"Mommy what is a stripper?"
By happymommy3
@happymommy3 (2012)
United States
April 8, 2009 11:26pm CST
Yep, beleive it or not that is what my 10 year old daughter asked me today while at the store making a purchase. I guess she saw a magazine with the woman who had tons of kids recently and next to her picture it said something like Nadya was a stripper in her past. So as I was giving the cashier the money for my purchase my daughter asked me that question. The cashier and a couple of people standing behind me in line giggled and I just told my daughter, we will talk about that later. I think I was in shock at the moment that she asked me and so loud. It wasn't her fault, she didn't know any better. I haven't talked to her about it though, we got home, ate dinner and did homework and I guess got too busy I forgot about it untill now, lol. She is getting to that age now where I don't have to go into detail but she does need some kind of explanations for things but sometimes I just wish I could still hide those kinds of things from her but she's getting older and it's impossible. How did you or how are you dealing with these kinds of questions with your children? What kind of questions have your children asked you that were difficult for you to explain?
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@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
9 Apr 09
You did the right thing to tell that you will explain later. I used to babysit a child and asked me the same question. It is uncomfortable to explain those kind of thinks which is related to sexuality or something with the sort. I told the girl that "it's a job where a person has to do ...a sort of dancing in front of people. Sometimes, that person has to wear clotheless things or nothing. It's not a good job because the body is sacred and it shouldn't be showed to random people. However those people don't have the choice because they are short on monney, got kidnap and were forced to do that, or decide to do this on their own." I think I insisted her to be good at school and get a good job. being a stripper wouldn't be an honor to the parents. I told her that but I didn't want her to be judge people about their job and respect everyone. So I think words have to be chosen carefully.
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@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Well first I want to say she is your daughter and you have the right to do whatever you want to. But for me I would be honest with mine and I will tell you why, I would rather her here it from me than someone else about what a stripper is. I guess she is young but more than likely very smart and I think she could understand what it is, if you choose not to say anything I understand but if it was my daughter I would tell her. Hope this helps and take care and happy mylotting happymommy3 
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Sep 09
This would be a great opportunity to tell your daughter frankly just what a stripper is and also instill a few of your own values in her. This can be done without judging the stripper but simply telling her what you think. She will value your thoughts and also more than anything...your openness and willingness to talk openly.
I know exactly how you feel,grown up things are coming along now.The only advise I can give you is be honest don't get embarrased or she will never ask you anything.Good luck