Some Of Us Can't See Well And Some Of Us Can't Hear Well....

Mylot and Caps - As I said, some can't see and some can't hear!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
May 8, 2009 1:00am CST
That's right folks! Nobody is perfect! We are all different in one way or another whether it's a handicap, the color of our skin, the car we drive, how many siblings we have, and etc.... etc. Get my drift? Ok, I'm not trying to be a smart @ss, really, I'm not. I'm just trying to point out that we're ALL different in one way or another. Now I showed my mom one time about a person in a wheel chair visiting a friend and the host has something upstairs to show and asked everyone to follow. The person in the wheelchair was left downstairs all alone because why? Well, how were they to get upstairs in a wheelchair? That's how I feel when people talk all around me knowing full well that I can't hear and that I need to see their faces to read their lips EVEN with hearing aids on! I have no sense of direction what so ever so in a crowd, I would be so happy if each person would raise their hand before speaking so I'll know who is doing the talking and can watch the right person instead of searching and missing half of what's being said before I find the person!! Ok, ok, in truth, this is NOT about me but a dear friend who is being sooo misunderstood! ANTIQUELADY? can not see well and likes to use CAPS in her responses and discussions so that she can SEE what she's typing. She's NOT yelling at anybody at all but is merely making the letters larger so she can see them. Nothing more and nothing less so please, don't take offense over her using CAPS! Show some compassion and understanding so that when she does start a discussion or responds to one of yours in CAPS, it's for HER benefit, not ours what so ever! I do not care about MYLOT RULES!! There's an exception to EVERY rule!! THIS is one of them! Got it? Now lets be friendly and friends with each other!! LOL What do ya say?!
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@kprofgames (3099)
• United States
8 May 09
Very well said. I didn't know that about her and often wondered. Some people just like all caps, thank you for the clarity. I agree that people seem to bypass or overlook the little things that make all the difference to one person. My daughter communicates through sign language. She can hear just fine, but this is her mode of communication; however, when we get out amoung people they seem to talk about her to me instead of talking directly to her. Like she's light on the shoulder because THEY don't understand her. It irritates me to no end and I've pointed this out several times to family. Of course she doesn't bond with you - you treat her like she's stupid - she doesn't respect you. This kind of takes them back but I'm not going to sugar coat it for them because they are the ones that aren't thinking. Sometimes people just need to take a step back and think about what it would be like to live in someone else's world.
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@GardenGerty (115037)
• United States
9 May 09
If those people would even try to sign a little bit with your daughter, she would be so much more fond of them. I work with adult disabled. One of the younger ladies is always thrilled to see me, because I "listen" and I sign a little to her. She makes it very clear that she wants to talk with me when I do some simple sign linger.I like making her happy.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
Good for you kprofgames! I wouldn't sugar coat it either because people need to hear the honest truth no matter how it hurts but in a nice way so that they'll absorb the information that's being given to them instead of taking it in a hostile way and throw out the information all together. I feel this way, if a handicapped person does their best to be a part of the group, be it family or friends, then they should help them along and not ignore them. We all have feelings regardless and it does hurt to be ignored or not taking us to be a human being too.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
8 May 09
Simply letting others know the reasons behind her actions may have saved everyone some hurt feelings and stepped on toes. I know getting others to understand the adaptive nature of someone with a disability is hard. But if people don't have a chance to understand, we can't be mad at them for trying to set things straight. I personally agree.... lets all get along.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
8 May 09
I agree. I suggested that mylot be notified. Here was my letter: Dear mylot, Please find a program that allows a visually impaired person to type in all caps but not show as all caps. This would help the entire community, as we have members from all walks of life and all ages. Thanks so much in advance for your cooperation. I thought it might work and help. We should all take this post to heart and present our own letters to mylot. They DO help when they can, despite their lacking in people.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
