What will you do?

choice - which is your choice betwwen mum and lover?
China
April 16, 2009 9:16pm CST
There is a old story.when your mum and your wife fall into the river at the same time,and there is no one else can help,who would you help first? If you have to make a choice between your mum and your wife in some circumstances, what are you going to do? In other words which is more important between Mum and Lover in your world?
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19 responses
@freerr (667)
• China
18 Apr 09
Many people will save one who is nearest to him. This is a wise answer and avoid the difficult part of this question. For me, I also can answer like this, but I know maybe auther just want to know who is more important to you between mum and wife. For me, mum is more important than wife. I think for you, the answer is the same, you just don't want or can't to answer. Reason? Easy. I don't want to say many big truths, just give a assumption. If now, you get a full-length paralysis, you will be in bed in the following life, who will leave you, who will not abandon you . Search your heart and ask, you will get the answer.
• China
18 Apr 09
Hi dear friend,nothing can compare with maternal love.It is the most valuable love in the world.At this dilema,you have none of hesitance of the answer.I have the same idea. In addition your english skill is good. I find your profile we come from the same country.I am glad to recognize new friend.hope we can contact closely!best wishes!
@freerr (667)
• China
18 Apr 09
My english is good? No, in my company, i am the one of most bad people. Just come from the same country? I come from zhengzhou, hehe. I have sent you a message in mylot to say this before. You must forgot, I think you can remember that after that , right?
• China
18 Apr 09
Oh ,my dear freerr ,PLZ forgive my bad memory.I remember you we came from the same place.The world seem to be small. i appreciate your english ,you are more modest. best wishes for my colse friends.
• India
17 Apr 09
Hi friend, their is no choice in such situation. If I start thinking whom to choose than I will loose both of them. In such situation I will try to save one who is nearest to me by distance so that I can take her to the bank of river and try to come back and save other one also. In such situation we cannot think of choice in mum and lover. Even if my sister is their in place mother my answer would be the same.
• China
17 Apr 09
Dear MAHESH2008 ,thanks for your answer and i think your choice is reasonable.You should be a wise person.I admire your wise and far sighted choice. Many people can not give proper answer.Both mum and lover will be satisfied with this answer.
• India
17 Apr 09
Thanks friend, ( i hope we are now friends). I have heared hti sstory long back but in that story their is sister in place of mom. And one would get confused whom to save the one who is a lover and given all her life for me or the one whom i love and care and my responsibility o see her happy as brother is more than any one. In fact in such situation nothing comes in mind. Only thing is one has to start acting and thus the best way is to save whoever one can save.
• China
17 Apr 09
Hi my dear friend,now we are really frinds.You english skill is more better than me . You described this story more vivid than me .To be honest i have no definite choice before your answer.Thanks your good choice!best wishes !
@online_jon (1478)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Hello my dear friend damojinghong, good day to you. I also know that old story and it was revolving in our place for a very long time period and every people here in our place have their own different ideas in answering. But me if will be arrived in that kind of situation, i think i will go save my wife than my mother because of the reason she was my mother and he will understand the reason why i save my wife and i believe she will also want to save my wife than to her. Well, honestly speaking that kind of situation is very hard to be encounter, which in order to be happy you must atleast save one particular life which is your parents or your wife. Even in many kind of situation, there are many times that you need to make one good decision. It can be compare to our heroes in our country which their sacrifice their own life to save a great number of people. I hope you get my point my dear damojinghong. But if ever i will be given a chances to save my mother and wife together I will never lose that kind of oppurtunity and being a person who are having heart to be pump and alive, I think as long as i can, i will go save many lifes. This thing is some kind of being a hero as I remember my father told me when doing good and protecting your loveones, "The strong men fight for himself, but the stronger men fight for the others". with this advise of my father I realize the good inspiration that it give to strong in life. Well, i guess i am slightly far from the discussion. But all in all i will go save the right person to save. Well, that's all my response in this discussion entitled "what will you do?". Thank you! Your topic was really nice and very interesting! Happy posting and happy earning to everyone of us here in this site mylot. Good luck and God bless us always
• China
18 Apr 09
OH! Dear online_jon,you answer is long but very useful for me or others . I got your ideas.Actually it is a rare dilemma we can encounter!This is just a story or a assumption.And I admire your father he is great.[b]"The strong men fight for himself,but the stronger men fight for the others".This sentence will in my mind for ever.Thanks for your detailed answer.best wishes for your family.
