11 year old kills self

In urban/suburban areas these days, does childhood even exist anymore? No wonder an child as young as 11 was driven to this. I'm so glad I raised my boys in the country. My oldest especially wouldn't have been able to handle such pressure at a young age. It's a sad commentary on modern society when apathy on the part of adults, brings our children to such an end.

Honestly you wouldn't like my harsh thoughts. But since you welcomed them I think that the kids that taunted him need a wake up call along with all schools. I think the school should be charged with manslaughter and so should those kids. They ultimately killed him. And the really sad thing is this is the second 11 yr old boy who has done this. We as a society should and owe it to these families that suffer this to hold the school and the kids responsible accountable for their actions. We have to make a stand and send a message that Bullying is not tolerated. The contempt for human life that these kids had needs not to go unpunished. I am completely appalled that the school would think an apology letter would be acceptable. NO something more has to be done. We can not let this go on we have to find some way of making sure that this doesn't happen again. This is a kid who had his whole life ahead of him and becuase he was different and talked with an accent he was targeted. When did we allow our children and schools to allow this closed minded behavior. Aren't we supposed to be teaching our kids tolerance. Shouldn't it start at home? Shouldn't it continue at school? I think alot of this comes down to teachers and schools just don't care anymore. It's sad.

Life can be just plain sad sometimes.. and some things will never have an explanation.. this is one of them. It reminds me of the following song.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wve38pbGa88

It may have been me that wrote about this in my discussion about Ellen's idea to start a class in the schools on compassion and bullying. It is such a sad thing on so many levels. Parents should NEVER out live their children. Just one. And, yes, children taking their own lives. Is anything else as sad? I don't think so.

In my opinion bullying is the national pastime of kids at school. My children were bullied as well. It seems that children use this method to make themselves feel better. A lot of times the bully in school is a child with little self esteem. The child is often looked down upon in the home and takes it out on the other kids at school. The article said Education Network study showed that 65 percent of teens are bullied each year and most believe adults can't help them. I'm not sure what the adults can do to help because when you complain and the offending child is disciplined for bullying it seems to only make matters worse. I have no suggestions on how to stop the bullying but as parents we must take steps to protect our children. At times I would monitor my child's classes. At other times I would appear randomly at the school when I wasn't expected. I rearranged my schedule so I could deliver and pick up my child from school. And I stayed in the principles face so much that he had to protect my child so he wouldn't have to listen to me. They are our children! It is our responsibility to protect them. If we have to get out of our comfort zone and step on somebodies toes to do it I say the price is not to high.

Hello my friend TLChimes Ji, It is very sad, what happened with the boy. I feel, when boy brought out first time parents should have changed the school, as school paid no heads to their repeated reminders on the subject. But it is we can talk now only. Let's hope that it is never repeated. Also it is an eye opening for many who prefer to go gay and promote the same. May God bless You and have a great time.

11. By eleven I knew that it was my fate to be bullied and it would never stopped. It started with me at 8 and if I had even knew that I could kill myself, I wouldn't be here. luckily at 9 I started playing the violin so I had my own group of friends. All the a$4hole who teased and bullied me faded to the background.They never stopped but I had friends and it was easy to ignore them And by highschool when I went to more advanced classics , they started to disappear.But if I could, I would have ended it all at age 8.I am glad I grew up when I did, if I were growing up now,feeling the way I do now, I would have gone to school and killed the bully.Sadly I think this will be just a blip on the radar, I think it will take something on a larger scare, dare I say it? another Columbine.Teachers and parents think that it is a phrase and being teased is just a part of life but to the child it is the end of feeling worthy of anything good.And when it really sinks in that No One will help, thry either kill themselves or plan to kill someone else.

I know that bullying has always been an issue in school. However, the bullying that kids suffer now are nothing like the days that we were in school. I feel sorry for kids these days as it seems that nothing will help protect them . Schools have become really bad and is the one place that our kids are suffering on a daily basis. I have taken it upon myself to home school my kids as I don't feel that the schools anywhere are safe anymore.

Heartbreaking isn't it? I know what a raw nerve this hits with us Moms and I am sitting here with tears running downs my cheeks right now just at the thought of it! Solutions? Well there is no single solution. Of course we have to keep fighting bullying but it is a horrible systemic disease that will never be eradicated due to the human nature. All we can do is listen to out children be there for them and watch over them, fight for their right to live unmolested and not to be bullied in any way and always just be there with a shoulder and most of all a whole heap of love and reassurance. As someone who has seriously attempted (and very nearly succeeded) in taking the only way out I could see at that time I KNOW how easy it is to get bogged down in pain and depression that you cannot see the alternatives and very often people who have decided to take this option do seem happier and more settled as they have made the decision. We need to KNOW our children and support them! Sorry I can't speak sensibly right now I just want to cry! xxx

hi tlchimes. that is a really sad story. how can a child so young think of ending his own life? that is just not normal and indicates that there is something terribly wrong in our society now that needs to be corrected. hope we don't get to hear news like this again.

