Still No Clue...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
April 15, 2009 7:32am CST
Jill’s at it again. This time Jill and Marie go to a store. On the way, Jill says that since she’s holding a check for Marie that instead of cashing it, she wants Marie to pay for her groceries. Marie agrees. At the store, when their checking out, Marie pays for her groceries and Jill’s. When she gets home she tells her husband about it and he asks if Jill gave her the check she was holding. Marie looks puzzled and says no. He tries to explain that if she paid for the groceries she should get the check back. Now Marie is really confused so she calls Jill and Jill goes over it again…finally agreeing to pay Marie for her groceries and then cash the check she is holding. Marie has a raging migraine but thinks it’s solved. A couple days later while visiting Jill, the topic comes up and another friend slowly explains that since Jill kept the check that actually Marie had bought Jill free groceries…finally Marie catches on and Jill is laughing about it. They finally get it straightened out but Marie is feeling dumb as a rock in the meantime.
Would you have caught on right from the start or did it sound like a normal arrangement?
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Actually when she told me about the thing at the store, it sounded reasonable to me at first...Hubby explained it when I got home. I'm not a blood but I do have a blond streak in my hair, does that count?
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~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I would have to blame it on the blond streak and keep that as your story lol lol! Good luck with the Mom and Step Dad lol lol
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Ok so this is the 2nd similar post I've read about Jill and Marie...are they hypothetical questions or are they real people? In this situation I'd have perhaps forgotten to ask for the check right off but it would not have left my mind for long. I am poor and can't be buying other people's groceries. Putting this and the other story I read together, I think I'd write Jill off as a friend. Obviously, Marie is spacy and not paying attention and very obviously, Jill is taking advantage of knowing that Marie has this problem. She is not much of a friend. Marie is way too trusting, a bit spacey and maybe has too much going on in her life. I would not presume her to be "dumb". She probably doesn't think like that because she is not like that. Jill on the other hand, should be ashamed of herself. She is taking advantage of a friend and does not seem trustworthy at all. Marie is too good a friend for her. Jill does not deserve Marie's friendship at all.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Actually they are in fact real situations...not only that but I am Marie, Jill is my Mom and John is my stepdad. This situation happened just the other day and I really wanted to find out if I'm dimwitted or if perhaps I just don't think things through all the way. My Mom has a way of saying things that it sounds perfectly allright so I don't think twice about it.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Marie should consider herself to be extremely fortunate that her husband is wise and understanding enough to look out for her when people try to take advantage of her trusting nature.
Marie should make lots of cookies and stuff so her husband knows how much she appreciates his care for her, despite the fact that if she keeps that up she will probably bankrupt them.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 Apr 09
LOL Yes, he is a wonderful man...his ego is a little inflated since he got all those MyLot proposals but she still loves him. Oh, and if he wouldn't gobble up his cookies so fast they might last more than 1 day 
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I'd like to think I'd catch one but I had to read this twice to make sense of it. People depend on confusion when they rip off people. I don't think I like Jill very much!
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I think that's alot of it...she talks like in circles and she makes it sound perfectly reasonable so you don't stop to think about it. I love my Mom (Jill) and I think I just need to be more careful when I make decisons with her.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
15 Apr 09
if Marie has a migraine I can see why she didnt catch on right away
seriously marie needs to whoop jill's a$$ and walk away from that so called friendship!
Jill and John are NO GOOD for Marie
eventually it will start effecting Marie's relationship with her b/f
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 Apr 09
LOL I don't see any a** whooping going on seeing how I am Marie, Jill is my Mom and John is my stepdad. I think the best thing I can do is be more careful in the decisions I make and talk them over with Hubby before making them.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
15 Apr 09
you can still give them a verbal a$$ whoopin'
I dont care if she is your mom she has no right treating you like that
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@bayernfan (1430)
• Canada
16 Apr 09
The third sentence says it all. The fourth one indicates that Marie is getting hosed. The only way that things work in Marie's favor is, the check is for Jill, payment has come from Marie, the groceries are of equal value and Jill rips up the check. Otherwise, Jill should be paying for Marie's groceries, the total equals the amount of the check, and the check is destroyed before it is cashed. Of course, Jill could have just handed the check to Marie and paid for her own groceries, but that would have been too easy. 
