How many do you have?

@p1kef1sh (45681)
April 21, 2009 4:42am CST
I just received some spam that suggested that I should shop early for my "No 1 Mom". Now I appreciate that in these days of multiple marriages and relationships it is quite possible to have a number of women who have had "mom or mum" in their titles. But only one of them will be your birth mother (or adopted mother if that is your circumstance). That doesn't necessarily make her your favourite Mom/Mum of course. Who is your No 1 Mom/Mum - your birth mother or someone else?
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
21 Apr 09
My Number 1 Mum is my birth Mother of course! (She gave birth to ME by the way and it wasn't the other way around) And she's not to be confused with that other person's Mother who is of course THEIR number 1 Mother. Same goes for all those other dudes and their opinions of their own Mothers as well. I think there's really no other option but to have a "Battle Royale" type event on Mother's Day itself and we'll crown the last standing Mother as the true and undisputed number 1. It does seem only fair and those spammers do deserve to be accurate once in a while.....
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
For a moment I was concerned that the hormone treatment had been overdone James. The thought of you giving birth to your mother is too much to bear. Handbags at dawn! I can see it now. The bunting, the neatly folded overcoats. Hats firmly pinned to their coiffeured heads. Mums do battle. Rolling pins secreted away in the bottom of the bags to add more weight. First round - family photos - "Here's little P1ke when he was just two months old". "Awww. But I'll see you and raise you one with James on his potty at 6 weeks. He was such a fast learner"!!! And so on and so forth. Henry VIII had his field of Gold - our Mums will have the Field of dashed dreams! LOL.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
21 Apr 09
I can see and feel the setting and atmosphere as we speak..... Kind of like the Colosseum in terms of crowds and arrangement, with screams of blood curdling rage from the Mother's intertwined with equally loud calls of "MILF, MILF, MILF" from the rampant young men watching in awe! (Directed at everyone's Mother but their own of course so as not to invoke the wrath of Oedipus!)
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
MILF or MILK James? LOL. Beware the Ides of March - and save us from the flower of our youth wishing to deflower (again) the mothers of their friends.
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@ElicBxn (63194)
• United States
21 Apr 09
oh fishy one, I think they are saying that each person's mom is their #1 mom
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
But they aren't always are they? LOL.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
21 Apr 09
No, they aren't but the bad ones don't get ANYTHING!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Actually some call their mother in laws mom/mum.. or god mothers that also.. and some like to get their grandmothers something to on mother's day. For me, my biological mom is my number one mom..You know I could just never bring myself to call my husbands mom,mom..I tried once and it just got stuck in the throat a bit and just never came out it felt soooo wrong..and my husband doesn't call my mother, mom or anything else but her real name. Maybe he didn't feel right doing it either.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I wasn't so lucky to have any children. So I guess I will never know if I would have ended up calling her granny or not. She was a hard woman to try to love.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
I didn't call my MIL "Mum", but I as pleased when our daughter came along and I could call her "Grandma".
@anonymili (3138)
21 Apr 09
Erm yeah that is weird haha! It's just the wording of the spam I guess - the people who send out this crap are not exactly rocket scientists and don't often even speak English as their first language so they might have even been implying that you should buy a gift to show mum she's no.1 BUT who else would be your No 1 mum? A valid discussion and food for thought. I can imagine yes, if you had a birth mother and a foster mother or adoptive mother for whatever reason but generally the people I know who are adopted refer to their adoptive mother as their real mother and don't have a relationship with their birth mother who abandoned them at birth or a young age (whatever their reasons might have been). Personally I have one mum, my birth mum and even at this age if I found out she was not my birth mother, I would not consider anyone else as my mother as this is the one who's loved me and supported me my whole life and she's my best friend too!