As a handicapped person myself, I agree that the person needs to let it be known that they are handicapped however, it's easier said than done because, 1. When told about my hearing problem, a lot of them get antsy and then don't bother to get to know me more. 2. People tend to forget. I've had to remind so many people in my life that it gets aggravating and down right degrading to have to constantly remind them. I've told them so they should remember. 3. I hate having to defend myself against idiots who get all bent out of shape because I didn't hear them. Like in one instance, someone got all upset because I didn't do the one thing that was asked of me and she screamed "Well I told you!" I told her "You may have told me but doesn't mean I heard it!" That sounds like I'm looking for sympathy which I AM NOT. A little understanding goes a long long way! 4. I have pondered this question for about 25 years, am I to wear a sash or something over my clothes that says "hearing impaired"? Or what about a button with a short saying but getting the point across, what to put on it? No one knows what to put on it. Besides, if I wear it, it's like I'm trying to get attention and that's so far off the mark! I'm not an attention getter. Never have and never will. That is why I started this discussion, to get the word out there as much as I could. And the last thing to be said, not everybody is computer literate. Some of us barely know how to turn it on. So to tell them to get a program that fits their disability could be like telling a baby to drive a car. No I'm not trying to be a smart @ss at all, I'm just laying down the facts. It is a case of, like with me, I'm trying to hear you so help me hear you! Is that hard? To some people it apparently is and those are the ones who aren't worth while anyways. I think I've said enough and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, I'm just trying to set the record straight. Being a handicapped person is hard on both sides but if we help each other, it wouldn't be so hard.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
10 May 09
Because my kids handicap leads to behavior issues I hear lots of snide remarks on how I've taught them nothing, they are rude, so on and so fourth. It doesn't seem to matter that they are basically good kids... as long as the other kids remember manners too... like to stop when asked, to respect that someone else was there first.... silly things like that. I understand everything you said. I really do. Thank you for the reminder.
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@arkansos (546)
• India
8 May 09
I understand what you mean cats. Completely. People are just not tolerant enough these days. If a person is making signs at them, it means he is making lewd gestures. They donot consider the possibility that the person maybe deaf. I have no problems with all Caps and if I saw someone doing it, I'd understand there must be some reason for that instead of crying for being shouted at
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
People are tolerant these days because they've never been taught to be. I was and even taught to feel guilty if I did something wrong and is one of many reasons why I don't do it to others. Another is because I've been made fun of because of my lack of hearing and it hurts! No one has a clue to how it really hurts unless they have the same problem. I know the person doing the awful deed is only trying to make themselves look big and all and have some skeletons in their own closet that they're hiding however, I still wouldn't make fun of them if I knew what their skeletons were. I might give an example but not in a way that would say I meant it but to show how it hurts then hope they'd find the compassion inside of them some where.
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
8 May 09
I would hope that everyone can understand that. None of us are the same, and not one of us is perfect. I am sure that it should not be a problem.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 May 09
Yeah, you'd think everybody would know that by now especially the adults but some are so ignorant that they need to be taught and that's what I'm trying to do here. I hope that mylot doesn't take offense with Antiquelady using caps and if they do then I'm going to put together a rally in her support!
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
8 May 09
Here Here for Cats, I had no idea about Antique Lady, to tell you the truth I never really paid attention. I would think that if people would read what she had said they could tell if she was yelling. Come to think about it, some people don't even know thats what it means. Has someone complained or has mylot told her about it. Looking at what you write, the words that you wrote in CAPS stand out and are so much easier to read. This is a very good lesson for all of us. I never thought like you do for someone who can't hear good. I knew this girl, she was very skinny, she did everything to gain weight. It used to hurt her feelings when someone would talk about how skinnuy she was and why doesn't she gain some weight. She said she felt the same way a heavy person would feel if you went up to them and said "you are so fat, when are you going to lose some weight". I have been thinking about you today, I even said a prayer for you this morning. Take care and I hope things go well for you.
