Did you lose your parent/s at an early age?
By coffeeshot
@coffeeshot (3783)
Australia
March 20, 2009 3:06am CST
Yesterday I attended my best friend's mother's funeral. I praftically lived at my best friend's house when we were teenagers but only spoke to her mother every now and then after we left school. I was an absolute mess at the service, I feel so sorry for my friend. She won't have her mother there when she gets married (she's engaged), has a baby or buys a house. It's just so cruel. I was crying for my friend and she was so strong at the service, she got up and said some beautiful words about her mother.
I am so lucky to have both of my parents who love me. Has anyone lost a parent when they were young? How did you deal with it? Does it get easier?
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18 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Mar 09
My mom is still living but I lost my dad when I was 12 years old. It was very hard to deal with and it has been hard on me for years. I am now in my 30's and yes, it has gotten alot easier on me but it was a very long road. I still cry over my dad sometimes but not as often.
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@xuhuihui (70)
• China
20 Mar 09
My roommate ,a little girl, lost her mother when she was only five .Her grandma has taken care of her for seventeen years,just because her stepmother doesn't like her.But she is lucky and happy living with her grandma and the love of the neighbors.we all love her too,but it's a pity without love from mother!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Apr 09
I lost my dad when I was 12 and mty mom four years ago in September.I guess it would be really bad if I dreamt of my dad walking me down the aisle but I never did, And I never had to go through that " hateful; teen years with him. So in a way I am lucky.My mom and I were good friends.She may not be here in body but every once in a while good things happen I Knpow it's her spirit helping me.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Thankfully I still have both parents and both stepparents. My niece and Nephew lost their mom at a young age and it was really hard on them. My Nephew and I are really close so that helps him a lot. I think my niece is closer to my Mom though.
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@bluerainhong (400)
• China
20 Mar 09
Sorry to her that!
I do be lucky that live with my whole family, my family is full of love and smile, I feel warm in my family.
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@candy811123 (334)
• China
20 Mar 09
I am sorry to hear the bad news of your friend's mother.And I am lucky that my parents are health.I couldn't imagine life without my parents.Best wishes to all parents!
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
I didn't. but I lost my dad one month prior to my wedding.
I was physically and mentally weak but I didn't cancel the wedding.
I know he would've wanted me to marry my hubby now, he told me that no one else would love as much as hubby does.
I can't imagine losing parents at young age, when most kids would need their parents guidance especially.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Im sorry to hear about your friends mom. I do understand what your saying though as i lost my mom when i was 12. She never got to see me graduate, get married. meet a boyfriend. have my babies, know her grandchildren. its just so sad. Some times i long to be able to to talk with her. Even today i still cant talk about her without wanting to cry. I hate to say that the hurt never goes away. But you can help by staying her best friend and being with her through all of that.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
22 Mar 09
yea..i lost my dad at 29.
to some,that might not really be young,but he only lived to 59,and he worked hard all his life.real hard.
i felt ripped not only for him,being cheated out of retirement and all the goodies that go with it(like sleeping in late),but being denied spending more time with him,as it should have been.
i guess i also felt bitter it was him,and not my mom,the raging self entitled pain in the butt.
@parvezjs (422)
• India
21 Mar 09
Yes I have gone through such situation I have lost my mother two years back. My mother was my world. She was very caring, very loving, very helpful to all don't know why God took her away so early. She was not even 50. She had struggled a lot throughout her life and when the time was near for her to live her life happily she was gone. She suffered form cancer which was the worst and at the last stage. I miss her a lot. While typing this also I am tears in my eyes.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
21 Mar 09
I lost them as soon as possible because they were not good role models or loving or nurturing or any of the things that one expects parents to be. However, they did not pass away for many years. It depends on how one defines loss, I guess. In my case, loss was deliverance.
@ada547612 (203)
• China
21 Mar 09
I am a good mother and sisters at a very early age she had to leave her. At that time, she almost collapsed, because she loves her mother, and could not accept her mother had left her truth. Fortunately, at that time with my brother at her side, to accompany her through that period of time. Now, my sister has been completely out of the shadow, and for my sister-in-law has become. I hope your friends can quickly get out sad day, restore normal life.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I've lost my parents when I'm already married and have children. Still there's a big differrence of having them around. Though I have loving children still I miss the true care of parents. How they were so concerned if you're not feeling well and how thoughtful they are bringing you food or things that would please you. It's alright taking good care of them as long as they are around. Never I regretted taking care of them until their last breath.
@eselmaro (208)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I lost my father when I was 8 years old. It was really hard for me since I am a papa's girl. I miss him being with me at the school. I can't even concentrate on my studies. I felt like I am all alone and no one wants me anymore. It was such a terrible scene and until now I still miss him so much.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Mar 09
i lost my father when i was around 5 yrs old.its sad but this is part of our life.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
20 Mar 09
Hi coffeeshot,
I lost my father when I was young and just 7 years ago I lost my mother and yes its hard, you never get over it and each day that passes you get better but never get over it, I always think of my mum everyday and my father too, I sometimes feels like an orphan.
Tamara
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I lost my mother when I was 12 years old. You just learn to go on with life. It will be hard but that is the only thing to do. Put God first and live with the memories that you have.
I don't have to many good memories, because my mom was sick most of the time.
Your friend is blessed she and her mother had time to make good memories.
@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Thanks be to god I have not experinced that I am 32 and both of my parents are still alive my dad will be 61 and my mom will be 58. My mom dose have some health problems thought that do concern me.
I think it is very hard for a child to loose there parent at a very early age. I work in a day car and two children hear both lost there dad in the same year and one child was 3 and the other was 4. Its sad. They don't get to see him or do stuff with them.
When we are out side the boy who is now 4 will look up at the sky and say my daddy up there he is in heaven. We tell him yes he is. God is watching over him and daddy watching over you also.
