I feel more and more lost

@cmy1004f (381)
China
April 25, 2009 10:46am CST
As time past, friends around me married one by one, my friends just a few orinigally, now they have their family, star the new living, cannot always party with them, I can understand but still feel more longly, what I should do in the future? Just like my friend, find a boy friend and then marry with him organize a small family? This is my true road? In fact, I desire be loved but talk about marry, there is a bit hard. Maybe it is some relationship about my family. There are two failed Marriage I had saw, who would like to marry in such situation? The most important thing is, I don't think I will be a good girl friend, more will not be a good wife, a good daugher-in-law or a good mother, sometime even I feel that my character is bad, how to let a stranger accept all my shortcomings and like to live with me? I also have not enought patience to accept each other's shortcomings, without confindence. Maybe I live alone, is a good news to all the men.
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8 responses
@yuguoli (83)
• China
26 Apr 09
Terribly sorry for that you saw marriage failure twice. And also, sorry for hearing you say, GOOD NEWS TO ALL MEN. lol Seems like you are of unlimited charming. As for shortcomings, some are acceptable by others, some are not, even the one for you, maybe he won't accept that. I suggest you should change a little bit, not for other people but for yourself. You just knew it's because of your character so, it's a great information with self-realization. People can never live alone all years. Vary yourself a little bit and go out for communication with others you'll find a real and wonderful world full of everything that can make you laugh, cry, etc. Good luck, pal.
• China
26 Apr 09
And plus, you just need love, right? You desire for love, that's good but do remember you don't fall for love. lol I don't know whether you are from Guangzhou or just live there, but I am impressed by the local girls there, good tempered, etc. Always enjoy yourself.
@poonsf (8)
• China
26 Apr 09
i have too much to said to you , but it is sad , my english is not good . god ! best wish to you , i think you are not bad , and you will be better .
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
Dont sell yourself short.. i'm sure you are a fine person.. you are being negative though.. you need to look at the bright side.. If there are things that you dont like about yourself.. you are the captain of your own vessel.. Only you can change things about yourself you dont like... You have the power to do it.. or you just have to have faith the person you find (if you want to find someone) will accept you for who you are.. That is a very good possibility. good luck in life and try to think more positive.. nothing positive comes from negativity.. take it from soemone who has lived both ways.
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
Maybe you're just feeling lonely. don't get yourself confused with married people. it's actually hard being in a relationship whereas you get to argue and fight most of the time. mean while you have to get used to being each others bad habits. it's just the feeling, maybe you should do something that could occupy your head or so. don't envy people like us, because since your single, you get to do what you really want..
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
if you feel you experience more lost,think positive!just think that there's someone,something will come along to you.everyone of us has a purpose so feeling of lost is just a way of feeling that there's more exciting and beautiful thing to happen in us.
@Hedwig (284)
• China
26 Apr 09
If you haven't try yet,what makes you think that you can't? I am a senior student in university and there are many students around me seem to be involved in serious relationships. None of them is perfect. They just met the right persons and that's it. Cheer up! You will find your ture love, just the time hasn't come yet. Good luck!
• India
26 Apr 09
I second the thoughts of the first person's post. You seem to think a lot on the negative side of life. Just because some people didn't like doesn't mean that you are bad and cant live up to someone's expectations. Think positive and you can bring about a change in life. Your friends are married, so what. You don't need a group to have fun. You can always have fun being single as well. Look for something that you love. If possible, try to get a small part time job to make yourself busy and you can interact with more people that way and make new friends who would like to be with you . bourne
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 09
You seems still a newbie here. Welcome to Mylot and hope you're able to learn some good knowledge while being here. I had read through your posting, and i discovered that you like to think negative. Please pardon me, if i am saying you like that. As for me, i think you should always look to be brighter side of life, no matter what you had gone through in your life. Only through positive thinking, you will be able to overcome your problems and able to find someone suitable to you in the future. Hope you are able to overcome your problem soon. Hope you do enjoy mylotting here..