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Your welcome! Same to you my dear... Happy earning to you! Always take care and God bless you always together with your family.
@nzalheart (2339)
• India
17 Apr 09
Hello damojinghong!!! This question is really very difficult to answer. I pray to the god that let me fall myself into the river, but don't let such things happen to me...For now certainly mum, because I don't have a wife yet lol. This doesn't mean not the mum, if I had a lover. I love my mum very much.....
• China
17 Apr 09
Yes you answer is also right .in my mind it is right that you rescue anyone of them first.from you words i think you love your mother very much you are filial piety.hope after married,your wife is not a one like jealousness.best wishes for your mum!
@nzalheart (2339)
• India
17 Apr 09
Thanks....
• India
22 Apr 09
well i think you can never decide whom you wanna save in this situation , moreover in such situation if you will wait to figure out whom you love more , it will be a disaster . you should just jump in their n try to save them both catch the one you can get ur hands on first and them dive again to save the other one . hope this horrific situation will never rise with me or any of you .
• China
23 Apr 09
your answer is great.we must save them at once .it is no time for us to think. thanks! best wishes!
• India
19 Apr 09
Both are important to me. But if they fall in river then I make use of my mind. First I help my wife because by doing this we become two person to help my mother as well.
• China
19 Apr 09
Yes you give another wise answer.you choose your wife first in order to save your mother though your wife's help.do you think what can your wife do to help you. difficult choice and variable answer.happy mylotting!
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
hi, nice question to start with. if i am a man i guess i will choose who is the most nearest to be saved. i will not care if it is my mom or my wife, but what will matters to me is i will save the one who is nearest to my grip. assuming that they are both far and i need to swim to get them i will go first and get a life jacket and then in the middle i will throw it to my wife then i will go and swim to my mom. why because surely my mom is kind of old enough and may not longer bear the coldness of the sea. while doing so i guess i will also ask the help of somebody so that one can help the other also. well, no one can compare the love of a mom, i believe no one even the wife. can you imagine the agony and the risk that a mom has to bear in order to give us life and to bring us to this world. imagine the nine months of pregnancy not to mention the hardship of giving birth. that is incomparable as i should say.
@fergus (817)
• Ireland
17 Apr 09
Hello, Mom she carryed me for 9 months i can aways get a new wife but not a new mom.
• China
18 Apr 09
Yes we have only one mom in our whole life.She give birth for us.We should choose her first in emergency situation.You are a good son .best wishes for your mom!
@agv0419 (3027)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
This is difficult question and I'm still single. If I going to save someone I think I'm going to save my mother I love my mother very much. She can't swim faster now so she's the one I'm going to save than my future husband. He's young and he can be able to swim and save himself than my mother.
• China
18 Apr 09
Many thanks for your response !Yes mother is older than husband so we rescue her first. Hope you find you lover early and he will be a good swimmer.
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I've heard of this saying before. They use this alot on television shows. This is such a rough decision. From my point of view, I would try my best to save both of them. I'll see what I have in hand and see if I can manage to pull it through. If not there's always calling for rescue. Someone nearby can help me. If the situation is thrown to me now, I would save my mom since my lover can swim. So there you go, I've decided. :-)
• China
18 Apr 09
I think it is not a difficult thing for you,because your wife have the survive ability,swim.Thanks for your anewer.If both of them can swim it will become more easy !
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I cant choose.I mean,thats hard.I would try my best not to be in the situation,if I have to avoid rivers and seas I would do that. Choosing who to save between the both is very terrifying.Even if you would save one of them,your conscience will pay for the other one.Its totally torture. In that kind of situation I think I would be crazy.I would cry for my mom if I loose her,and I would be longing and crying for my wife/husband if I wont save them. Im not really new at this thing,a friend had asked me about it already.He said,the mom would give way.Instead of saving her,the mom would ask you to save your wife.He said the mom will choose to be in danger because she have lived her life and its fine with her to go. For my REAL answer,I dont wanna choose,instead i would save them both.At least I tried saving them even im seconds late.lol. How about you?whats your answer?