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Apr 09
Marie needs to pick her friends alittle better I am thinking. I am relatively sure that this probably is not the first time this has happened and I wouldn't care for the user mentality of Jill's. Marie needs to get on with her life and incircle herself with a better level of friends. I really think she can do better and seems nice enough she certainly deserves better. It gets old after awhile even if Jill is a friend.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hi twoey! I think that Marie needs to stay far the hell away
from Jill and her husband needs to make sure of it! Jill is
taking advantage of Marie! It is obvious that Marie has a
problem and is not too smart when it comes to math! So if Jill
is going to keep playing games with Maries money she needs
to stay away from Jill because she can't trust her! Jill is
just being plain mean!
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
Oh Marie, Marie, Marie...Jill's done to you again! I don't like Jill at all, she sounds like a manipulative person who enjoys taking advantage. I responded to the previous 'Marie' discussion and from Jill's description it seems that she is playing poor old Marie like a puppet, it feels like she's saying to her husband, "I'll get her again, watch this..."
I don't mean to sound harsh but I feel I am similar to Marie; always obliging and willing to lend a hand and I have been 'conned' by the Jill and Johns of this world more than once or twice. I am hoping I am wiser now; stories like this make me so mad! 
Marie should have a stern chat with Jill letting her know she won't be putting up with the games anymore!
Marie should have a stern chat with Jill letting her know she won't be putting up with the games anymore!1 person likes this
@PrarieStyle (2486)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Honestly? I might not have caught on right away but when I finely did, you can be sure I would have made sure I got the check or Jill wouldn't have gotten her groceries.
I don't think Marie is "dumb as a rock" but probably just too trusting.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I sincerely hope this isn't a "true" story. I think that Marie's husband needs to have a serious talk with her, and she needs to find a better friend then Jill. Anyhow, I make it a point never to cash friend's checks. I let them go handle that themselves, and if they don't have a bank I recommend cashing it at the bank it is drawn at, or using a money exchange for a slight fee. I also have never asked a friend to pay for my groceries and I don't typically pay for their groceries, unless it is in a dire emergency. The way that Jill went about this one is more like a con, and I wouldn't consider that something a friend would do. I'd drop her as a friend, and quickly.
Namaste-Anora
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
15 Apr 09
I would have thought something is wrong. I would have gotten the scam artist to go to the bank, and cash the check and give me the money. It would not matter if I had a migraine, was in a wheelchair, had the black plague,and there would be no need to tell my husband because I would not be caught in such a situation.
It is very simple.
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
I like to think i would have caught on but i might not have...but after i did catch on - esp after the last episode with the gas and being paid 10 dollars to work but ending up working for free i'd be pretty ticked and feeling pretty used by jill. I might even tell her that it was time to pay her own way and that id like that cheque now.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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15 Apr 09
Hi twoey68,
Now this time Marie is really dunmb but Jill is not friend to her for doing that. If I were Marie, I'll change friends.
Tamara
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I have to say I would have gotten the check back and the amount of goods has to equal the amount owed. In all honestly the best way was to accept the check and cash it instead of bartering for goods over it. Sounds like people playing to me.
@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Okay I read some other responses here and I see the big picture now. I'm sorry that your mom has a way about her that makes you think what she's doing it okay. Sometimes it's easier to be manipulated by family because you "want" to have that certain trust with them.
No, you aren't dimwitted. I think you were just want to see the good side because it's family; however, sometimes its family that you need to protect yourself from all along.
@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I am not sure on this one, sounds like a con job to me. both parties should pay for there own groiceries. she had a check, she could have gottin it cashed.