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
8 May 09
My roomie's work computer doesn't blow the fonts up quite as large as she needs, so she uses all caps at work. When someone gets bent out of shape, well, all she needs to do is go to the sig at the end that explains WHY she uses all caps. It isn't that the computer can't blow up the letters big enough, its the program. Now, when I did data entry, I left my cap lock on wor doing the data entry part of my job, because I also had trouble seeing them, and my eye sight is very good, just the print was very small.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
8 May 09
I don't know what kind of computer or programs she has and/or if she understands the different kinds of either (yikes!) and/or if she can afford a bigger screen or what ever it is she needs. I just wanted to get the point across to everyone that she's not doing it out of spite but to help herself to see. She's not yelling at anybody however so many are getting offended and are throwing mylot rules at her. Those are the ones that need to realize all of this and is why I'm trying to help a friend out. Her rating went down because of some troll who got angry with her for doing so which isn't right. These types of people need to get their heads out of the sand and start learning how "It could happen to you one day" to have compassion in life which will get them through much quicker and easier than being some old prude.
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@ElicBxn (61063)
• United States
8 May 09
hey, I just requested her friendship too, so I obviously don't care - heck, if I could use all caps, I would
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
8 May 09
Why not? If you can't see then why not? I won't bite you!! I promise!! LOL I'll put in a good word for you, you've been such a wonderful friend to me!!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
11 May 09
What's that you said? I can't hear you! Damn, where's the Verizon network when you need them huh?LOL I get your point Cats and you made it very well. Lady has just recently joined my friends list, and I've talked to her quite a bit lately, and you know, even though I registered the caps she uses, it never even entered my mind to question why. Her responses and comments are always so sweet and supportive and funny that the fact it was all written in caps was a non issue. I'm glad to know about her sight though. It helps me get a 'rounder' impression of her. Did you know she's Canadian? LOL So she's gotta be great eh? Anyway, people really need to stop jumping to conclusions about others, because you just never know the story behind the story, you know? Once you do, it can change everything and you and I know so well!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
11 May 09
Hi sparks! Was just chatting with T on messenger when your response came through! She's a real character! lol I'm so glad to hear you and Antiquelady have become friends!! Awesome!! She is a sweet lady and now that her issue it out in the open, maybe the flack she's been getting will lighten up. Yeah, I just found out she's a Canadian.... when I found out I got to thinking, hmmmm, she has to be a nice one!! And I was right!! lol Well I'm heading for the sack, my mouth is so sore right now thanks to the damned dentures rubbing a blister in my gums. Going to see the dentist sometime tomorrow to have something done about this! Damn! 7 teeth pulled is enough pain why do I have to deal with the blister too?! I found something else out about the computer but I don't want to mention it to her because it might get her angry and I certainly don't want to do that. Now if you hold the control button down and hold the button down on the mouse, the one in the middle and scroll down, your text gets bigger and if you go up, it'll get smaller. Pretty awesome, huh? Not many people know this and I just found out and tested it and it does work! It's like WOW! Cool! lol Give it a try! And about you and I.... oh the damned lessons we learned but as long as we learn them then hey, it was worth the ride. BECAUSE, look at us now!! :)
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
11 May 09
OOoops! The other way around!! Up makes it bigger and down make it smaller.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
11 May 09
Yep, for sure look at us now. And when you have a mo, pm me with some links where Lady is getting trashed about the caps thing and I'll do what I can to have her back. I like the mouse thing, but on a laptop with a built in mouse that trick doesn't work unless I'm doing something wrong..........? Anyway, take care of your mouth. Rinse with salt water and leave the denture out for the night and you should feel better tomorrow. I found that using polident cream in a thin layer was enough of a cushion to keep from getting blisters when I first got my denture.
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• Philippines
8 May 09
Hi CatsandDogs! My father has a hearing problem, too. And i feel sorry for him no neighbor can speak to him for long because they get tired repeating what they say over and over again. I too, had to speak to him even louder than my usual loud voice and it tires me. I want to buy him a better hearing aid than the first one i gave him years before which was already broken and gone but these things are too expensive i just don't have the resources. I am only glad that he loves to read the newspapers and watch tv (in high volume!) and have something to spend his time with. Oh, but i wish you could hear when your cats purr and meow and your dogs bark and whine...
