Do you let your maid/househelp eat together with you during lunch or dinner?

Sometimes, we do let them eat on our table if there's enough space. It's just 7 of us in the house anyway (including the househelp), and we consider them as a part of the family too. On that note, I hate seeing people who treat their househelp like trash. One time we were eating in Pizza Hut and this woman didn't even let her maid eat anything! There she was hogging on pizza and pasta, and the maid just looks on hungrily as her "madam" eats. There was this one food item which was almost untouched, and you know what this certain madam did? He told the waiter to throw it away! What a wicked employer... she should have at least given it to her maid. Tsk, tsk.

when i was working in cebu as a working student to a great family yes we eat together.they treat me like part of their family and even now we have a washer i pinas or who ever she is helping me for daily works yes we eat together.

Hello modstar, My mother will do the same too. For her, all are human beings and there is no difference between the maid and the employer. I don't mind too but honestly speaking, I think there must be a line between the maid and the employer. You can treat your maid nicely but not at the same level like you are treating your family members. She still needs to have some respect for the employer.

yes i let our maid to eat with us during luch and dinner and it doesnt matter if she's just a maid.i know some families who doesnt want the maid to join them when lungh time or dinner time.but for me,its ok and theres no problem with that.we also need to treat our maid good so that they will work nice and properly.

At my grandfather's house, the helpers and the houseboy eat at about the same time we eat and have the same food we are eating. We just do not let them eat with us in the same table -- not because we do not want to eat with them but because there are 3 helpers and one house boy so there is not enough chairs for all of us.

yeah we do... what we eat is what they also eat... We treat them as one of the family, coz you have to trust ur lives to them when u bring them to ur home.

Hi modstar, so far, I don’t have any maids to help me in doing the daily household chores yet. I could see from the movies only, most of the maids serve the whole family to have meals. After all the dishes are readied on the dinner table, she or they just standing aside waiting for further service asked by any members of the family. If I were to have money to employ a house helper, I would like to find one who has common interests with me, so that we could chat harmoniously sitting together having our three meals daily I prefer to treat the house helper as one of my family members. I would feel uneasy to see the helper standing aside when having my daily meals. happy posting.

We had a maid when we were young... and they always ate with us during dinner or lunch time... i always thought that was the case in all homes... but i was wrong when i ate lunch at one house with two maids... they only ate when the owners of the house were done eating... and when they were finished with the dishes...

i have maid in the house, and yes i let her join us every meal.. and its more happier to eat together with her and my 2 kids, they have a lots of things to share during eating actually, and behind my mind, aha their doing those stuff pala.LOL its more easier to know her better if that would be the set up. i dont treat her really as the maid in the house, but of course she has to do her job ,,,

I'm the maid in our household, and if I don't get to eat with everyone else, some ones head is going to roll....lol. In households that do have them, I'd assume that they'd eat before or after the meal is served. If they were sitting at the table with the family, who would serve the meal?

No it does not happens at my home. House maids eat after us. But what you said if they will eat with us then i wont mind. Another thing is that house maids like to eat after we do because so that they can take the remaining foods with them. I was great to discuss with you.

we dont have maids, but if we have then i find its good to let her eat in the dining table with us. It will be a good family together, maids can be a member of the family and not to be treated like slave. they have feelings and the most important is we respect them. They can work better for us when they know they feel safe and happy. Happy mylotting and smile always!

My family had maids before and it is the law of my parents that they eat with us together.My parents consider them as a family member too,my father will always say that it is rude to treat others differently because they are not your level.

Hi modstar, this may sound funny to you, but my maid gets to eat breakfast before us. Lunch and dinner of course, we give her the food, which she takes home and eats along with her family. But breakfast, she has before us, and as much as we do, if not more. :)

My mum's housemaid has been on long service and she has become one of us. Since we are not staying with my mum now, she become the housekeeper, cook, nurse and purchasing lady for the household. She accompanies my mother on her holidays abroad. She will dispense medication to my mum for her heart problem on fixed schedule on the advice of the doctor and plan out her diet. She eats together with us when we go back to my mum's place.

We just had a new maid last week and I really don't mind when she joins with us during lunch or dinner :) In fact all the more I encourage her to join us so that he won't feel ousted :) I guess it's just a way of showing respect to them :) of course they also deserve to be treated like one of us :) During my years growing up I have maids around me because mom is so busy with her work. Mom instilled to us during our young years that we should love our maids just like her and so I grew up with those values. :) Besides, the maids are the ones who cooks our meals so if we don't treat them nice they might add "some dirty stuffs" on our meals.. if you get what I mean.. :)

Yes, we have a househelp and she eats with us. there are only 4 to 5 of us eating together and the table sits 6, so why not eat together? and besides we alwys do some serious talking while eating and the talk concerns everybody in the house. Also, it's waste of time if the househelp eats separately and it would be boring for her.

Oh a maid automatically becomes a part of the family so there's no special instructions whatsoever that doesn't allow him or her to join us during mealtime. In fact, some maids become so at home they eat ahead of time. My mom used to encourage our helper before to eat when she's hungry. Before breakfast she could even have access to our coffee or Milo and bread because according to my mom, they are working for us therefore they need enough food for energy.

Same here, we do not have maids... Well, when we were younger, we had maids (one for every kid in the family) because my mom and dad were usually busy so they had no time to look after us.. I remember that we usually eat together... My parents do not mind at all... but i have seen those who do not allow their maids to join them on the table. Like my friend and my auntie... Maids have their meals in a different room and they can have it after the family they are serving for eats...

yes we do!!! we treat our maid like she is one of my family... we treat with respect and fairly.