Making better choices help us live better....

@mimpi1911 (25475)
India
April 13, 2009 5:06am CST
According to JOHN GOEKLER the most dangerous thing on earth is not TERRORISM but the way we view life. That way I am my foremost enemy, the most dangerous person in the World!! . According to him, 1. The things we fear most may be least likely to occur, which means the time, trauma and treasure we invest in them is a complete waste. 2. Security itself is an illusion. No army, insurance policy or explosive sniffer can protect us from our own immune system.. 3. The only things that can truly make us more “secure” are not things. They are the courage to face whatever comes with dignity and intention, and the strong relationships which assure us that we are going to fight it together. Imagine what the world could look like if we made a conscious choice to live out whatever time we have with courage, compassion, service and joy. We can make better choices. Credit: John Goekler
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
13 Apr 09
I fully agree. We cannot live in fear. Fear deprives us of life, of living. Fear makes us prisoners. What is going to happen, will happen. If there is anything we can do to stop something bad from happening, we typically do rise to the challenge but it's useless to fear the unknown! "Choose your battles" is a phrase I live by. The word "battles" in that statement means "fears" as well. If you cannot do anything about something, why worry? It's going to happen however we live our lives. It's better to have lived our lives with happiness and intention than to cower in fear. I made that conscious decision years ago. Having lived through the "cold war" by doing what I could to make my life and the lives of those aroud me a little bit better, even if it was only by smiling at someone, has kept me sane and I can honestly say that, should I die tomorrow from terrorism, murder, or disease, I have had a pretty good life, all in all. I have done the best I could with the time I've had. I can die a happy person with very few regrets. John Goekler, in my opinion, definitely knows what he's talking about!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
I have been following your thoughts for some time and I find you to be absolutely gorgeous and steadfast in your beliefs. You are strong and I know how you have been battling it out. Be the way you are and trust me, you are an inspiration for many like me. And coming to your health its not the life style disease its something that you have no clue about. So, hang on there! John Goekler indeed knows what it should be and how it should be. Fear is a deterrent towards healthy living and even though I succumb to it at times but then I compose and try to live life in a constructive way. we can make better choices, anyday. Thanks.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Thank you so much, mimpi! My health does get me down occasionally because it's hard to live every day with constant pain, especially when the one place I SHOULD be able to turn to for help (the government) refuses to see me as I am. I complain about my husband sometimes but it's not like I'm doing nothing else... I try to make it better, to make the right decisions. Even though I cannot understand why I am afflicted by so many diseases and syndromes, I always find ways to work around them. Then, even with the constant pain, I can feel happy about myself and what I've accomplished, in SPITE of my disabilities. I was able to plant two potato plants yesterday. I know it's not much, but I now have two potato plants in the ground that weren't there the day before! I plan to do as much as I can each day, as my symptoms allow, and I can live with myself and even smile occasionally! If I can be an inspiration to even one person, that just makes all my efforts worth it.
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
Health is a worry but see how positively you have taken it in your stride. There are many like me who are blessed with 100% health but with little motivation to plant a sapling! I feel so guilty sometimes but then I try to work it out and DO it instead of thinking it. I am so glad that you are living it and not escaping it. You are a beautiful brave lady an my inspiration.. Kudos to you. Hope you have gone past the snow storm and awaiting more stuffs from your green fingers... Hugs.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Hi mimpi, you are so right my dear friend! We are our own worst enemies! That is what I have always been told! We create our fears and sometimes our own miseries! There are some things that only we have control over if we let ourselves! If we change our way of thinking and believing we can change our lives! We can help ourselves live longer and be stronger and healthier just by changing our way of thinking! We actually have control over these things and the power to change them in most cases! Think about it!
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
Indeed! I have experienced this with my own life. a little change in outlook and attitude have helped change my life so much!
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@dpk262006 (56784)
• Delhi, India
13 Apr 09
Hi! Mimpi! Great words by Great John Goekler!Thanks for bringing these beautiful and meaningful words to our knowledge. I really liked it and I also feel that it is 'we' who has 'secure' us before any outside agency does it for us. If we fail to take care of ourselves, we just cannot fight the outside world. It is true that we need to face the ever growing challanges, traumas and agonies in our life with an iron hand. If we are not strong in our hearts of heart and if we cannot make us understand the realities of life, then no one can safeguard us. Our positive thinking drive us to face the adverse situation and we must be strong in our thinking and should have good amount of self control on ourselves.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
True Deepak! Our sense of security should come from us first and foremost. We must ensure whatever we can. Like doing small things like taking care of our health, caring for relationships. being little wise and prudent, not going by the scaremongers...this way we can make a huge difference.
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@dpk262006 (56784)
• Delhi, India
13 Apr 09
Hi! I totally buy your arguments. We need to cultivate some positive thinking among us and should not feel deterred to see scaremongers.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
16 May 09
@rainbow (6763)
6 May 09
He is mainly right, 80% of things we worry about never happen and if they do we have to deal with them so why worry before, just in case, lol? I do not worry unless I really have to and if I have done all I can about a problem I forget about it. I try to give to charity when I can and sometimes when I can't really afford to. I eat natural foods and try to be a good person, if I mess up I learn from it and forgive myself. I do not fuss about material things and how they look, if it still works that will do, Most importantly I try to do something each day that makes me happy because that is what life is about.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
16 May 09
I have always wondered the reason behind some people's happiness and this could be the reason. No wonder living it minimal and keeping it simple makes up happy. Be fine and continue on the good stuffs. Love and hugs!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 May 09
@JenInTN (27548)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I like the way this guy thinks! I believe there is more to life than fear and hiding..you have to live. We have to take some things in our own hands. We can't control everything but we should what we can when it comes to our futures and happiness.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
Fear and anticipation of untoward things make life worse. we must have control over our lives to as much extent as possible.
