is it not too late to get pregnant at 36 yrs old?

@bombshell (11256)
Germany
March 29, 2009 2:57am CST
i have already one daughter and soon she will be 5 yrs old.somehow its nice i she has sister or brother since she is complaining about that she is alone and i other side i am getting older soon going another yrs to 36 yrs old and somehow its too risky.or one kid is enough.about hubby he always said to me if i talk about another kid his answer is "we will see" so is it not too late to get pregnant at 36 yrs old?
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• Australia
29 Mar 09
So your 36, and pregnancy takes 9 months for the baby to come out, so lets just say by then you'll be roughly around 37. When your 48, the baby will be 10 years of age. When it turns 18 you will be around 56 years of age. I'm not saying it's a wrong or right age, but if you don't mind about the numbers, then go ahead. :)
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
right hehehe you make me smile...thanks
• Ireland
29 Mar 09
i'am agreeing with that...i cant say its not the right age to get pregnant, thats all depends on each person, everybody have their own responsibilities ...but according to medical science i heard that getting pregnant after 35 is not very good for mothers health and baby's as well...after all its a luck to get a baby in good health..
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
hi sooz yes i heared that too thats why i post this discussions to hear others opinion
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
29 Mar 09
36 isn't too old -
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@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
29 Mar 09
It really isn't, now, there are many reasons to not have another child, but your age shouldn't be a factor until you are over 40
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
thanks Elic,i got the point
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
for me its too old but somehow its too risky
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
30 Mar 09
Physically,it's not too late to have another child,as long as You're still ovulating..It wasn't that long ago a family of 11 or so wasn't unusual.Today,Parents can choose to plan their families,and there are interesting ways around fertility issues too if you prefer to challenge Mother Nature...Assuming you both are still fertile,there's only the one decision to make- if You want a sibling for Your Daughter.(well,that,and the time off work thing,the income required for raising another child,etc..but as the OctoMama seems to have proved,properly planning for a family is optional..)..good luck with your decision!
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Mar 09
thank you
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 09
I don't think 36 yrs old is late. As long as you are healthy, why not? Why waste the golden opportunity when you are still fertile and capable of giving a little sister/brother to your daughter.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
for me i am too old for that zandi,it feel like i am above 4o maybe because of the weather here veryyyyyyyyy cold and i have lots of pain. then second i am caesarian and dont want to imagine the knife.but yes somehow it would be great to have another kid
• Trinidad And Tobago
3 Apr 09
Just forget all others,, just take the opinion of Zandi,, she will give u the BEST,, Go ahead,, ur child needs the Company,, Kawal said soooooooooooooooooooo
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Mar 09
No way 36 is to old bombshell. I know someone who just had twins at 38. I think it's good to have children when your a little older because you have more patience and have more fun with it.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
ALSO a good point Jen
• United States
31 Mar 09
I don't think so, my mom had me at 32
@pavan4568 (122)
• India
30 Mar 09
I always hear, people saying it might pose problems to women if they like to conceive baby in 30's but i also see the facts that many women conceive at the age of 40's as well and my wife is 27 but we are planning to have a baby in a yr or so even though i agree to the fact that if you are healthier, you can go for a baby in 40's since i am scared if she or the baby might have any health problems.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Mar 09
thanks and i have my first child when i was 30 but caesarian.we plan the CS before i got pregnant BUT getting pregnan again not sure,i still have doubt it.god luck to your wife too
@getnbuy (1312)
• United States
30 Mar 09
If you wait until he stops saying we will see it will be too late! If you want one, get pregnant now. it only becomes harder with age. it is also harder to carry and have one as you get older. I had one when I was 38 and it was no picnic.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Mar 09
thank you
• India
29 Mar 09
Hi, yes its a bit risky for you as well as for ur baby too...1st of all to get pregnent, then u need to take very much care through out pregnancy and last n main thing is health of baby... other factor is to care of ur baby after giving birth is also difficult compare to ur first child as u will be around 40 to run after ur baby when she will learn to walk, to play, to eat.... that all required too much of energy....as other members have said many celebreties have their kid around 40 but they dont need to take care of all these things as they have so much money n can take help too.. if u have all the facilities like celebraties and ofcourse support of ur family specially ur hubby than u need not to think...otherwise u need to think many time before taking a decison...but nothing is too late if u really want.... All the best..
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
yes....yes they have money even they are a bit older having a kid i do agree your point.thank you
@riyasam (16556)
• India
29 Mar 09
medicine says there are certain risks on becoming pregnant as one grows older but since you have no risks or health problems,why not consult your gynaecologist and give it a try,afterall we see many celebrities having a baby after 40.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
i know but first i am scred to get pregnant specialy i am caesarian dont want to imagie the knife.second yes it depends the health
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
30 Mar 09
For the record NO. I have seen folks get pregnant after age 30; My sister for one. But your best bet is to check with your doctor to see if your able to do the job and gear up for it. The best to you.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Mar 09
sure i will.thank you
• United States
29 Mar 09
my mom was 40 when she had me.. a lot of celebrities are having babies at 40 so i dont think so
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
so maybe your mom was very healthy at 40
@srganesh (6340)
• India
29 Mar 09
In the older days,where they don't use or unaware of contraceptives,people had given birth to so many children at all ages.So,your age will not be a great bar to have a pregnancy now.But in this modern days,we don't have the strength and stamina of the old day peoples.So,it will be better to consult your family doctor and check out whether you are healthy now to carry another one.If the doctor says okay,then go ahead and have another kid.Cheers!
