Is $20 a week too much to ask?

Australia
March 29, 2009 5:57am CST
I just started a discussion about how lazy my housemate is with her share of the houseowrk - she basically does nothing. My hubby & I have invited her to dinner tomorrow night to have a talk with her about it. If she still refuses to do her share of the housework (we've tried talking to her before) is $20 a week too much or too little to ask for if I do her share?? I NOT going to do her share unless she pays me. I may sound mean but she is WAY too LAZY & I'm not her mother to pick up after her - she is 18 after all & should grow up if she doesn't want to live at home.
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@succed (879)
• United States
30 Mar 09
That's is why I hate room mate / housemate whatever you call it mate. NO WAY! they eat your food, they dont wash dishes, they leave thrash all over, they drink your juices and milk in the refrigerator, they refuse to buy their own food. They just basically a leech living in your house or I should say a giant live termites eating you up, LOL Really! get rid of her.
• Australia
30 Mar 09
I wish I could but at present I wouldn't be able to afford her share of the rent.
• United States
30 Mar 09
Try putting her dirty dishes on her bed. Maybe she'll get the point. LOL
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• Australia
30 Mar 09
That's already a rule in this house - last to go to bed turns on the dishwasher or they'll end up with the full racks of dirty dishes on their bed :)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Is that a fee on top of rent, or is that all she is paying?
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• Australia
30 Mar 09
It sure is...this is because my hubby, my other housemate & myself all do housework including mowing & she doesn't.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
29 Mar 09
that is not even enough. we had a house guest several years ago and i fed him (he did his own laundry) but he used our heat and hydro and what not (he was working at the time) and we charged him $100- a week!
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• Australia
29 Mar 09
She pays her part of the rent & her share of the bills but won't lift a finger to help :( I caught her the other day, putting something in the bin which filled it & she couldn't be bothered emptying that bin into the outdoor one grrrr
• India
30 Mar 09
Your house is quite big I would say. $20 should have been fine if she did her share of work sincerely and honestly. As you rightly said she is old enough and should understand this by herself. If she doesn't understand this by herself both of you should talk and come to an agreement. If you have a friendly and understanding relationship then you are the best judge on how you should tackle the situation but I think given the circumstances $20 is on the higher side.
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Honestly I don't know if asking for money to do her share is the answer. We have had many many people live with us over the years. The older folks were the more they chipped in with household stuff without issue. This girl is pretty young. She's probably never lived on her own before. One example: We had a young couple live with us at one point. They had their own space but also used our kitchen, garbage, and main living area. I didn't worry about their living space, as this was their own and I didn't have to go into it. However whenever I asked for help with dishes or the main area I was huffed and puffed at. They eventually moved out and said I acted too much like a mother. Later they came back and said that they were sorry, years later. After they had someone move in with them who also did not help out and realized what had been happening. Sometimes one has to have experience in a situation before they realize that you really are not being unreasonable. Either way I wish you luck.
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• India
30 Mar 09
It is totally depending upon the person who is earning. it is also depending upon the social & economical life style that the person live.
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• China
30 Mar 09
Well that is a good idea.If she does not do her share of work,then pay you to do it instead.Concerning the pay,it depends on the price of labour in your country.For my country ,it is too much .
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• United States
30 Mar 09
i think that you might be opening up a can of worms with that one. If she pays $20 a week, then she will be able to make any mess she pleases and if you say anything in the future, she can simply tell you, I paid the $20 a week you wanted. CLEAN IT UP!! I would worry more about IF it's a good idea, not about the money.
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• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Eject her if she won't do her share cleaning. There is no point in asking for a pay for you will end up her maid. Would you like that to happen to you. Tell her point blank that she is not the owner of the house and she should learn to clean the house.
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@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
its good that you will talk to her first and observe if she really obeys what you have said to her. If for example she act like same as usual, then i think $20 per week is not that bad. Anyways, you will do her share in household chores, its not necessarily about the money but your effort to do it. It is somehow a lesson for her and Besides shes already 18 and considering that shes not living in her own house, then she should take effort not to be a burden to her room mate.
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@succed (879)
• United States
30 Mar 09
If I want a room mate I better have a detach room for them where they can have their own private entrance that dont have access to my house or kitchen whatsoever.