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• Philippines
8 May 09
And...oh by the way, antiquelady is also my friend and i understand her condition and she knows that.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 May 09
That is so sad about your dad. People need to understand his problem and not give up so easily because it frustrates him even more and causes depression because us "deaf" folks get so lonesome. Isn't there some sort of programs in your country that might be able to help him? Like here in the USA, we have The Lion's Club which helps people to get glasses, hearing aids and other things that they may need. Check around and see what you may find. Believe it or not, I can hear my cats purr if I have my hearing aids on and very little when I'm holding my cat up to my so called "good" ear. A few weeks ago I got a good laugh from my Chihuahua Peanut. He's going to be 11 in July. We have two mixed breed Chihuahua's too and they're almost 2 years old now and one night I was sitting on the couch watching tv and the two little ones were running back and forth on the couch while Peanut was sitting beside me under the covers and I kept hearing him grumble and growl out of protest but at first I didn't know it was him and I asked my hubby, "Is that Peanut doing the grumbling and growling? And he told me "Yes" and I busted out laughing so hard because I hadn't heard him do that before!! He sounded like some old grump! lol Like the movie grumpy old men! He's so hilarious! Maybe that's why I love him so much! Another thing, before my Gracie siamese cat passed away, I had just gotten my new hearing aids and come to find out, she was talking to me the whole time and I just didn't know it because she didn't open her mouth very wide. It was incredible to hear her talk to me like that! I miss her something awful but at least I got to hear her before she passed away.
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• Philippines
10 May 09
Oh, my...isn't that great?! I wish we could talk and i mean as in verbally not through the keyboard. Hahaha! I am only good in written English but when i talk i stammer because i have to think and think again so i have something to say and say it right. But it's different because spoken words are done, you can't take them back. While here it may take me thirty minutes to write and edit before posting, and making sure i've done it all correctly. I'm going outside the topic here but anyway just envision me as someone who loves to chat and giggle and laugh (and with extra hugs!). I wish i too, can take care of pets but i don't have any (long story). Please say hello to your husband from me. And about your suggestion regarding my father, i'll look and ask around. Thanks for telling me that!
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@csrobins (1124)
• United States
11 May 09
Haha ok I see your point, I have never noticed it with antiquelady and I never had a problem with her. But I can see where the other person is coming from. There ar rules to be followed and things to understand about teh internet and people like to have those rules followed. But harping or especially flaming on a person is not right...and thanks for reminding us that we all have differences faults, and unique things that need to be more accepted to or else they will bring down the mylot community.
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@csrobins (1124)
• United States
11 May 09
I had no clue you were deaf and I don't know anything about antiquelady either except she is a grandmother and lives in tennessee like me. Very cool to know I can communicate with a deaf person..I don't think I have ever done that before -to my knowledge anyways.
