pets as substitutte babies

@oyenkai (4396)
Philippines
March 23, 2009 7:51pm CST
I saw an old lady in the mall before and she was pushing a baby's cart while window shopping. I wanted to see what the baby looked like - just because I like looking at babies. Then I discovered that it was a dog, not a baby. It made me think about people who'd rather have pets than babies. I don't understand how anyone can be satisfied with it. It can't be any better than adopting because...well THEY didn't give birth to the pet itself so making it a substitute for a baby is already adopting - but they're adopting furry little things instead of people who can actually show you if you're being a good mom or not. Would you rather have a pet than a baby?
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17 responses
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I love kids, and want some in the future, but right now I'd rather have a pet. Yes, pets can't tell you if you're being good to them or not, but they can fill your life with joy and cost a lot less than kids.
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• United States
24 Mar 09
i've been thinking about getting a pet stroller myself,for trips to the vet. i think it would be much easier on my calico,she has leg problems and hates the conventional carriers. i spoil her,i guess she is kind of my baby i can't have children,and i'm not in the position to adopt,so..
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@myralmedo (815)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
hi there :) some peeps told me that if you want a baby or getting ready for having a baby- get a pet first to take care of. i dunno it will be a test if you're ready to have your own- a real baby, human and yes some hopeless couples do this one they "adopt" puppies or any pets to be called as their own daughters and sons. it's very hard to maintain with a real baby (ofcourse :D) but the happiness the thought that it's yours is priceless- as a matter of fact i have my two babies at home my eldest our son our son kurt and "bunso" youngest (which is a puppy )- ketchup thanks!:) happy myLotting!;) Godabless!0=)
@kprofgames (3099)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I don't think I could do that myself; however, a friend of mine is unable to have children. She's a super woman. I adore her and her husband. To be honest they have crazy busy lives, school working 2 jobs and does an internship on top of that. Adoption was looked at, but their lives are just too full for a child. Why adopt only to hire a babysitter to raise them. I understand that. So she has her pets. They are well loved and cared for so I do understand why people have pets that are just as much a member of their family as any born child. The woman with the dog in the baby stroller is kind of creepy if you ask me, but that's her need I guess. I don't have to understand it.
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@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
24 Mar 09
i Have 8 children, and they are all grown up now, and away from the house...I have 2 dogs and a cat now....and they are my babies. After raising all my children and them leaving to make their own lives, our pets help fill the voids of them not being here anymore. If i could have more children i would, but i have reached the age where that is not possible any more. Having a pet around is a great joy, and it is a greater joy when my kids and grand kids come for a visit.
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@dismalgrin (2606)
• United States
24 Mar 09
That is taking it a little far isn't it! Hehe. My sister spent the night at my brother's house and she said that his girlfriend wakes him up in the morning to say 'Get up, Rob, it's time to take the boys potty!' And the 'boys' are her dog and our old childhood dog that got into some trouble at my mom's house so he had to move in with my brother! Haha. And taking them potty, means they have to open the back door so they can do their business in the yard. Haha. Anyhow. I think that pets can make wonderful compainions for the childless or those whose children have all moved on. But, I do think that some people can carry it a little too far and in some aspects that could be considered animal abuse because they are making the animal fit into this whole other persona that animals just weren't meant to fill. But, I see nothing wrong with getting an animal to love and care for and fill a sort of a void that is in your life.
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
24 Mar 09
I myself have a child and want one more in the future. So I guess I would say a baby. even though I love having pets that's all they all. I can understand why some people would rather have a pet instead of a baby for their child. I know someone who has 2 cats and the family says that's their kids and they don't any kids. I myself don't like cats and can't understand why they'd want cats for their kids. I would rather have dogs.
