After cancer of the uterus, it's hip dislocation
By dorisday1971
@dorisday1971 (5657)
Philippines
March 28, 2009 10:51am CST
Last year, my mother in law was diagnosed to have a cancer of the uterus and was operated. She had hysterectomy where her uterus as well as the mass were removed. After the operation and medications, she became well.
About a month ago, she started to complain about a severe pain pain on her left hip and it has worsened since then. I told her to have it checked by a doctor but she refused. She can't stand for even a minute nor walk for a short distance. This morning, my husband and I 'forced' (she again refused) her to go with us to the hospital for we can no longer bear seeing her in pain. We went to an orthopedic surgeon and we were advised to have her spine, pelvic and hip bones X-rayed. We were chocked to know that she has hip dislocation and the best remedy is to have a surgery.
At 65, she thinks she is too old to have another surgery (remember: she had an operation last year) and is afraid of many things. She now refuses to have a hip surgery. Do you think she is making a right decision?
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7 responses
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
29 Mar 09
NO WAY! I am 60 am by no means OLD. I had foot surgery 2 years ago, I survived.
Recently my 80 year old mother was told depending on the outcome of a few tests she may need surgery, and she will get it if she needs it.
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@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
That's the spirit, I love it. How I wish my mother in law is as strong willed as you and your mother.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
28 Mar 09
At 65 your Mother in law still has a lot of life to live, don't rob her of her power to decide for herself. If you take that power away she may go down hill fast. I would go on the internet and look for alternatives to surgery for her hip. I fully
understand her fear, many of us live with pain as we grow older, and still have a quality of life. Blessings
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Thank you very much. We are trying to let her decide on her own but it seems that she is blinded by her fears.
@JoyfulOne (6231)
• United States
28 Mar 09
First, my heart goes out to your Mom. We're around the same age (I'm 60), and I went through the uterine cancer surgeries, chemo, radiation, etc, in 2002 (it took a whole year of my life, but I'm well now.) I personally think that she should have the surgery. I can relate to where she's coming from though, when you go through all that for the cancer, you just don't want to have to go through all kinds of surgery and recovery all over again. In my opinion, I think she needs to talk to somebody besides the Dr, she very well might be depressed. The fact that your hubby and you had to 'force her' says to me that there is a depression issue still. It takes a long time to get over feelings of frustration, helplessness, and all that. Some people do not feel mentally (or physically) strong enough to go through surgery and all again. Please tell her my friend of 85 just had a hip surgery (an elective surgery) and one day later she was doing wonderfully...one week later she is doing super and wondered why she was putting it off. (IE: she is NOT in pain now!)
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
I know she is again in a denial stage, just like when she was diagnosed wih cancer. I will be telling her about that surgery of your friend, she is an inspiration.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I really can't say that I do think she is making the right decision. I spent 8 years working for an orthopedic surgeon and can tell you they have made great strides in techniques.
Are they looking at a hip replacement?
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Hip replacement is the option given by the orthopedic doctor. She doesn't want it. Is there a guarantee that one can be totally okey after a hip replacement surgery?
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
28 Mar 09
Hello friend,
I am so sorry to hear about your mother in law but at the same time, I am happy that you people are there to take care of her. I think she does not want to bother you people any more and that is why she is refusing surgery. She is ready to live in pain and save you your resources. She might also be afraid of surgery at this age but the previous reason must be a factor too in her decision. I would pray for her and hope that you people do the best for her.
All the best!
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
She is really afraid of having another surgery. She is firm on her decesion not to have a hip replacement. We can't do anything about it.
@shiwangipeswani (613)
• India
29 Mar 09
Hi lotter
its very sad to hear that ,my mom in law is also suffering from acute fibrosis of luungs ,i can understand how difficult it is to manage,hope she will get well soon ,give my best wishes to her.
happy my lotting
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@suzzy3 (8341)
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31 Mar 09
Poor mother in law she must be so frightened about it all.She could be out of pain if she goes through with it she is only sixty five so young to be crippled with pain,she still has a lot of living to do.She may change her mind after all it is not life threatening is it.She is making the wrong descision all she has to do is have her hip put back properly ,give her a bit of time she is probably a bit depressed as well,give her my best wishes.xxx
