Will you forgive your friend who did something wrong many years back?

@ajithlal (14716)
India
May 8, 2009 1:22pm CST
Sometimes we are hurt by our friends with their words or deeds. Will you forgive your friend who did something wrong many years back?
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@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
8 May 09
Hello ajithlal , the only thing I could say would be it depends on what the "friend" did. If it was a really good friend that had been friends with me for years then probably yes but can't say I would have done it earlier. If they were a life long friend it would have to have been something really bad for me not even think of forgiving them.
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• United States
8 May 09
I argee with you, if they have been my friends for years and years then I would. Like you said it depends on what they did. Most things can be forgiven over time others can never be forgiven.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 May 09
What couldn't be? I'm sure there is something but I just can't think of anything offhand.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 May 09
I also think we should forgive our longtime friend small mistakes they make.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
14 May 09
I will definitely forgive because if any of my friend done any bad thing with me I beleive that there is nothing permanent in this world so if my friend has done anything wrong then he may have feel bad later on if i will not forgive and never talk to him/her i will never get chance to know that he is now feeling bad about what he/she has done in past so i should give a warning to him/her and should excuse then try to make again good relation with him/her
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
17 Sep 10
I think when we forgive our friends we makes not only the friend happy, but ourselves also happy.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 May 09
I can definitely forgive them but I will never forget it. I will not give them the chance to hurt me again either. I have done that too many times and it did not get any better.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 May 09
Sometimes things do happen in our life as we don't expect.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 May 09
I value my friendships and I forgive pretty easily. Years ago? Without a doubt.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 May 09
It is a great quality to forgive very easily. I think it takes a good mind to forgive others. To error is human, but to forgive is Divine.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
14 May 09
maybe, maybe not... it depends on what they did to me. i am the kind of the person that finds it hard to forgive, and i can never forget anything that has been done to me good or bad. i did have a very close friend, who i parted ways with because of something that had happened to me... it took more than 5 years for me to talk to her again. it's really not easy for me to get close, once i get hurt. because i am the kind of person that would really go all the way for a friend, id stick to the end, good or bad, but once you hurt me or you did something bad to me, things will never be the same again. some hurts are easily healed, some take time, some dont heal...
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
15 May 11
Revenge and hate always destroy us while love and forgiveness always makes us happy in our life.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
14 May 09
The very fact that you said 'friend' has the answer to the question. Let me express my view on friendship. Friendship is supported on pillars: -trust -love -sharing -forgiveness Yes. If the person concerned was a good friend, it your moral duty to forgive him. Moreover, what does all the religion point to? Forgiveness. Yes, my friend, however big or small the problem might be, we must learn to forgive. Especially, your friends. But in the mordern age, people are very concious and fail to do so. Many say 'we must check the depth of what he did'. Yes, we must check it. But we must always find a way to make him innocent. People now do the opposite. They try to find fault and kick him/her out of their life. I am opposed to this. There were many friends who had bullied me when I was young. I forgave them. Some even ragged me. But I forgave And Now i can proudly say, they all are really bonded to my life. Forgiveness create a new bond. So be ready to forgive. Being an Indian, I am proud of following this Gandhian principle.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
4 Mar 12
Sometimes we tries to look into one side of the problem only. It is always great to look at the side of others. I think when we does not forgive others we hurt not the person, but also oneself also.
@Darkwing (21583)
18 May 09
I'm not sure what you mean when you say "something wrong many years back". Do you mean before you met them, or whilst you were in the friendship, some years back? If it was something they did before I met them, it wouldn't even come into the equasion. I would only be interested in the way they were with me. If it was something they'd done to me whilst in a friendship, I wouldn't still be holding onto it. I would have sorted it out with them some while ago by talking. If it had been resolved then, the forgiveness would have been soon after the wronging, so I guess the answer is yes. They would be given a second chance to redeem themselves but if they failed me a second time, it would be the end of a friendship. Brightest Blessings.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 May 09
Yes, most probably I would. Sometimes people do and say things that hurt us, but time clean up most everything, and it's nice to be able to forgive and start fresh. I don't usually cling to negative things that happened and prefer to move forward in a positive note. So if that friend was sincerely wanting to re-start the friendship I probably would forgive. But I would be cautious for some time first.
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
14 May 09
Absolutely I would forgive a friend who did wrong a long time ago. Life is too short to hold a grudge and we only hurt ourselves by hanging on to it. But, I have to say also that it depended on what the friend did to hurt us in the first place. For instance, I have yet to forgive the woman who made up a story about my husband to get him fired in 2007.I haven't forgiven this person, because a) she is not a friend of mine; b) she hasn't asked for my forgiveness and c) what she did was absolutely despicable. Should I forgive her? Will I forgive her at some point just to have peace of mind and soul? I do not yet know the answers to the two questions.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 May 09
we are not perfect. we always do wrong to people whom are our friends and even to people whom we really love. but forgiving them is the best way to do to go on with life with out grudges and aches. its not only them who carry the burden of it but also you/i carry a heavier burden of not letting someone forgive of the wrong things they have done.
• Philippines
9 May 09
yes I do forgive them. and I don't have the rights to not forgive them for God can forgive to anyone who had sin. so i do forgive my friend and i would show him/her that I already forgive them of what they did..
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 May 09
I also think God forgives our sins and we need to forgive others.
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Yes, i think i would. By holding on to the hurt or grudge, i am only hurting myself more. Besides if it was many years back there's no sense in holding on to the pain and anger. It wold do everyone a favor to just let go, forgive and forget. But if you ask me if the friendship will be just like the same as before...hmm... i guess it will just depend on the circumstances. I also believe that once a relationship has been tarnished it's hard to bring it back to the way it was before. But to forgive, no question about it. Everybody deserves forgiveness. I'm not perfect. No one is.