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@anonymili (3138)
21 Apr 09
That's what I like to hear, loyalty to the one who's always been there for you. x
@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
That's how I would be too. My Mum is my Mum and no matter what, the bond that I have with her isn't going to change.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
21 Apr 09
Hi p1kef1sh, My "real" mum put me and my three sisters into care when I was a teenager, so because of that I've always had a difficult relationship with her, doesn't stop me loving her but I don't like her. I was fostered to a couple and they are still very much a part of my life and I don't know whether I strictly think automatically that she's my first mum but my children do think of them has their real grandparents because they have been the constant influence in their lives since they were born not my real mum.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
That's kind of what I meant this discussion to be about Scorpio. We may well call someone " Mum", but they are not necesarily the eron that we think of as being the proper holder of that title. Now I'm confusing myself!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
"eron" = person
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Dad married.... a lot.... Cathy, Maggie (sister cerrie), Maggie (sisters amy, michelle), Maggie (me), Mary (Kimberly), Carol, The *Itch, and didn't marry but has lived with for like 17 years - Sally. Father's dad is so much simpler because Nathan didn't count. *sigh* Mom is Mom.... no tops, not fighting, just as it is. But there are people I admire that get mom's day cards... just because the are great mom's.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
Right I think that I got all that. LOL. But Mom is Mom isn't she. No one can take her place.
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
22 Apr 09
If you did then I'm proud of you..... I usually have to draw a map.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I do have two mothers..my biological mother and my adoptive mother...but neither are my fav....My adoptive mum well you know the story and my birth mum I've never met.....SOOOOO my fav mom would have to be my husbands mom..whom I love dearly..
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Apr 09
meh...I'm up and down...the bf and i split up last week...my husband company shut its doors on Monday with no warning and the weather cant seem to make up its mind whether it wants to be nice and spring-y or cold and crappy which of course makes my body go nuts LOL....Hhmm I'm okay I guess LOL
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
Most of us have our favourites - it's just which one. How are you anyway. I've not seen you for a while?
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
Well you sound like you need a cuppa to me. The British solution to everything you know. A nice cup of Rosy Lee! It'll come right. If there's anyone that I know who'll make it right, it's you. XX
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Well, as my birth mother and I did not get along, I guess the only other person that I have looked to as a mom, was the landlord where I lived for so long. She was there for me no matter what I needed. In fact she was there for all that lived in her houses. She made sure you had a way to the doctor. She made sure you had the money to buy your medicine. Anything that a real mom would do for you. I love her and will always consider her the mom that I never had.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
She sounds a wonderful woman and we have too few of them. I can see why you see her in that light.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
22 Apr 09
My birth mom is my only mom in any sense of the word. But I do give many mother's day cards to people I know. Mother's day is a VERY special day for many people I know and I enjoy celebrating it with them.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Hugs and kisses, P1key!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
xxxx
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
You're so lovable Pots that I bet there's many women who look upon you as "theirs" LOL.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Thats a hard question to answer. I have my birth mother who I dislike and have never considered my mother, then there is my stepmother who I keep in touch with occassionally, but who was very abusive when we were growing up and then there is my Aunt, my real mothers sister who of all three I consider more of a mother than the rest. I don't really feel that I grew up with parents, mother or father and so don't send cards out on that day to anyone.
• United States
23 Apr 09
I'm happy that they taught me how NOT to be. Instead I gathered strength from their absence and became the better person. Hope that makes sense.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
23 Apr 09
Are you happy? I guess that's the $64,0000 question.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 Apr 09
Being a Mom, I'M my number one Mom! Like Duh! LOL My adoptive mother is. I didn't value her enough when I was growing up, but I hope I've 'made up' for it now. But then again............I adore my mother-in-law in a way that my own mother would never understand. Well thanks P1ke, I finally come back to the lot and you have me all tied up in knots over mothers, and Mother's Day is just around the corner for us Colonials, and how am I going to choose to 'favor' this year, and oh sh*t, I'm sooooooooo confused! ROFL
• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 Apr 09
Aw shucks, thanks Mr. Fish..........
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
LOL. Don't be confused Sparky. We've already had Mothering Sunday! Now that's confusing when I'm writing about it here! You have told me about your MIL and your mother before. You are lucky to have them and they sure as heck are lucky to have you. XXXX
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• United States
21 Apr 09
1 mom.. my birth mom.. i dont claim any others and i know the feeling is mutual lol!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
That's the best way to have it. Where'd we be without our Moms?