• China
18 Apr 09
This is a really difficult situation for anyone.You are right whether rescue first. It is a hard choice.It is terrible that any of them lose .you choose both of them.Your answer confirm the truth of your full lover of both.I agreed with your choice.
@cream97 (29164)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Hi, damojinghong! Oh wow! This is a hard one to choose from. I would have to say my mom. I love my husband with all of my heart. Lord knows that I do. But, being that my mom is not alive, I will choose her because I would want her to be in my life and into her grandchildren's life as well. My mom is very important to me because she gave birth to me but my husband is just as important because I made marriage vows to God and to him. And he is also the father of my three children. I would have to save them both.
• China
18 Apr 09
Dear cream97 when i know your answer I am very moving.I dare to say you are a filial daughter,a reliable wife,a great mother.Thanks for your answer,best wishes for your whole family!
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Gosh, it is a such big decision to make in such situation. I really don't know the answer to it. Probably I can't choose by the moment. It will a such dilemma that I couldn't choose myself, and I won't have time to think it through.
• China
18 Apr 09
Yes clorissa123,this is a difficult choice for anyone.But i think it is right rescuing anyone in time.thanks for your attention!
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Gosh, it is such a big decision to make. Everyone should have a hard time to choose, and everyone should have a big dilemma. I really don't know the answer. At the same time, if both of them were at the water, I don't have time to think it through.
• China
18 Apr 09
You are ringht .when we face the emergency ,we can not have more time to make a best descision decision.come to this dilemma,anyone you rescue first regardless,you are right .
@sinokirin (902)
• China
17 Apr 09
Hmm,so difficult, you know i have heard the question for long time, and once i was been asked, i would make a laugh,and never give an answer,well, in fact, it is an unhappy question,if i shoud choose,i would choose to save the people who is nearer me. Mum and wife are all family members,and i love them both,and if something happen,i couldnt let anyone hurt them.so, it is the right answer?
• China
18 Apr 09
Yes it is not a easy choice to choose.I think it is a rational answer rescuing the nearer one .They are both important we can not lose one of them. Thanks for your response. best wishes for your family!
• India
17 Apr 09
Choice .the best one should be selected, bt in case of mum or wife its like choosing any one eyes out of 2. Now it depends on indivisual how they look @ the choice, if one select wife then he is more practically thing for "future" throwing the past to "dustbin"[ie mum ]. and if one select mum then he is a emotional fooool that he is preffering the old life spend so far , not expect any change in life [wife] Bt if You can convince both then:::: let mum take the major decision in the family [experiece] and wife take the usual day to day decison then the conflict btween these both will minimaze bt not end . Coming to the river dumm story ......Here the water in the river is "Ego"......just try to satify their both ego the u will never find any water ...thus both would be saved @ once Hope u understand the importance of both Wife[knife of life], mum [Sole of life]
• China
18 Apr 09
Hi emtechsan,i feel your answer is full of philosophy.Both of them is important for a son or a husband,even the whole family.thanks for your philosophical choice and answer.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I think in that situation, it will not matter who I love more. What important is for me to help them. What will be on my mind is to save them both. So what will happen is to make a logical move, save first the one who is nearer and easier to save then save the other one next.
• China
17 Apr 09
Yes it is really not matter who I love more in that case.you give a good choice. Thanks for your response ! happy mylot!
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
@MAHESH2008 gave a very good response. And that's one good lesson in rescuing. But how about if you are at an equidistant between the two? Which is which? This has been asked in some of our team building exercises and there are lots of funny answers. Some said, they would go for their mother because one can find another wife but you only have one mother. Others choose their wives because their mother is too old already. But the lesson here is more about forward thinking and being pro-active and not on making the best choice. If we make decisions taking into consideration all the possible consequences, then we don't have to be on such position where we have to choose between two great persons or things in our lives.
• China
17 Apr 09
Hi eichs1,I also agreed MAHESH2008 .But you put forward another confused question .I think it is a very hard choice for many people.As you say there are so many possible consequences that one can not make up his mind who first!But i think whether you rescue first you did a good decision.It is stupid if one hesitate to a rescue.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
17 Apr 09
whichever's closest or die with em
• China
17 Apr 09
thanks for your response ! simple answer and simple choice! are you last choice really ! Do you want to die with them ?