@grfritz (13)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Kumusta Oyenkai, I know i have always treated my pets as my children, they are people too...........lol
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@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
no they're not.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I'd rather have a baby, myself, but I can understand why some people woluld rather have a pet. Yes, with a baby, we nuture him/her and help to mold him/her for adulthood. We get to watch a baby grow and take great joy in their smiles, laughter, and many other things. That said, there are some people who feel that they cannot afford a child, but can a pet. Some people are too old to even consider adoption, but they want that feeling of being looked up to. Some people don't feel that they can be a good parent, but like the companionship of having a loyal pet waiting at home for them. There are lost of reasons. I can understand it, but I would still rather have a baby!
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Well if she was an old lady maybe she did have kids and they are grown now? She could be loving the dog like a child because she misses her kids. I know I have a son, who is almost 28, and two adorable grandchildren. But, I don't get to see them often right now so I have my pets as my "fur babies." My guy and I refer to each other as mommy and daddy to the little chihuahuas we have. Maybe silly, but who cares? It makes us happy. Just like the old lady was probably happy. And I can even understand the baby carrier. I have a very small female chihuahua who just doesn't see the point in walks. She likes to get out but after about a block she just sits there and looks at me like is there a point to this? I've often thought about getting a stroller for her. LOL
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hi oyen, I love babies so in my case, I will not be choosing pets over having babies though I love pets too... I know some people also who prefer not to have kids but very happy and satisfied to have pets as part of their families!
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@maeras (115)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Mar 09
Personally, i'd choose to raise a child (later maybe:p). There are many rewards and challenges in doing this, plus there is an emotional attachment that runs deeper than raising a pet. However, there may be several reasons why these poeple opted to raise pets instead. For one, pets are less demanding. You can leave them unattended for hours without too much mishap happening. Pets don't complain much and they become less of a headache while growing up...lol. I can't say the same for children. And I think maybe they are afraid of the responsibily of caring for another human being.
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
id rather have kids, because i know you would feel the pain and joy being with them.pets are nice and you know where there loyalty lies, but where's the joy in that when you get old and go to a retirement home. you can't expect a cat to take care of you.simply, i would like to have both but id rather choose kids first.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
24 Mar 09
You mentioned that the lady was old. Maybe she does have children, and they are grown and gone away from home. She could possibly be replacing them now with her pet in order to keep her company. I understand what you mean about people replacing children for pets. I know a few people who will say, that their dog or cat is their baby. When in fact they are young enough to have children of their own. Pets are nice, but realistically, they can never replace a child. A pet can love you unconditionally, but really how do you know. A real child will love you unconditionally too.
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@scheng1 (24710)
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
I can understand the old lady taking care of a pet instead of a baby. Her children probably have their families and her grandchildren not staying near. At her age, obviously adopting a baby is more taxing on her. So having a pet is the best choice to cure her loneliness. For married couple, they may not want the commitment to take care of kids for the next 20 years. Probably they are both too busy to take care of a crying baby. At least the pet doesn't take up as much time. Cats and dogs can play with each other and will not play with fire. For single who is not keen to marry, having a kid is unfair to the kid. A kid should have the love and attention of both parents. So for a single, having a pet is like having a kid, without the moral issue.
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@ajithlal (14614)
• India
24 Mar 09
I think mostly old people are taking care of pets rather than young people. One of the reason I have seen for that is that most of the children doesn't take care of the old parents or they left the place for another place to be alone. To be loved and to love the old people take care of pets like the babies or like their children because to avoid depression and loneliness. I think this is one of the reason the old people take care of pets more.
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Babies for me! I must admit that I get a little (just a little) miffed when my sister-in-law compares her shih-tzus to my daughter. I tell a certain anecdote about my little one and she says she can totally relate because her dogs do the same thing. I guess it's funny on some level. Anyhoo, as far as I know she and her hubby are having a hard time conceiving, so they have the pets are their babies for now. Then, there are also those personalities that think they can't risk having a baby because they're so screwed up they're sure to ruin their children's lives as well or those people who think pets are less trouble than babies (because babies grow up, lol)... I suppose, to each his/her own...