A state of shock..

@alokn99 (5717)
India
April 28, 2009 4:38am CST
Have you been though a state of shock ? What caused it and how long did it take to get control of yourself ? What advice can you share to help those who go though one ?
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@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
28 Apr 09
I think, I used to be in a consistent state of shock. It used to be so severe that nothing shocks me anymore. One after the other, one after the other, it was like daily soaps, coming in installments. But, now as I look back, I think that I deserved those. Those are not shocks, those were normal consequences of the actions that I chose. Sorry, I made this grave. More recently, I was shocked when someone told me that he was robbed of his belongings by a doctor (a reputed one)!! How could that be possible! Obviously, he was lying. Later I found out that he was a street smart Bangladeshi who lied to get things done free!
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Apr 09
Irrespective of what caused these shocks Mimpi, the fact that you have been through these instances however grave they may be still remains. I'm glad that you are now out of that state and are able to look back at those times. And the example is very pertinent Mimpi. When things happen against what we greatly believe in or are unexpected, we find ourselves in such a state.
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@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
28 Apr 09
It feels bad how people do not think twice before lying! Just for a discount or complimentary service a person can lose his values and guess what he doesn't even know it! No guilt, no retribution of defaming a person!
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Apr 09
Yes, And the consequences get be worse than what they could have ever imagined. Just for some self satisfaction, someone's entire career could be ruined.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
I've had a number of moments in my life that I could call shock inducing, for example a pretty serious car crash and also shifts in career that left me in complete amazement and scared for what might come next. I'm not sure of a generic fix for dealing with any of it to be honest, because we just aren't thinking rationally at the time! The strongest advice I could offer would be to make sure that you allow yourself to become centred somewhat before making any rash decisions. The fact of the matter is that we're in SHOCK, so therefore not thinking clearly. Different people react in many diverse ways ranging from anger and aggression, to introvertedness and tears; and all of these emotions and feelings ultimately cloud our judgement. We need to try to stay as calm as we possibly can until the initial phase passes and THEN look to decide what comes next. In regards to potentially life altering events, communication is vital also because the sooner we release, the sooner we have the chance to get back on track.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Apr 09
A car crash ! i can only imagine what you must have been through. I know you cannot give a generic way of helping, but it does help to learn from the experience of those who have been though it. I totally agree on the communications part James. Thanks for sharing this.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for the BR Alok! Much appreciated.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
28 Apr 09
On a few different occasions... When my now ex-fiance ended our relationship the night before we were to be married is probably the biggest...
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Apr 09
That must have been a huge shock to you. I hope you have got a grip on things by now. Thanks
@mayka123 (13455)
• India
28 Apr 09
There have been lots of incidents and I think I have now learnt to take control of myself. Once I got a double dose of it in twenty four hours. My engagement broke off and the same day by elder sister expired. And I did not even know at that time that she was sick.....That is one day I will never forget in my life.....In the morning my engagement broke off.....in the evening my best friend was getting married....and I could not give her any excuses for not attending the wedding....well I was there like a zombie....and as soon as I reached home and went to the kitchen to drink a glass of water my brother walked in with the news that my elder sister had expired.....at that time it took me a few months to get control of myself.....but after that I think I have become shock-proof....
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Apr 09
The double shock must have been a very difficult for you. It's good to know that you did get a control of yourself. Thanks