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@jerzgirl (8168)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
9 May 09
I totally agree with you, but because we don't know who has sight problems and who doesn't, is it possible for her to start her discussion - or to put IN her discussion somewhere - that she is sight impaired and needs CAPS to see what she's writing? Since the majority here don't have that problem and the general rule of thumb is that CAPS = Yelling, putting a disclaimer up would give everyone a head's up on her situation. Yes - rules have a purpose, but there are valid reasons for someone being able to sidestep certain rules for reasons of disability. It's just that we don't know who does and who doesn't have a valid reason until someone points it out.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
I'm doing a copy and paste on here with my own response to another mylotter. It sounds a bit sharp but I don't mean for it to be so please, don't take it that way, ok? As a handicapped person myself, I agree that the person needs to let it be known that they are handicapped however, it's easier said than done because, 1. When told about my hearing problem, a lot of them get antsy and then don't bother to get to know me more. 2. People tend to forget. I've had to remind so many people in my life that it gets aggravating and down right degrading to have to constantly remind them. I've told them so they should remember. 3. I hate having to defend myself against idiots who get all bent out of shape because I didn't hear them. Like in one instance, someone got all upset because I didn't do the one thing that was asked of me and she screamed "Well I told you!" I told her "You may have told me but doesn't mean I heard it!" That sounds like I'm looking for sympathy which I AM NOT. A little understanding goes a long long way! 4. I have pondered this question for about 25 years, am I to wear a sash or something over my clothes that says "hearing impaired"? Or what about a button with a short saying but getting the point across, what to put on it? No one knows what to put on it. Besides, if I wear it, it's like I'm trying to get attention and that's so far off the mark! I'm not an attention getter. Never have and never will. That is why I started this discussion, to get the word out there as much as I could. And the last thing to be said, not everybody is computer literate. Some of us barely know how to turn it on. So to tell them to get a program that fits their disability could be like telling a baby to drive a car. No I'm not trying to be a smart @ss at all, I'm just laying down the facts. It is a case of, like with me, I'm trying to hear you so help me hear you! Is that hard? To some people it apparently is and those are the ones who aren't worth while anyways. I think I've said enough and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, I'm just trying to set the record straight. Being a handicapped person is hard on both sides but if we help each other, it wouldn't be so hard.
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@jerzgirl (8168)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
10 May 09
I can see where you're coming from. I do understand. I worked with a girl with a hearing impairment once, years ago. It was hard to tell because she was so good at reading lips. I got a severe case of laryngitis one time and ended up losing my voice for almost a week (my son was thrilled!) She knew something was wrong and asked me - I told her I lost my voice. She said she was sorry. I touched her shoulder and said, that's ok - you can't hear, I can't talk, we're even!! She about fell down laughing. The only time I have a problem with a disability, and I know it's MY problem and not theirs, is when someone has difficulty completing a sentence, stumbling over words, hesitating. A part of me wants to finish the sentence for them and I can feel myself getting antsy. I don't mean to - it just happens. If I know for sure they have a disability, I bite my tongue big time. But, I'm not going to be mad at them because they can't say it fast enough. Hell - I've stumbled, hemmed and hawed a time or three myself. It happens to everyone - it just is more prevalent with a disability.
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@fec139 (812)
• United States
14 May 09
I am in a wheelchair so I could definitely relate to your story. People talk to my aide about me like I'm not even present. Yesterday I attended a meeting of the shareholders in my co-op, and everybody was talking to my aide, pointing to me and saying "tell her to sign here", "tell her to have a seat", etc etc, even though my hearing and intelligence are better than normal! It's totally infuriating!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 May 09
Oh I know about how long I'd take that crap! I'm serious! What do these morons think of us, really?! I'd have rose my hand, not my arm but my hand and let them know that I can hear perfectly well and you CAN talk directly to me for I do have a brain.... no apologies needed thank you, now where were we? Your aid is just that, your aid. You're not an animal so he/she is not your trainer and they need to know that. Wheelchair means mobility problem of some kind. It doesn't affect the brain, hearing or eyes in most cases. ASK! Deaf/Hearing impaired/legally deaf means, one can not hear at all, hear some or very little. ASK! Blind/legally blind means, one can not see at all, see some shapes, or very little. Again ASK! We don't bite, we welcome the questions for one can not "read" what is wrong with us but ask and we shall tell you. Am I right?
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@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
9 May 09
I have no problem with anyone using all caps. and if i say so..I find it easier to see and read if they are all in caps, a lot of us are having a hard time seeing things as we get older.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
You've made a good point too! Thanks for that!! See? If we all come together and stop thinking of just ourselves, then we can learn from one another without discriminating. The world would be such a wonderful place if we could all get on the same page, don't you think so? lol They say, getting old isn't for sissy's! I'm finding it to be true more and more as I get older and having lupus. I'm getting older body wise before my time!
