What is the best thing you can do if someone lies to you?

Philippines
May 6, 2009 12:54pm CST
I join some charity works and I realize that some of my new friends there are fake and lies to me. It is like they just be friend with me but deep inside, they just give me false hope or look down at me. Later on, I realize that they all lies to me. I thought they all saying the truth but realize that I am wrong. I don't know what to do...What is the best thing I can do if someone is lying to me? Please help... thanks!
5 responses
• United States
6 May 09
Do not take it personally if someone lies to you. If a person lies to you, they lie to everyone. When a child is between the ages of two and four, they all go through a stage of telling lies. Many of these children are in day care and the parents are too busy to notice. Soon the child lies more and more and about everything. They do not know what the truth is anymore. By the time they are adults, they know nothing else. I am not giving excuses for this. It is just what I have observed being a parent and also a day care provider. I would be kind to these people but not want to have them in my life outside of an acquaintance relationship. Since you can't believe anything they are saying, don't waste a lot of time thinking about what they said. Take heart that you at least can tell the difference between a truth and a lie. There is an old statement: "Birds of a feather flock together." I think you will find that if people are all hanging out together and they are all telling lies, they are just feeling like they are at home with such repulsive behavior. That's not a crowd that I would want to be a part of. Final thought, when someone looks down on you or hurts you, they are looking down on God's creation and hurting God's creation. God does not make mistakes and you are not a mistake. The world is full of people. Look for ones that have your same values, kindness, and caring. You would not be hurt if you were not a kind person.
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@kezabelle (2974)
6 May 09
It depends what they are lieing about to be honest, if its just silly things and its just them making out their lives are better than they are id ignore it I have a friend like that always dropping herself in it but i just let it go cos deep down she isnt happy. If they are lieing about important things then id be upfront and confront them and demand to know why they think its ok to lie to me!
@msmamaof3 (244)
• United States
6 May 09
Just because you joined a charity doesn't mean that you have to be buddies with your co-volunteers. Just ignore them and do what you're there to do.
@net_ankit (643)
• India
6 May 09
live them there and do not join them again, if they are cheating with you, so be carefull do not trust directly on someone. Or just bring the proof & show them that they are laying & giving false information, but do it peacefully. Don't fight with this problem.
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
6 May 09
Confront each one of them, because if you do not they will never stop. I know by confronting them might upset them and they may not talk to you any more but who needs friends like that anyway...