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• United States
20 Apr 09
Ok, here is what I think... These are the kind of discussions we need more of here at mylot, anyway.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
Thanks so much Tanner.
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
15 Apr 09
making worse choice can lead us to a wrong way ,and better choice give us hope and really great . i often try to reduce my worse choice and sometimes it is not easy for me /
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
14 Apr 09
It is the day and age of fear everything and most people realy don't you know. The goverment how ever does. They make us go oh no we are going to be in danger of this group or that group of people. And Yes we can make better choises as we al know. I anser the phone every day to the choises I made and try to fig. out how to pay them. But yes I do agreee. You have a great day
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
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@rocketsky (1014)
• China
14 Apr 09
making better choices is really important for us to realize . i think it is our ablility to make a good choice and we should use our own sense to judge things correctly :)
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
14 Apr 09
Hi mimpi. Life is a matter of perception and choice. It is not to be feared, although fear is a natural human emotion. We all crave security and a guarantee of a peaceful life but the first lesson is that there are no guarantees in life. The majority of it is out of our control and yet here we are, everyday attempting to hold on to natural course of events. When are we going to get it? It cannot be done, it cannot be pre designed by us, we can only learn to manage it and that means that we may not have any command over outside events and people but we can sure have the power to decide how we deal with them and that has to start with the knowledge that we can handle whatever life throws at us. I agree let us make the conscious decision today to live with integrity, compassion and joy. Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you is determinism; the way you play it is free will. (Jawaharlal Nehru)
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
Beautifully explained!
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@healer (1783)
• India
13 Apr 09
Yes i agree with you on this point, once i heard some one say that 'what we are is not what we are capable of but what are is what road we choose to take'. There are people who have fast analytical powers and these people can do many things and the thing he choose to do matters. The way we view the world might not be the way the world's view for us but what we do and show the world matters the most.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
We must take charge of our lives and in the process be responsible for what we do. Regretting and fearing only make things worse.
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• China
13 Apr 09
I agree with you absolutely.The article makes me remind those days when I chose the university I would go .That was a bad memory.I can just say that I didn't think my future in advance so carefully that when many choices faced me ,I didn't know which I like best.At last,I chose a university I had never heard before.I came here just accidently.So now,I often feel puzzled.I don't know what my future will be like.But I have to say,I have lost one chance to make a better choice,however,what I can choose now is to do my work wholeheartedly.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
21 Apr 09
Never regret things which you do not have control over. Just do you job well know. Be attentive and into it and love the things you are doing now. I am sure you will be a winner.
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@mimiang (3770)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
so in other words , optimism is the key to a better living
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
14 Apr 09
Optimist, positive outlook, and believing in our dreams help us live abetter life, anytime.
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
13 Apr 09
he is right mimpi,we can become our own enemy by the negative attitudes.all have their own struggles and problems,it is how we choose to fight it determines our courage and our will to live.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
14 Apr 09
By not allowing ourselves to develop our senses of courage, steadfastness, determination we only grow backwards. And just by making sure a few things, by making few choices we live so much better!
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@hxstar (510)
• China
13 Apr 09
Yeah,I can not agree more.Life is short,we should make better choice to help us live better.His suggestions are wise.I like the second tip particularly.I will try to follow the suggestions . Thanks for sharling.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
14 Apr 09
Thanks hxstar. We must be responsible from within and do our bit and also taking care of out life and adopting a healthy life style would ensure a secure life, I guess.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 09
This is very timely and we needed inspirations like this one. I believe John Goekler has come up with such wonderful wisdom in such a conviction that he holds and adhere from. Sometimes, we failed to look up the things that we already possess and reject those things which are not really there. A good one !
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
Hi torcha! WE humans, are amazing. We fail to see whatever laid in front and skip it for the worse. Fearing for something undefined has no justification. We fear about the terrorism (in no way I am lessening the issue or terrorism here), but we are at ease with our erratic food habit and unhealthy life style! We pass on the blame to some other factor! Strange isn't it!
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
13 Apr 09
it is true. Actually our perspective about life makes us life different to us. But all these things like terrorist attacks etc are happening when w least expect it. it is making us scared. If we think, what is to happen will happen, then its ok.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
Yes subha. Its the attitude with which we face life is important and not being just another scaremongers. Fear kills us before we die and what's the use of an undefinable, abstract thing!
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@med889 (5958)
13 Apr 09
Yes he is right. If we think negative than we willdo negative and if we do negative stuffs then we are dangerous people. It is all in our mind.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
Indeed! Negative begets negative so why not think positive and attract positive. Fear does not take us to anywhere. We only live a life of a coward. Why not do things that are under our control, why not live it!
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• India
13 Apr 09
thanx for telling how we should view our life , earlier i used to be an angry and arrogant boy , but now i take life in a positive attitude. actually now i really feel happy , and this is only because of one of my friend who totally made me a saint from a devil . well so now i take life in a very happy way .for we have only 1 life to spend so we should spend it happily.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
13 Apr 09
That;s so good to hear Kapil. Thanks to your friend who has changed your views. Making choices in life is important and I do wish that you live life full of courage, constructive determination and a healthy life style. Happy Living
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