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• United States
9 May 09
I've never understood how some people make themselves the self-appointed Gestapo of various sites. I've never had an issue with Antique. She always gives thoughtful replies, and has a lot to add to most of the discussions floating about here on Mylot. I think some people just want to be mean and take it upon themselves to prey on those who are different than they are. They are just shallow people for that. It would be nice if we could edit the font size like you can on other forum sites so that people could simply type in a larger text and see what they are typing. I have to wear glasses for reading and even this size is small for me. I'm on a laptop as well, so that makes it even smaller than normal. I think it's nice that you are willing to step up and call attention to the needs of others. We should all be this compassionate. Namaste-Anora
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
Darn Anora! You hit the nail right on it's head!! Way to go gal!! And a huge thank you is in order!! However, I gave an explanation on the first two on this page in hopes to explain how "we" handicapped people feel and although it looks a bit sharp, I don't mean for it to be. I'm just trying to get the point across of how "we" feel, nothing more and nothing less. I hope all the information provided is taken the way it was meant to be. Time will tell....
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@RedDiary (138)
• United States
9 May 09
i agree
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
Awesome! Thanks for letting all of us know that you got it!! Hopefully now she won't be antagonized anymore on her using CAPS.
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@Opal26 (17689)
• United States
8 May 09
Hey cats! I am disabled too! You can not see or hear or know what my disabilities are by looking at me! They are not as obvious! So, I understand perfectly and feel that what you are saying is so right! If I knew that your handicap was hearing impaired then I would do as you said to make it easier for you of course! And the person in the wheelchair, that is just plain rude and horrific to leave that person behind! And as for Antiquelady, I have no problem with her using caps! I have sight problems too! And I don't think that anyone here, including Mylot should be offeneded by the fact that she needs to type in caps! What is the big deal if it makes it easier for her to see? I have no problem with it and I am quite sure her mylot friends wouldn't either. I do hope mylot admin gets to read this discussion! And that was very thoughtful of you to help your friend out too!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
Thanks Opal! You're a real GEM of a friend!! I just wish others would feel the same way and know that we're all people too and we have feelings just like anybody else. Like the responses I gave above yours, it sounds a bit snotty but I don't mean for it to be but am merely laying down the facts. I pray that it is understood in a good way because it's the only way I know how to describe it. Helping friends is the way to go! It's my nature and always has been and always will be. I've gotten into a lot of trouble because of this but it doesn't stop me nor will it ever either!
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@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
8 May 09
ill remember her catsanddogs... if i ever see one of her posts, i will surely remember this discussion you posted. anyway, we are the same, i understand you, how you feel and everything... because like you, i am hearing impaired too.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
I bet you get the same kind of responses from people you see in person, "At least you have your beauty" Geeze. That's not the point. Beauty is alright, I guess, IF you like attention which I don't. And it doesn't give me good hearing! I'd trade my beauty any day of the week or year for good hearing and be just like everybody else but that's not going to happen so I had to learn to accept my problem now it's THEIR turn!
