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wow..that is very dangerous..I will never do that if ever I will have a kid. I remember before in the news that a couple was arrested because the neighbor found out that they left their kid ( forgot how old it was) inside their house while they are on travel....and to think they are both doctors....Frustrating how they were thinking!

I think going out to have fun and leaving your kids with the care of your relatives or anyone from your family for the night is ok rather than leaving your kids alone. at least someone older would look out for them.

i never leave my kids home alone,not e ven my 7year old.i could never live with myself if anythign was to happen,and u never know if someone is gonna break into your house or anything.i think its better to leave them with someone else if u are goin out,i dont ever go out without my kids,id rather go to the zoo or park then go to the bar and waste money on getting a hangover!but i do think its ok to go out for some time alone with the hubby sometimes,as long as someone is there to watch the children.

I will never live my children with someone else. Injuries are part of life of children and parental guidance should strictly be done.

u are right.one should not leave children to fend for themselves while we are having fun.one can not enjoy anuthing by our selves if we have kids.we should include them in every thing we do,then only the tie between parents and children becomes strong.it is dangerous to leave them at home alone.while we are out anything can go wrong.how can any body do that?poor kids are scared and slowly they become indifferent towards parents.they become introverts,develope crazy ideas to get rid of scared of left alone.one should change our life style once we have children.

I would never leave my younger siblings behind unguarded even when they're already asleep. I think it's irresponsible to leave the young ones like that. There's a possibility something might happen or they might wake up and search for us. I usually take them along or leave them with a trustworthy babysitters.

I never married and never had a child, but if that's the case I am like you. I will not leaving my child even on my relative unless the reason is very very important and if the reason is for them. I rather stay in our house than going outside with friends, my thinking is to sacrifice my happiness for my child. I hope I can do it the future LOL. I want to be like it in the future.

Hi gr8life, I can’t even imagine the same. For me it is not possible to leave my kids at home alone. If somebody (trusted people) is at home then it is ok. Leaving kids at relatives place is somewhat ok but their purpose for outing is not justifiable because they went for enjoyment. If we are going for party or some function and in case I can’t take my kids with me due to illness or something I will prefer to stay at home and sending my hubby alone. I don’t mind to keep aside my enjoyment for them. I think most of the mothers are like me.

I do not have kids,but I do the same with you,I always make sure the child is close to me anywhere I go.Best wishes.

I don't think it's right to leave small children home alone. Get a babysitter or a friend to watch them while you're out, it's that simple. Once the kid is 12 or 13 I think it is fine to leave them home alone for small amounts of time, with very specific rules. As the child gets older, the longer it is safe to leave them for. I'm 17 and my parents have left me at home alone for 2 days before, which is totally fine since I'm very capable of taking care of myself.

I'm not a parent yet but i think your friend just to unwind. You know, a stressed out parents aren't better either even if their with their kids. They're just asking for a day off to relax a bit though they could've let someone watch over their children than leave them alone at home. Your guy friend made a much better decision by leaving the kid to their relatives. I know it's too much to ask, but like i said, they need to unwind to from the hassles of parenthood.

I do not think that any of the points of right and wrong, which is dependent on life between husband and wife swap ah, if not always, is understandable. But if it is regular, it is incorrect, because this is not responsible for the family and children.

There are many questions in this discussion - and I'll try to answer all of them. First I don't agree with the mother putting her kids in the master bedroom. Children have this mindset to be curious because there are so many new things in this world for them, it wouldn't take much for them to turn on the stove or do something incredibly stupid that otherwise could of been stopped. Now I disagree with you when you think parents need to drop their entire lives for their children. Yes, they did bring the children into this world and that does mean a lot more responsibility gets placed on their shoulders but that doesn't mean they don't deserve to have a social life. They are still caring for the child, but if they want to go out one night why should they be told they can't. That is just obscured. There is no harm done to the child, and perhaps not always being around the parents will help the kid more socially. There are new environments they are placed in and they can learn from, but if they always have to be around either mommy or daddy then they just get too sheltered and their lives can become a wreck once they are off on their own like in college. I have had many friends just go out and get wasted and sleep with everyone because they weren't allowed to do things when they were younger. But because you believe that a parent needs to drop their life for their children do you think they shouldn't work either because if they worked then someone would need to watch the child? And if so, what parent needs to and why?

If I have my kids,it's important to make sure that there is somebody would look after them,because they can't protection themselves if there is some dangerous things happened,you can't foreseeable risk of that.So make sure your childrens are ok then you can have a fun.It seems to that you are a responsible mother.Though it's hard work to take good care of childrens,your children will love you very much and that is the significant.

Another guy friend told me this morning that he and his wife are going clubbing tonight and decided to leave their two years old girl at a relative's house. I just wonder how he could have fun with his wife while leaving behind the kid. I know it is safe to be with the relative but I just feel it is not a right thing to do. I'm sorry but I totally disagree with you on this one...Just because we are parents doesnt mean our social and adult lives come to an end...in fact thats a FOOLISH thing to do IMO...We need our nights out, our social time and our quality intimate time with our partners...Bringing kids into the world shouldnt stop it.... I do disagree with the friend who put the kids in the master bedroom...Of course you didnt say how old the children are but I'm assuming that they were young..that I'm NOT cool with at all.... I rather stay at home with my son than enjoying myself Well I enjoy my kids much more when I get my me time away from them every once in a while...and what about parents who BOTH have to work or single parents who have to work? shoudl they instead collect welfare so they could be home with the kids 24/7 over going out working and leaving the kids with a sitter, relative or at daycare?

Hi, I see nothing wrong with leaving your children with a relative or with someone where you know they will be safe every once in a while. In fact if you talk to any specialist on child rearing they say it is good for the you and your child. I think if you ever hear that your friend leaves her children alone again I think you need to call the police or child protection agency. We are hearing all the time on the news of house burning down with the kids in it when the parents are away and the kids have been left alone. Now my son and his girlfriend left his baby with my hubby and I for several hours while they went to a concert. I was thrilled to watch my grandson and have the opportunity to spend some one on one time with him.

I think that parents, especially those with difficult children, need time to themselves. Yes, I would and have left my daughter with relatives. I knew the relatives were good parents and that my child would be safe and well taken care of. I feel that IN SOME CASES a child that is always with mom and/or dad can become a mommies/daddies child and this isn't good. I can see spending alot of time with your children but I do feel parents need some down time occasionally. As far as not leaving a child in a car alone and keeping them close- I feel that is a gibben.

Im a baby sitter and parents often trust me to take care of their young ones while they are gone. and all my clients will only go out for two hours max cause as much as they want to go out, they still love their children and cant stay away from them for too long. so i think its alright to leave your kids at home alone if they a re at least 13 years old but any younger than that at least inform your neighbor or get a friend to come over and help out or even higher a babysitter.

I would not even intrust my children to sleep at a relative's house not even to my mother in law, when they were still young. Even now that they're grown ups am not comfortable if they sleep at their friend's house when there are occasions. We parents feel our children are safer when they're within our reach. Am just wondering how can others leave their young children at home with no one to take care. I just can't imagine when a child from her sleep cries as she see's nobody when she opened her eyes. Anything can happen in between the time while the parents are away, am just wondering why others can do such irresponsible moves.

I don't agree with what your friend did...at all. I would never leave my children at home alone...not at that young age. Goodness! As for your second friend, I personally wouldn't go clubbing after getting married. However, if I were to go on a date with my husband, then I would either find a babysitter or leave them at a relative's for the evening...but still come back that evening to pick them up.