Would you exspect an invite?
By smartie0317
@smartie0317 (1610)
United States
April 6, 2009 1:34am CST
I know this girl Anna. She goes to the same college as me. I met her about two years ago in Jan. We were taking the same major prerequirement. Anyway, she seemed like a nice girl. She didn't have a car so we take the bus together sometimes. We talked. I thought of her as a friend, but not a great one. Well, once June comes I stopped seeing her despite having her email and cell phone number. I let it go, because a lot of people at the school tend to go to are only friends with people during classes. About a year ago, I kept running into her in the local shopping district. She said hi and introduced me to her fiance. I kept running into her more because she worked in a local coffee shop I go to, and still go to. The thing is, I hate to be mean, she's not very smart. She got fired from the job and another one. Now, she works in a store my mom goes into often. Sometimes, I go with my mom, but not always. She's always nice to us and about 4 months ago gave me her number and email, and we do chat on and off. It just seems when I ask to make plans she always busy. Well, I haven't gone to that store in awhile. I go with my mom today and she's nice as ususal. I see she had a new necklace and it's cute. I'm all great necklace, where did you buy it? She tells me the city and adds that's where my wedding is gonna be. So, I say, when are you getting married? She says in June and I say of? She goes this June. I'm all
and trying to hide
. So, I ask if she was going to wait to grad? I know she's not grading any time soon, and she told me her wedding was gonna be after she grads and she's a year younger than me and not even in her major (I asked her a few months ago). So, I'm all good luck, but secretly still sad and annoyed. Am I over reacting? I mean, I don't wanna be a bridesmaid, but I didn't even know she was getting married this year. If you were me, would you exspect an invite?
I talked to my close friend, who doesn't know her, and she says I should just get over it. :(
and trying to hide
. So, I ask if she was going to wait to grad? I know she's not grading any time soon, and she told me her wedding was gonna be after she grads and she's a year younger than me and not even in her major (I asked her a few months ago). So, I'm all good luck, but secretly still sad and annoyed. Am I over reacting? I mean, I don't wanna be a bridesmaid, but I didn't even know she was getting married this year. If you were me, would you exspect an invite?
I talked to my close friend, who doesn't know her, and she says I should just get over it. :(1 person likes this
2 responses
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Hi, smartie0317! Well, I think that you should not expect an invitation to her wedding. She seems like she is not into you. I would just continue to past her by and speak to her and let it be just that, nothing more.. If she stopped comunicating with you, chances are she was already involved with someone else.

@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Considering she's getting married in June, which is only 2 months away, I think the invitation boat has sailed away. I guess I just see where I stand with her now and am slightly annoyed.
@Dugsmom (279)
• United States
6 Apr 09
When she gave you her email address and number did you call her? Did you two hang out together (like go to the movies together, spent time a each others houses, get together for lunch??) If not, maybe that's why you're not getting an invite. maybe she sees you more of an acquaintance and not a friend. Maybe she's just inviting her closest friends and relatives.
Something like that happened to me but with a neighbor. We used to meet at the neighborhood park and talk while our kids played. We even got together for coffee and hung out at each others houses. Then one day I found out that she was having a Bday party for her son (who is only 1 year older than my son). Our other friend (I'll call her Sue. She's also a neighbor) called me and asked me what had I bought for the little boy. I said that I had a gift (I bought one because I knew his bday was coming but I didn't know he was having a party since "my friend" didn't tell me) but didn't know there was a party. Sue got so upset, and told me she'd call me later. I found out Sue called the other friend and asked her why wasn't I invited.
To make a long story short, I ended up getting invited but I felt like such a baby! I knew I wasn't really invited...I was only invited because Sue told the other friend to invite me. it was very uncomfortable at the party and I wished I had never gone.
I think you should just move on and forget about this other girl.
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks fcor replying. We emailed and called on and off. Not like regularly, but not like once in a blue moon. As I was telling another poster, I just now see where I stand with her. I'm annoyed. I don't want a pitty invite either. From now, I'm not going to fequent that store, because I don't wish to deal with her.