It's always tragic and heart breaking when something like this happens. However, what do you expect when adults are just as bad at bullying as children are. Children learn from example. Parents, teachers pay attention to the behavior of the children in your charge; and if you see disturbing behavior, put a stop to it.

i dont know what to say, he was so cute. it really is so sad.

the story's so sad. and you're right, no 11 year old should feel the need to escape by killing him/herself. but you know what? if you think adults are mean, kids are even meaner. i'm not saying this because they're more free when they want to say something, but what you feel as a kid has the tendency to stick with you til you grow older. and kids, well, they're kids, they say what they want without even fully udnerstanding what the consequences may be.

That is so sad. I can't see how an 11 year old can be going through such heartache like that. To the point he takes his own life. We should all say our prayers for his family.

I always had this impression that children went to school to get a proper education, not to be tortured and bullied by dysfunctional classmates until they are pushed to the edge! This kind of news really does make me angry! I remember how mean kids were in school and how parents and teachers really had no ideal what was going on or chose to ignore it. The children who bullied this child to the point that he felt he must end his life should get suspended from school or have to have mandatory weekly meetings with a psychologist.But then a lot of children learn a lot of this antisocial bullying behavior at home, don't they?

This is just sad. I've had a lot of people I went to school with end their own lives early but never that young.

No one has any clue what it's like to be bullied unless they've been there themselves. It is hard to go to school every day and be taunted every time you turn around. My last name didn't help me one bit either and I couldn't wait to get rid of it once and for all! When I got divorced, I kept my ex's last name because even though it wasn't great, it sure did beat my maiden name by far! People need to teach their children tolerance and that everybody is different in one way or another. And that no two people are alike including twins. Maybe then they'll grow up and learn compassion instead of learning to be a bully. We can only hope. God rest this young man's soul!!

hi..this is amazing to me ..what happed to that child..in his so young age..what should be affect his life and mind like this..that is the age to play...this is very sad one..

There is a lot of torment that our children have been going through all over the place. it is sad when elementary schools are having to put up metal detectors because weapons are being brought in. Many parents are now turning to Home schooling. Making the time to home school and be sure their children are getting the education they need, but at the same time, not having to deal with all of the social issues that have developed even in our younger schools. Many of these issues can be handled carefully. But, it must first start in the home. We as parents need to take the time to be more involved in our children's lives, we need to be involved with the teachers and schools, knowing what is going on every day if possible. Of course this can almost be impossible. Find a way to make sure you have direct contact with your child's teacher. Find a way to make sure you have contact with the principal and let them know that you are concerned and want to help. Get your company involved, let them know what our children are going through. Many businesses are interested in helping and wanting to find ways of helping parents be more involved. When your child gets home, ask them about their day, if you don't feel right about their explanation, ask the questions..."What aren't you telling me?; Did anyone pick on you today? Did you let an adult know what is going on? If so, what did they say or do?" We need to become detectives and be sure we know what is going on. Get involved in the parent teacher organizations at your schools. I know it is difficult, but again, let your offices know what is going on, get them involved and understanding that our children are at risk and we need to be more involved. All of us are guilty of it, at some point, we have put blinders on and have ignored certain things in our lives, that have made us focus more on that bottom line....Money. We have all had to focus so much to keep our families going that at times, there are little things that have gone by the way side, one of which is the family conversation. Our children are so conflicted and unsure, they don't know what to do. This is showing up with the younger generation more and more. This is because of an increase in our intelligence levels etc. We need to become parents again. On all levels, this includes discipline as well. We let the government get involved in how we determine to discipline our children. Many parents have turned to the point, where they just say something to their child, no grounding, taking away of objects, nothing of that nature. Speaking doesn't always make a difference, you need TO DO something. Get your full message across to your children. If you have a child that does bully, find out why? If they tell you its because its fun, find out what makes it fun? Break it down, then let you child know how wrong it is. Set an example. Call then a name, see their reaction, if they don't react, it may be a good idea to bring in an expert, talk to a child psychologist. Ask them what you can do, to help your child to understand the negative affects they are causing on someone elses life. I don't mean to offend anyone, I just feel we all need to get involved in finding solutions, starting in our own homes. Making a difference in our own communities. Making a stand and helping our children. They are all calling for help. Its time to make huge changes.

Wow I had heard of this but I hadn’t heard why he had. That is so so sad. Like I feel most sorry for the mother. She probably blames herself for not taking action. I hope the bullies realize what happened and realize the full extent of their actions. What do you do though? You can’t protect every child from being bullied completely…but you don’t know which ones aren’t going to be able to handle it at such a young age.