@Humbug25 (12540)
21 Apr 09
Hi ya p1kef1sh Ah that would be because it is Mother's Day in the US in May!! I have now got a new stepmum thanks to my dad!! She's really nice but nothing can beat my birth mum who is absolutely great, the best!! That reminds me, I must arrange to get some flowers sent to her! Cheers for the reminder p1key! X
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
Sole purpose of this discussion Humbug. To remind folk to buy flowers! LOL. Your Mum is your Mum no matter however many more there are. X
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@csrobins (1120)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Haha That’s true..I never thought of that like that. My number one mom is my mom…lol. I don’t have anyone else that would even come close to being my mom. Except maybe one of my friends who is very wise and I can always get good advice from her. She looks out for me before I do something stupid and genuinely cares. So she would be next in line I guess
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
Isn't it strange how when we think about it there's often someone else that looks out for us s well as our Mom.
@csrobins (1120)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Yes..now that I think about it, I'm very thankful
@nannacroc (4049)
21 Apr 09
I only ever had one mum and of course she was my favourite and even after about 20 years I still miss her at times. Never did like mother-in-law.
@nannacroc (4049)
21 Apr 09
She was much nicer than i'll ever be.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
If she was anything like you Nanna; then she must have been incredibly lovable. Cos you're a real soppy apeth!
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
22 Apr 09
Mine is my birth mother. I have always had her. Though my grandma helped mum a lot and she used to take care of me as well when mum was at work. So I do consider grandma as a second mum but nobody can take the place of my birth mum.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
That's very good to hear. I guess that we are fortunate in our mums.
• United States
21 Apr 09
I have too many mums to mention. There is my birth mother that could get hit by train for all I care. Then there is my mother-in-law, and it is some written rule that her and I will forever hate one another. Then there is my deceased grandmother who raised me since I was a baby so she is considered my Number 1 mom but she is not hear anymore for me to get her anything. Then I have my half dozen adopted moms. My friend Heidi's mom, Sandi from work, our very own Nova, my swimming instructor, my personal trainer, and even Bella gets called mom at least once a week. Wow, what a list. I think I need a nap. Which one of my moms is going to come tuck me in?
• United States
21 Apr 09
You are just being greedy now. Can't you just wait until June like all other fathers?
@p1kef1sh (45681)
21 Apr 09
Me me me!! Darn. I'm a funny looking Mom!
@GreenMoo (11834)
23 Apr 09
Well my No1 Mum is actually my Mum, but when it comes to buying Mother's Day cards the local card seller must think I have hoards of them hidden away. I always send a Mother's Day card to my grandmother, and have to send cards on behalf of my dearly beloved too. In fact, I've been known to buy something for myself before now. Card buying seems to be a lesson the males in my house are incapable of learning.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
23 Apr 09
I'm good at buying cards. Not so good at actually writing them and sometimes I have to go in the naughty corner if I have assumed that the card fairy has been and written all those cards that boys should send, but rarely do. That's partly why we get married! LOL.
@liquorice (3887)
21 Apr 09
My birth mother is my favourite (and only) mum. I think even if I had 10 other mums she would still be my favourite, lol! She's very kind and chatty and she's great with my daughter, who gets spoilt rotten whenever they see eachother. And she's funny too. She has a unique personality and sort of an old-world charm! I hope I've inherited some things from her, hopefully some good things, lol! I don't think I would buy anything for her from the site that spammed you. Based on the spam that I get, I dread to think what kind of things they would want me to buy her. ..And she's more easily shocked than I am!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
LOL. You Mum sounds lovely. I don't even know what they were selling. I just read the title! It may well have been shocking. But surely they weren't selling me little blue pills. That'd be gross!
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@liquorice (3887)
23 Apr 09
Yes, I'm very lucky. Hmm, the mind boggles. Hopefully they wouldn't market Viagra to mums, yes, gross would be the word for that, lol!
• India
22 Apr 09
My birth mother is my favorite. By the way she is the only mother for me. Today my existence is because of her and that is why I don't have any parameter or scale to weigh her kindness and love for me against anything or anyone else in this world. She is the best and I love her the most. Even not that I have graduated and doing a job still sometimes she would prepare food for me and if possible she would feed me with her own hands and I love that. Maybe I am talking a bit out of context that is because I am from India and here as you said the society is built in such a way the we generally do not have a choice for a favorite ..... most of the cases though nowadays the concept is picking up in urban life.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
22 Apr 09
I try to understand the cultural differences and can appreciate that you would normally only have one mother. Less confusing that way I think! LOL.