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@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
8 May 09
OK, I dig what you are saying. But this is the reality. Online language is akin to body language. In fact it's all we have. And, although I do sympathize, I too, feel yelled at when I see all caps. Funny thing is, Antiquelady, I've seen and not felt anymosity(sp). I think it's a combination of word and font for some and just font for others. If she's visually impaired, there are programs to help. I know it seems sad and perhaps cruel, but no less cruel than the office building that has no ramps to let a wheelchair bound person to go to work. Go active about it. Talk with mylot and see if there is something they can do. I'll send my message: Dear mylot, Please find a program that allows a visually impaired person to type in all caps but not show as all caps. This would help the entire community, as we have members from all walks of life and all ages. Thanks so much in advance for your cooperation. Consider this letter sent. You should send a similar letter. Until it changes, turn her on to programs that can help. I hope she is well and happy. Take care Cyndi
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 09
You say "Go active about it" That is what I'm trying to do here and now with this discussion. I don't know who put the title on CAPS as being yelled at when it's on a computer screen and nothing is being said or read out loud. It's just capital letters, nothing more and nothing less however, to each his own thing in their way of thinking BUT knowing it comes from someone who is visually impaired and the person knows it, then they should automatically know right then and there that it's not yelling. A little understanding goes a long long way.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
8 May 09
I have to agree with you that we all have our own handicapped...others are just very good in hiding them. Antiquelady is my friend (in mylot) and I don't know that she can't see well. I am taking no offense in her responding to my discussion using all caps...in fact, I appreciate her suggestions most of the time since she always makes sense to me. Don't worry, I am with you in defending antiquelady. You can count on me!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 May 09
This is so fantastic! Opening our minds to our world is a wonderful thing and it shows that we CAN do it if we give it a try. I agree, Antiquelady is a very nice lady and should be understood with compassion and not be ridiculed for something she can not help. She can see the words in small letters but it's so much easier for her when it's in caps. Thanks for letting me know that you're in this with her!
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• United States
8 May 09
I try to make a point to LOOK at the person I speak to when I know they are hearing impaired. I saw a discussion from AntiqueLady recently that explains her use of all caps, and I agree with you, leave her be! Now that I KNOW she's not shouting, and understand why she's posting that way, I feel bad if I am one of those people whoever attempted to point out that CAPS is seen as shouting. ANTIQUELADY, I AM NOT SURE IF I EVER DID IT TO YOU, BUT IF I HAVE, PLEASE ACCEPT MY APOLOGIES - I'LL NEVER AGAIN BUG YOU ABOUT USING ALL CAPS NOW THAT I KNOW BETTER. CatsandDogs, thank you for this gentle reminder that we don't always know what somebody else is dealing with or has been through, and a rush to judgment never helps anyoen and only serves to make us feel foolish later on. We all sometimes need to be reminded about simple kindness and tolerance.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 May 09
Awwww AngryKittyMSV! That is mighty sweet of you to do and say!! Thank you so much on both of our behalf's for it's so very much appreciated!! This is truly awesome!! It's something that our world needs to learn, compassion and understanding and by your words here, it's a lesson learned by all that it can be done but with an open mind. I'd give you a big ole hug if I could see you in person but this will have to do for now ((((((HUGS))))))
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
8 May 09
I don't have any problem whatsoever about her using caps. People type the way they type, plain and simple. A lot of people constantly misspell words, even though they see them many times spelled the correct way. I don't care, as long as their message gets across, it's fine with me. I've never judged anyone by anything more than their heart. If their heart is good, I like them. It's that simple. But, I do have a question. If she needs to use caps to see her responses, how is she able to see the discussions? This isn't a smart-azz question; I really am curious! Isn't there a way to make everything appear larger on our computer screens without the use of caps? I'm only thinking of her, and people like her. My own eyesight is getting worse, it seems by the day, and reading anything online is getting harder and harder, but it seems to me that there's a way to make everything larger. Wouldn't that help antiquelady? If anyone knows how to do that, it would help her AND me!
• Philippines
8 May 09
Uh-oh...I understand why antiquelady uses the caps and i enjoy her discussions but i, myself do not type in all caps when responding to her! Good for us she still makes the effort to read every word we type!
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• United States
8 May 09
They do make screen magnifiers for people with vision troubles to see the computer better, but it's my understanding that it isn't perfect or for everyone, that is can distort the views sometimes. Still, if it can help it may be worth looking into.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 May 09
Hey there you three!! lol It depends on how much a person knows about the computer and it's workings whether or not they know how to make the text bigger as well as if they have the funds to get what they need, be it a program or magnifying glass. I don't know Antiquelady's situation other than it's easier for her to read the text if it's in caps and even more so when caps and bold is used. Thanks to all of you for being so kind about all of this!! It goes to show that there are STILL wonderful people in this world!!
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