How To Understand People And Make Them Happy

India
April 17, 2009 12:14am CST
It is big question for anybody. Is you know how you can understand others or how you can make them happy. People is ggreatest asset of this world. But understanding people mind is itself very typical issue. So I start this discussion so that anyone here know hoe you understand people and how you make him happy. In present world, only we can understand any person when we are in close relationship with him. Otherwise his feeling is beyond our controls. But is we come in relationship with anybody then there is no meanig of relationhip in itself. overall first we need to understand the person then we come in benevolence with them. Share here your opinion about understanding people and there life as well.
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14 responses
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 09
Neerja! Hi! Happines is state of our mind and it can only be felt. Happiness cannot be defined in words because you may feel happy seeing sun rise and I may feel happy seeing the sun set. Perceptions differ from person to person. It is difficult to make others happy in today's world. What little we can do is that we should make them feel 'special' when we talk to them. We should tell others that they are equally 'important' for us. We need to appreciate others for their positive traits to make them happy and we should try not to hurt anybody.
• India
19 Apr 09
I know it is state of mind but if I want to make other people happy then what are the things which I can do for this.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Pl. offer your services to them to make them happy.
• China
18 Apr 09
Try to consider standing thier position.you can image you are this people,if you were him ,what didn't your do.this time you will do something that making their happy.some times.maybe some people's relationship is not good.so we should treat it carefully www.qlpearl.com
• India
18 Apr 09
We can think about other position only when we are in there position in our past. Otherwise understanding other is very typical.
@pal7604 (98)
• Sweden
17 Apr 09
I admire your courage to understand others to show your love towards them. It is not an easy task! Life is Love and vice versa. I do understand the feeling when you want others to feel happy by understanding them. You see you cannot understand everyone's behavior just to please them. Life and love is beyond that. Happiness is a feeling that each and everyone of us decides. It is a personal gift that each of us develop and accept. You will be consumed yourself if you can't see that your purpose is not attained and become unhappy yourself. You are not God therefore do not expect to be one. There is no state of perfection in life on earth. Happiness is measured beyond the human material needs. There is the heart and spirit to also take account for. There are things in life that you just have to accept without being happy. Monday can be a sad day but there is still Tuesday, Wednesday etc. to consider. We have to move on with our lives. The past is gone, the present is now and let God take care of the future. We are not here to please others but to please God by showing our love and care for others. The happiness part, we have to decide ourselves. You take care and don't stop loving others.
• India
17 Apr 09
Thanks for replying such a long comment. I want to understand people because I want everyone to be happy. If everyone is happy then automatically this world changes in to heaven.
@nurseia (40)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Understanding people is a skill. First, you have to get to know the person. Listening to others wants, problems and needs is a key factor. Sometimes it is hard to understand ourselves. We must learn to know our own likes and dislikes first before we can understand others. If we know ourselves, we can then begin to help others and gain lasting relationships.
• India
18 Apr 09
Yes, you pointed very important thing that if we can understand ourselves then we can understand other as well.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
If you want to understand people you must have a broad mind. Your mind must be capable of processing other peoples qualities, behavior and way of thinking. Humans are complex in nature. Making them happy is something that required your best. Sometimes,you have to sacrifice your own happiness just to make other happy.
• India
19 Apr 09
I know sacrificing ourselves is itself a great source of happiness for anybody. But we sacrifice only for getting right result otherwise no body wants to sacrifice.
• Canada
17 Apr 09
making some body to happy is very hard to do ? if need to make some body happy ? first understand the person spend some time with that person daily share every thing and make you thoughts as they think ? do what they need to be happy ? and share you thinks to them make them as you follwer so if do it so they can be happy
• India
19 Apr 09
Main thing is that if we spend some time with him then our time is also consumed in this. I want tquick result for that.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
There are some people who are very difficult to understand. But constant sharing of thoughts and ideas will make you understand them. Gvie positive advice to them.
• India
17 Apr 09
yes i understand people's working mechanism very well , i started this something around when i was in 5th or 6th , but believe me it has not profited me in any aspect . i mean to say is if u understand people too well , then u will discover that no one is urs in this world. this felling causes too much pain , so wht i would like to tell u that u should be wht ur from nature and not try to change ur self to know people because sometimes it also makes u fell like a machine more than a human .
• Netherlands
19 Apr 09
I think you can really only understand people entirely if you take the time to get to know them personally, know their likes and dislikes, know where they are coming from, know how they think etc. then if you happen to agree with them or even if you don't you will have a chance to make them happy. Of course you can probably understand people or a culture in general and understand what they are like and their beliefs but just by knowing this does Not necessarily make them or you happy.
@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I don't think we can understand other people completely but we can try. I think we can try to see things from the other person's perspective. Otherwise, if we've never experienced the same problems the other person is going through, it might be kind of hard. We can help each other at least. Kathy.
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I don't think you can understand any body all the time don't matter how close you are because I do things myself and I don't know why I did it Good night
@Jenniferp (210)
• United States
21 Apr 09
I think that it is impossible to really know what it going on with people. I have thought that I knew so much about people and they have surprised me. My mate is also an enigma to me at times; hard to pinpoint what is exactly going on. I think that humans are so complicated that at times, we are unsure what we are thinking and why.
• United States
17 Apr 09
I don't think you can really understand people until you have an understanding of yourself. When you know what makes you happy, what makes you angry or depressed, it helps in developing meaningful relationships. I think it makes for better communication with the other person. If we spent more time, getting to know ourselves, it may be easier to understand another but then again we are constantly evolving (hopefully) so I think the best thing to do is focus on your own happiness - spiritually speaking. happy people attract happy people and so on...
@nathanq (29)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I want to ask this question too. I used to think if I care someone, he/she'll be happy with me, but it turns out that it's not really true. People feel happy if I have something they want or I'm worse than them. I found it's realy hard to understand people.