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
great thought.thank you
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
hi bombshell! i also have a 4 yr old son .and he's always asking for a baby brother or baby sister.and last year we never planned having onother child but i gave birth last year to a twins at the age of 36..and i see nothings wrong with it as long as your health is okay its not risky at all.its not too late getting pregnant at that age not unless you are 40 plus.most of the women today they got pregnant at the age of 30 above.have a nice day!
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
wowwwwww thats great news! twins? my husband side ahs 12 set of twins.maybe my next pregnancy will be twins since hubby┬┤s first marriage has twins boy and girl but laready 22 yrs old.
• China
30 Mar 09
To this,you should go and see a doctor first.Have a thysical examination to check out that your thysical status is suitable for having another baby.It the most important thing for you to do.36 years old is not a age with some risks to pregnant.So you ought to pregnant with great care. Wish you have a lovely baby.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
30 Mar 09
yes i will visit the OB and thanks for the sudgestion
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
29 Mar 09
It is not too late for you to have another baby. The trouble is if you will be able to. I think that for some reason, the baby making factory in some women goes defective if there is too much time when one decides to have another baby and then tragically they either cannot conceive or they have miscarriages. It also could be that your ability to make babies has already stopped even though you still get your periods and I sort of thing that your husband knows that the longer he says "we'll see" it will get to the point when it will shut down entirely. Oh I do not know the time period. It is not too risky to carry a baby at 36. I have friends, one in her 40s who is expecting and one who is past 35 and is also expecting, and there were those I know in their 40s who had babies, and the only one that was born a Down Syndrome child, the mother was young. So there is nothing to worry about, you will make our fine. I wish you luck. I love babies and children.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Mar 09
It all depends how energetic you are and if you are healthy enough. Me except for that problem of having Vd and my fallopian tubes damaged, could easily run after kids and my health problem - diabetes- demands that I run around chasing little ones and not sit on my backside all the time. I would suggest that you talk to your doctor and see what he or she says. And you also get a second opinion. And also depends on your natural lifespan or when you start to become old and slow down as to whether you can handle kids. But I really wished that you had had another child a year or two later then your first because your daughter probably wanted a younger sibling then.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
thanks .yes i love kids too but somehow its too risky specialy health and others said when i get older lost of time and power needed to chase the kids around so i doubt it.seriously we will see then needs to convince hubby first because i dont want to make my own descesion
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@madasp (563)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I will be 37 in a couple months and I have a beautiful and healthy 6 month old baby boy. So no I don't think 36 is too old. As far as the risk, there are women in thier 20s who have high risk pregnancies and women in thier 40s who have easy pregnancies and healthy babies, so I think it depends more on your health and genetics than your age. If you seriously want another, It would be easy enough to talk to your doctor now to see if he thinks you would be high risk or not. Good luck in whatever you decide
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Age 36 is not too late to have another child, unless you are already into early menopause. However, if your husband is less than thrilled about the idea, that should tell you something. You mentioned that your 5 year old daughter seems lonely. By the time the child is born, she will be at least 6 and busy with her school friends. With 6 or more years between them, your children would never be playmates. They won't even be friends until both of them are grown. I speak from experience, as there was a gap between my brothers and me. We are friends now, but when we were children, I considered them pests.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
30 Mar 09
I have many friends who have had children in their thirties. It's not to late. I would love to have a baby, but without a husband, I won't do it. I'm already in my 40's.
• Israel
30 Mar 09
It's to late for me to get pregnant, but not to late to marry. I can always adopt or pay a woman to be pregnant for me.
@chatta (15)
• Canada
30 Mar 09
Thats it! you go girl! and when/if you find a husband you are still way young 40's 50's whatever! .. great thinking!
• United States
31 Mar 09
There are soooo many answers and questions. Italy is paying couples to have children since there are so few being born and they worry about the next generation of workers... Then about 2 billion people on the Earth are starving or malnourished depending upon the month. Some people think that we are over-populated... I watched the Dali Lama (sp?) recently point out that each of us are God's gifts but there are so many of us... I'll soon be 60. I'm the father of one daughter who has 3 children. She was about your age when Ian was born. He is so special. what a gift! Have you considered adoption? Or donating eggs and sperm for infertile couples? As far as you 5 year old daughter, siblings greater that 3 years apart rarely "enjoy" each other. My 3 year 2 month older and I did play some but he and his friends frequently told me to bug off. My 12 year younger brother and I shared a bedroom and early on he got on my nerves, then I did a turn-about and regularly spent time with him. While he's a right handed, he shoots pool left handed, for instance, since I'm left handed, and taught him to shoot pool. It is especially important to have both potential parents on-board to procreating. Your waiting until around 30 for your daughter was wise assuming it was an intentional waiting. Be sure your husband is on board if you decide to proceed. Personally being a parent shaped who I am today and I believe that each adult should strive to share in creating and rearing a new person. You've done that. For most of human history each woman had many children. Most women are "wired" for it. Our genetic history has not prepared us for technology and our "successes." If you are a normal woman, your body wants more children. What does your mind say? Get clear, be responsible, and do not regret your decision. Life is full of choices. Be blessed. Steve
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@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
29 Mar 09
Hi Bombshell You are never to old to have another child and to add to your family. I think any new life in the world is a bonus
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
hehehe you mean like the sayings" life begins at 40?
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
29 Mar 09
Yes it can begin at 40 and may we have many more years ahead of us