self before loving anybody but the person you met is called self-conceited thats why he thinks he is the best. I am not a selfish person, I like to help but if others are abusing mwe already then thats different.
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@parvezjs (422)
• India
20 Mar 09
Yes sophie you are right. If one is abusing us then that's the totally different thing. Be the same and keep helping others.
• China
20 Mar 09
Well,parvezjs,I think no one can deny that he love himse,lf we don't love ourself,we'll face lots of problems,can you deny that you work hard everyday cause you want live comfortable?I love myself so i could love other people around me who love me too.
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@parvezjs (422)
• India
20 Mar 09
Yes I do love myself but loving others just because they love us is not right according to me. We need to first think about others to get back love from them and this means we care for others more than ourselves. We are not self obsessed. Thanks for the comment.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Definitely , I love myself, but I do not adore myself. One has to learn loving him/herself first before loving others to totally describe and define loving. How could you learn to love others if you never learn to love yourself first? There's a difference between loving ones self from adoring. The latter which is more Narcissist and selfish. There's no wrong of loving yourself most because if you do, you would definitely know how to share it and love others too. If someone limits his love for himself, surely there is limitations when he love others. On the other hand, adoring ones self is a selfish attitude, where everything in centered to himself. That does not mean loving at all. That is the difference. When someone adores himself - definitely he does not know what others feel.
@parvezjs (422)
• India
20 Mar 09
That's a wonderful comment. Its really lovely. One should love Himself/Herself first but should not be over confidence, proud and be selfish, rude, arrogant. As many people think they are the best and so they love themselves. They don't bother what others are thinking about them nor do they care for others feelings.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Yes I love myself. How could others love me if I won't love myself first right? But I'm not near being narcissist. I'm not a selfish person and I love helping other people. I'm living my life not just for myself but for everyone I love.
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@parvezjs (422)
• India
20 Mar 09
That's good one should first love ourselves but should not be selfish. That's the right way of living.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Sorry this is not a man that truly loves himself, he is the center of his attention because he has a big fear that he is not worthy and has to constantly reaffirm his value in this world. Feel nothing but compassion for him and treat him with kindness he may never appreciate this but you are doing this for you not for anyone else. This is love of self.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
20 Mar 09
Yes!I love myself.Everybody should love himself at the first place.Because the world exists only in our view.But that doesn't mean we have to be selfish.We have to see our basic comforts and then only we can make others happy.Otherwise it will be a tiresome job,making others happy.I mean to say,only a self content man can serve others.Cheers!
@parvezjs (422)
• India
20 Mar 09
Yes that's one way right but what will you do if your child wants something and you too but you don't have enough cash to fulfill both of yours desires? You can buy just one thing at one time so whom will you choose first yourself, or your child? In my case I would go for my family first.
@derek_a (10874)
21 Mar 09
We really need to love ourselves, in order to love others. Because when we meet others, we take them into our consciousness, and that part of consciousness is our Self. I see Self-love as an entirely different thing to Self-grandeur.. - Derek
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@mymytri (2030)
• India
21 Mar 09
He looks like selfish person.I too love myself but not that much.I love my family and friends and feel happy if they also happy and healthy.One should also think about themselves what they want and what they don't want.Sacrificing everything for family or friends happiness isn't good also.It should be well balanced.Happy mylotting..
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
21 Mar 09
yes i do love myself very much. to me, one must love oneself before one can learn to love another. loving oneself includes taking good care of our body and mind. however, i will not hesitate to stand in front of my loved ones in the way of harm. being selfish is an entirely different thing. one doesn't have to love oneself to be selfish. how many self-destructive people are selfish? they don't love themselves, but that doesn't stop them from being selfish.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
Hi parvezjs, Yes, it is very important to love ourselves, but we should never be selfish. We really have to love ourselves before we can love others. When we love ourselves we are happy and happiness is something that the more we give away, the more we have for ourselves. I have a feeling that the person you met doesn't understand that, this idea of looking out for number one, is not the same as loving yourself, it is more like selfishness. Blessings.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Mar 09
i can't say i do or don't love myself. don't ever think about it. i can't stand to be around someone like ur friend, don't like selfish people who think of noone but themselves,
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@LCHBheart (167)
• Singapore
21 Mar 09
Well, I don't love myself all the time, but it is possible for me to love myself sometimes. :)
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• China
21 Mar 09
We Chinese people has long been considered as living for the family. So am I, and luckily I'm not a selfish person.I actually love this life style to be not only myself but also my family as well as my friends. Only in this way, can I live a more meaningful,happy life.
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@ziteng (7)
• China
21 Mar 09
people always say that we should love ourselves,because if you do not love yourself first who else will love you,i kown that ,this is a confident attitude.however,actully,i am not confident,i always compare myself with others,and in most cases,i can find something good from other people which i do not possess.so i am full of envy when i kown that someone is better than me in some areas.so i can always find others strengths and also my weakness.i think i shoule change my idea and love myself more.people should be confident,i should build confidence.
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@my125125 (818)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
The man you mention that is too selffish, but I am not the person very selfish, and i do love my self, this is the best gift to yourself and to your family too. They will know you will always take care of yourself and they no need to worry you so much. They can spend more time to take care of themself.
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• China
21 Mar 09
Oh, there has different standards aiming to this topic! In the past, I never love me myself, which makes me be so tired, but now, I should learn how to love me myself, but still benefit others (like my relatives, friends, even strangers)
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• India
21 Mar 09
Nice topic. I recall a nice saying said by someone..."If we dont love ourself..we cant love others... ! This stands true universally. Because loving ourselves is not being selfish but it makes you happy internally and you start liking your surrouding too as your mind and heart are in very positive state. Yes family is important.Your family will be happy if you are happy . So how you can make yourself happy?? By loving yourself. Now you eventualy made your family happy. This is my opinion and expereince. Have a nice weekend..
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Of COURSE I love myself! I love the person I've become in the last 25 years. I love the fact that I have found the strength and friends needed to get thru a lot of things I've been thru. But I'm not obsessed with myself. I still have my closest most wonderful friends who I would do anything for! Hell... I'm buying a house big with an apartment with it so that she can live there and it will help her out with her low income situation and everything else! I think its perfectly okay to love yourself above others... no matter who your friends or family members are... you need to take care of you - but there are PLENTY of other people who are worth my love as well!
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@eselmaro (208)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I would be a liar if I say 'No'. Of course, I love myself. How can I love others if I dunno how to love my inner me. Sometimes we need to be selfish in order to be kind. Being selfish is not just cruelty to others. There's nothing wrong if I am over confindent, if it helps me how to face the dare in life.
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• United States
21 Mar 09
I love myself and sometimes I'm selfish to, but will i ever forget about my family NO.
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