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• United States
29 Mar 09
dang i know what you mean that really annoying. But shes only 18 years old and $20 a WEEK really adds up. i think $10 a week is pretty reasonable. hopefully doing that will make her change her ways, i dont know. i guess all i can do is wish you luck with that but if she doesnt shel prob be gone off somewhere i mean shes 18.
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29 Mar 09
dam right cheaky mear, i would not say anything about her paying you to do her house work you have 2 options 1) no reason your bills have gone up so just say you need a £20 rise from everyone in the house or she will have to leave (obiousley only charge her) 2) start a roter of who does what when tick it off as it is done if she dont want to do her share kick her out n rent the room to some one else simple sorry she is takeing the p**s
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@coldmoon (1092)
• France
29 Mar 09
You'd better look for a new housemate, you can say this directly to your present one. I don't know the nature of your housework, but 20$ a week for cooking, washing dishes, cleaning house, going to market, gardening, pressing, ... is too cheap. Moreover, a good relation shouldn't concern money, it's as if you become her servant, with a certain payment. Another solution may be separating her life, so she'll have the meal alone and do it by herself, she'll do her laundry by her own, etc.
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@venchaul (541)
• China
29 Mar 09
yeah,she should afford to do the housework as your housemate, afterall she is old enough to do that. And just as what you've said you are not her mother,so you deserve the reward if you do her share of the share. Of course when we consider it from the friendly way, we can help her! But not always like this! So I think you's better talk to and reach the agreement with her about how she should pay you! GOOD LUCK!
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Does she pay for anything towards the house? If she doesn't then $20.00 is too litle to ask, I would atleast charge $50.00 if this person doesn't do anything at all, or pay for anything at all. The economy is bad, everywhere, and $20.00 can go a long way as to helping you and your husband. Before you set a price for her to pay you, think of what work you would be doing and what she does or doesn't do around the house.
• Australia
29 Mar 09
She pays her own share of the rent & utilities & buys some of her own food but doesn't pay for her share of the household items like milk & cleaning products or toilet paper. She works at a bakery & brings home free bread & other treats sometimes for all of us to eat.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
29 Mar 09
To be honest it kind of sounds as if she doesn't know that what she does is not enough. Maybe talking to her about what she can do to help would be a good start. I'm just suggesting, and of course I don't know if you have already done this or not but it's something to think about. If she's young (like I believe you've wrote) then she may just be uncertain of what is required of her / taking a vacation from what she was already required to do at home. I hope this helps!
@nishdan01 (3054)
• Singapore
30 Mar 09
Are u sharing the house with her? You seem to have a good idea. 20$ fine for not cleaning the house? I would say it would depend on the area of the house. You can calculate this way. If you take 3 hours to clean the area, you must see the average working wage in your area and multiply by 3. If the rate in your area is 8$ and you take 3 hours to clean, then you must fine her an amount of 24$.
• Australia
30 Mar 09
I never thought of it that way, here in Australia, the average cleaner is paid $16.50 an hour & I vacuum every day & mop 1 - 2 times a week plus empty the dishwasher with everyones dishes, etc.
• United States
29 Mar 09
I couldn't agree with you more askin for 20 is not much and she should give that to you in return for all you do for her. I have a roommate that has been staying w/ me for 2 months now and he dosn't work, dosn't help out he watches me do it all. I have fineally had to lay it all out like it is and i wasn't nice about it. I told him to "shape up or get out!" I just think that where i took him into my place to help him out the least he could do is have some decency towant to help out. We'll see how it goes now i have said my peice to him.
• Australia
29 Mar 09
Good luck with your housemate - let me know if he has picked up his act
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
it depends how big is your house of how comfortable she is.if she is not comfortable i am sure she is not paying that much.20 is too much if she is only stay there for seeping not the whole day but its up to her to descide
• Australia
29 Mar 09
The house is quite big - 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, 3 lounge/living areas. There is a mutual living area & she has her own which she has left to be a brothel...I don't think she has swept in there in over a month & in the past month, she has been here for at lease half of that.
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Maybe $10-15 is enough for a week. you may suggest her to apply for job so that she can contribute a lot bigger.