What is the costliest mistake you made in your life?

Mistakes - At times you tend to make the mistake of your life.
By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
April 27, 2009 7:02am CST
Is it still haunting you?
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15 responses
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
27 Apr 09
Hi bala! My mistake is not haunting me and as I cannot put the clock back I live with the consequences. It wasn't really all my own mistake either. I married the wrong person but then so did he We have a fantastic son who would not be around if we had not made that mistake and we have all come to terms with what went wrong and are all now living happily ever after with no ill feelings. C'est la vie!
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 09
I love your outlook on life my dear friend, I hope you enjoyed your tour of my lovely country, I just got back from my retreat and it's make a big difference to me. Even when life throws us the cr*p as long as we learn from it and as they say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Hugz
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@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
27 Apr 09
Hi wolfie! xxx That is exactly how it is. We can let the bumps make us fall over but we can also learn how to pick ourselves up and carry on the road. Makes us have more to talk about when we explain the journey too How come in UK you have sun and we still have the heating on? It was great there last week - never known it that warm in April! You had a good week too I guess!
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
Mysdianait, I really love your attitude and acceptance - and I'm so glad your whole family are happy and content! Good for you - it's a shame too many other people are wallowing in misery instead of cheerfully accepting their lives (or doing something about it if it's unbearable!)
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
I once sent an email to one of my daughters, telling her off about something. She didn't speak to me for THREE YEARS. Things are fine now, but I'm really sad I missed three years of her life - particularly as she had a new baby in that time, and her other daughter lost touch with us as well. It's too easy to press the 'send' button on emails - I hope anyone reading this takes note, and thinks twice before running off at the mouth. It was indeed a costly mistake.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
I just appreciative your point.Look before you leap.Please accept my BR friend.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Apr 09
This is absolutely shocking and true. Hope things are ok now. God bless.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
Thank you very much for the BR, Balasri - I really appreciate it.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 09
Hello my friend, well I can clearly remember the costly mistake I made, I paid out £1500 to start a home computer course to learn how to build websites etc, the saleman came round and sold it to me and I was full of enthusiasm but they didn't deliver the goods and kept mucking me around and I lost all the money and got absolutely no where it left a sour taste in my mind but you learn the hard way don't you! It looked so good and I visualized myself with a good job and at the time I was on a 'low' never mind, it doesn't haunt me, I've accepted it, look forward not back.
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
1500? It is indeed a very costly mistake.And how do you type that Pounds sign in your key board Wolfie?I just could not find that key in mine.
@balasri (26537)
• India
2 May 09
Right .I tried pressing shift and 3 and get this # only.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
28 Apr 09
I think we may have different keyboards Bala, for the £ I hold down shift and 3 to get the symbol or 4 for the $ sign. Yes it was very costly and I didn't get a penny back for their mistake which I believe even now it was, I should have fought harder to get my money back but they used the legal jargon and smallprint to bamboozle me.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
27 Apr 09
I have made a very costly mistake .It si not something thta can be replaced by money, but as Alok pointed out there is no point letting it haunt you.So I have tried to get over it.But this feeling would always be at the back of my mind.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
I can understand Kala.Don't we all carry some scars in our minds?
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
I made a grave mistake that cost me a lot of money and caused me a lot of heartache. I was dating my ex and decided to travel overseas with him because although we met in Australia he was from the U.K. on a working visa which had run out so he had to travel back to his home town and silly me followed him! He was a user and an opportunist and he took me to Thailand, Singapore etc while on our way to England pretty much at my expense! I ended up 'temporarily insane' and married him in a registry office without my family there so he could come back to Australia and be allowed to stay. It was awful, he treated me very badly and in now in retrospect I cringe whenever I think about it! How could I think so little of myself! It was a costly mistake that changed my life forever!
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
That is shocking Paula.I am happy that you are not with him anymore.Really a bad dream.Well you have the whole life in front you welcoming you with more pleasant surprises as you have had enough for a life time.My best wishes for you for a great present an a fantastic future.
@balasri (26537)
• India
29 Apr 09
You are indeed worth more Paula.I am very very happy to know that you are happy and peaceful.There are always new doors awaiting to be opened for us.My best wishes .
