if you friend has a better job than you, would you jealous?

United States
March 30, 2009 4:44am CST
If your friends have a better job than you, for instance, better income, better work environment, and better benefits, would you be jealous? Would you thought to yourself, you are such incompetent person, who fail to find a decent job. In that case, would you consider struggling for a few years, gain more experience, and find another better job opportunities? Or you won't care less?
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@ying470 (60)
• China
31 Mar 09
I don't,I'll glad,for he is lucky!Then,we went to a drink.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
31 Mar 09
I agree I think this is the only way to respond and to keep a friendship blessed be
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Apr 09
Jealousy is a useless emotion that causes people to behave in most unacceptable ways. If a friend had a better job I would be happy for her; if you can't be proud and happy for your friends what's the point? Jealousy would not change my situation if I was unhappy; only positive thinking and actions would make a difference.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
I would definitely be happy for my friends that they are able to get good jobs. I may feel a little envy but I would rather focus on making a challenge for me to do better at my work so that I can get promoted or I can find a better job. There will always be people who are better than me and I will not compare myself to others so that I will neither be too proud or too disappointed at myself.
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Hi there clorissa123! If my friends would have better job than I do, I will not be jealous. This is something that I will never envy my friends of. If my friends have better job, better income, better work environment, and better benefits, I will definitely be very happy for them. In fact, I really do have friends who are in this situation. It does not bother me that much. I just think about having the same opportunity one day.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
No I will never get jealous because I understand that each and every one of us has different meaning and purpose in life and I can have my own time. I will still have to work harder in order to succeed and can achieved what I want in my life. Jealousy sometime can be fatal and self-defeating, so I never entertained any jealousy in my system when it comes to my friends' achievements. I only compete with in myself. I will be very happy with my friends achievements and I will make it as my inspiration to work harder for myself.
@med889 (5941)
30 Mar 09
In this case I will congratulate him/her firstly and then I will try to see if I can improve myself instead of being jealous. I know what i'm worth and Its so good to know that.
• China
21 Apr 09
yeah,you are right,i stand in your sides! if i were that person on that post,there is no doubt i will not being jealous.i will improve my advantage and correct my weak points,work harder and harder. i always be confident with myself~
@neztin (476)
• Singapore
7 Apr 09
I will not be jealous of such a trivial matter. Of course I will congratulate my friend be it because of his competency of just a matter of luck to get such a good job. I think whether my job is good or bad, has nothing to do with him, so I wont be jealous at him. we should be happy for him instead. I should ask myself, what makes him able to be able to get a better job than me, if we get the same qualifications and such, and then maybe aksing him for tips in landing in good jobs. In a nut shell, if I am satisfied with my job, I wont be jealous at him.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
1 Apr 09
well, it depends on how better a job my friends has. if it is better in every sense, then i guess i will be envious. yes envious but not jealous. i'm sure there is a price to pay for everything. maybe the better job comes with more responsibilities than i can shoulder. or maybe i just don't have the necessary qualities to carry out the job. so i guess jealous won't be a sensation i will experience. i am pretty satisfied with my current job. i guess i'm just not an ambitious person. cheers
@gtdonna (1738)
2 Apr 09
No I am never one to be jealous of my friends successes, I wish them well and even encourage them when they are job hunting. IN my country there is a saying, Always help those going up the ladder of success, because when they reach the top, they will pull you up with them.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
2 Apr 09
If my friend has a better job than me i won't feel jealous.My friends are all getting high amounts of money.I will try my best to get a good and decent salary job.If i don't get a job i will try to get experience and then try to look for better opportunities.Its all about the challenges we face in life.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
2 Apr 09
No need being jealous. I would try to get that friend to get me a job there. though. If not, hey, there are other things out there.
• Romania
3 Apr 09
No, I won't. First of all I am not the jealous type. More, I don't wanna hurt myself or suffer for ... things like that. Envy, jealousy, make us 'damages' and I love myself enough not to hurt myself. Second, i never looked for a comfortable, ordinary or well paid job. I work with passion, money is not the first thing I hunt. I don't think that's better, depends. I am like that and I feel good, I even consider me a lucky person. Bad moments? Yes, maybe, but forgot already...
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Hey there! No, I won't get jealous. Not at all. I would be happy and proud of my friend for achieving one of his goals. If you haven't have an experience don't be surprise. It's okay. You should be encourage to work hard and gain knowledge so that you'll get a better job too. Have a nice day. Happy posting!!
@fasyahime (629)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 09
i don't care..it's her/his life,not mine.even if she/he richer than me,i don't give a damn..i guess that's why i never success yet..jealous actually can encourage us to be competitive with our friend..i am not picky with work,i usually choose work with high salary and nice environment..i don't care much about with work benefit.i plan to open my own business one day,so every work i get,i will try to gain experience from it..huhu
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
31 Mar 09
If I'm truly their friend then I'm happy for their fortune of finding a great job and I would continue my search for the job that makes me happy or that I'm finacially happy with.
• Australia
31 Mar 09
I might be envious, but I wouldn't be jealous. If someone I cared about managed to get a really good job, I would be happy for them. I think people get too caught up in what other people do and how much they earn. It's the person that they are that matters, not their job or their money.
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
For me there is no reason to be jealous at all. I want my current job. This is my first job actually after graduation. I like programming and I enjoy being on my job. My office hours is flexible. I can arrive at the office late and just stay late to compensate any missed number of work hours. I am satisfied with my current job. I can say that the salary is not really big compared to other companies but I can support the schooling of my siblings through it.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
1 Apr 09
My friend does have a better job and honestly I am very happy for her and I am not jealous. I am in the middle of finding my dream job and she is supporting me through it and I support her. SHe got her dream job while still in college and now I am working through it.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
31 Mar 09
No, I would be happy for her or him. I love what I do but if I did not, I would think that if my friend could find a better job, so can I and it would motivate me.
@Eweniks (361)
• Nigeria
31 Mar 09
I can never be jeaslous in this situation, because for my friend to be such a higher position is a kind of hope for me. If my friend can get there, that simply means I can equally be one day. If you appreciate your neighbours good fortune, God will remember you, and promote you in whatever you are doing. So, insted of being jealous, work harder to attain a better position. You can compete, but don't be jealous.