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
29 Apr 09
My present is a lot better. I have since remarried, I have a beautiful daughter and I am being treated very nicely. I get annoyed at myself when I look back, I allowed a man to be less than kind to me! I consider myself a lot more worthy these days!
@arunmails (3011)
• India
27 Apr 09
I had made a big mistake, before 5 to 6 years. Once me and my family were decided to go for an excursion... They decided to go by car...but, I took my bike and went before them... after half an hour, I rang up to my parents to come and pick me up in the car... because, myself was met with an accident and my bike was in a terrible condition.. it took nearly 1 month to repair my bike... and thats cost around nearly Rs.20,000/- ($500)
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
Leave alone the byke.Are you alright Arun?
@arunmails (3011)
• India
28 Apr 09
Oh, no... our Jeep carries my bike..
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
27 Apr 09
There have been a few in the past Bala and haunt me they did for a very long time. Now i've realised that it's better to accept, admit and learn from those mistakes. We cannot let the unpleasent memories,questions and hauntings get the better of us now can we ?
@balasri (26537)
• India
27 Apr 09
No never.The bitter past should be buried very deep.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
27 Apr 09
i think it is of no use worrying about my past mistakes,when my conscience p*icks me or rather when i start feeling guilty,i resolve in my mind to do good,once i backanswered to my dad,i regretted it and asked for his forgiveness.
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
That is so nice of you indeed.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Apr 09
That would have been the costliest mistake of my life and I believe I am really lucky that it didn't happen! A simple number could change a whole thing! I was making angiogram report and a simple number difference changed the whole report. The normal report was being changed with a triple vessel one! The surgeon came to see the person and ordered for the routine pre surgical tests. Luckily the patient was still in the hospital. I realized the mistake and felt so bad that I couldn't sleep for days. That could have been a fatal mistake! Another, more recently, I spilled ink on my newfound dress, very special one and pretty much expensive as well. I had worn it the first time ever. That was the last time also.
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
Both the mistakes are severe in their own ways.I am happy that no damage has been done on the previous case.And regarding your dress I am sorry Mimpi.I know how you feel as a dress lover.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
28 Apr 09
Borrowing money from various quarters in order to satisfy personal as well as the needs of the family members have been my biggest mistake.I am neck deep in debt because of this .
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
Hope you will be out of this mess by being frugal and wise in the future.Al the best.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Using my credit card to pay for things that I could not afford to pay back. Well, I learned my lesson.
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
That is the very common costliest mistake we all commit.Let us get out of this habit fast.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 May 09
quitting a job that I really, really needed. It was full time and made lots of $. Monetarily, it is still haunting me, but I just couldn't keep working over night and putting up with crazy stuff.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Thinking I had enough time within which to do for my parents everything that I could to make them happy. It turned out I did not have enough time and they passed on before I could do everything I wanted to do for them.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Hey balasri! Oh, I have a really big one! I ran up a credit card debt that is still going on and will never be paid! I got myself into some trouble by using my credit card. They gave me a $26,000 credit line, which was not too smart on their part and I told them that! I lost my job and started to borrow money on the card to pay my rent and then to pay the credit card! Well, you don't borrow money from the credit card to pay the credit card! I know, I'm stupid! But, I was desperite! So, then I went on Termporary Public Assistance and couldn't pay the card. Now the debt is up to $46,000! Now I will never be able to pay it! So that is the biggest stupidest mistake I have ever made in my life, so far!
@balasri (26537)
• India
28 Apr 09
And how are you going to mange this situation Opal?
@060157 (1059)
• Pakistan
27 Apr 09
well... it concerns my decision to enroll myself for telecommunication engineering. i am in the third year of this program and have put a lot into it, and it's just one year to graduation, so there is no turning back. i found the studies really dry but the real issue is that now there is a shortage of jobs in telecommunication field... it is saturated. and there isn't much hope in the coming future as well. what kills me is that i had options when i opted for this... i had the option for going to a mechanical engineering degree in another city, i am actually more interested in the mechanical field but i based my final decision by following other people's advice that i shouldn't leave the city and that telecom has a wide scope ahead. i am really worried these days regarding the future but i am doing my best to graduate with a good score...