My Neighbour Use to Irritate me!!!

India
May 8, 2009 11:38pm CST
i live in a room at rent, i have to share bathroom with a guy. he is so crazy, sometime he just uses my whole shampoo and fills it with water so that i can't know. this guy is really driving me nuts. sometimes he just eat away my soap :-) i don't know how he can consume my new soap in 2 days. but i am really driven crazy. i feel very cheap to tell him not to use my things. but he doesn't seem to understand. shall i kick his a.ss and trow him out of the room? what should i do? this guy has increased my monthly expanse to twice. Do any one of you have the same Problem? how do you handle it?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 May 09
What you need is a basket or a box to keep all of your shower products in. When you are done with your shower, you bring it back to your room until the next time you need it. Don't feel cheap. It is not up to you to provide his soap and shampoo. If you don't leave it in there then he will be forced to get his own or go smelly. You are allowing him to use you. No need to get violent on him....just stop providing for him. Let us know how it goes.
• India
9 May 09
i tried not keeping it there but he comes to my room and asks for some shampoo and knowing i have one i feel very cheap to say no to him. i know he is using me but i don't know how to refuse people politely.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 May 09
Let him borrow it one more time and tell him that you are sorry but not in a position to share. Tell him that it is hard for you to even provide these things for yourself and you really can't be providing them for others. Tell him that if you could you would. If he is any kind of neighbor worth being a friend with, he'll understand. If he doesn't understand, then he is not much of a friend or neighbor and you are better off without being friendly with him. From what you tell here, it sounds like a pretty one-sided friendship and it sounds as if he is just taking advantage of your kindness. I used to be like you and I've learned over time to speak up. I really don't mind helping anyone but when it reaches a point where it is bothering you, then it's not good. If you don't speak up, you'll bottle up your frustration and resentment toward him and and your anger will just grow. One day, you'll be in a bad mood and you'll just blow up at him and he won't understand what your problem is. After all, in his eyes, you've been fine with supplying him all along. He has no idea how much this is bothering you. It is better for both of you if you are honest and upfront.
• India
9 May 09
i tried telling him but he use to make excuses and try to direct the talk to some other point. he is much stronger than me and i am afraid to stay with him. he will try to black mail me some how if i stopped giving things to him.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
9 May 09
My Neighbor irritates me noew Ican't stand her. I can't wait to move away from her. She is a Bit(h.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
14 May 09
LOL! LOL! Ok, Here go my 2 cents worth, I thought she was a nuce person, I met her last summer, she lived across the street, our upstairs was empty, , We became friends, and I thought I knew her, Boy was she something, she lived across the Street, And haven't paid her rent for 3 months, little did I know. So she asked me who the Landlord was, I told her, I will ask him about the place for you. I did, and I wish I had'nt, told him about her. she was and still is a Drunk, she keeps us up all night sometimes, She like to argue with her Boyfriend, or whom ever he is. They have two Teenages, they are always brinigng there friends on the Porch making noise, but it's not that much, but i can't stand it when they do that. We got in a Fight, about a Month ago, she tried to burn up the Rental Car I had. she tried to set it on fire, she's Crazy, I have never in my life, seen a person like her, she is off her Rocker. She tried to Cut me with 2 Butcher Knives, you won't believe what kind of person she is, And I told my Landord about her, so when I strarted to complain about her, all he would say was , Well you told me to let her move in, all I can say now is I know I should of never told the Landlord about them, so basically it is my fault. they are getting put out because they can't seem to pay there rent. I am a very nice person, and don't bother anyone. I try to help people if I can, well I made the wrong desison that time telling the Landlord about her, We have never been able to get a long since she has moved in. Anyways we are Moving which I am Glad of that in a much nicer Neighboorhood. These people over here are Crazy. Neighood is noisey too. we are moving right now, we have to be out of our House May 21,st.She gets up like 2 or 3 o'clock washing Clothes singing in the Basement, when we are trying to sleep. Right now it is about 2:30am, and she is washing right now, She has a Drinking problem. She needs some help. I would never again in my life sugest that anyone move next to me, I learned my lesson well! Ok, I hope you can get away from your Neighbor. Have a nice day.
• India
14 May 09
hi marcia, first of all i understand how much frustration you are undergoing due to your neighbor and its nice to hear that your neighbor is same as mine so let us do one thing. lets exchange the neighbors. send her to live at my place and i may come to your neighborhood. :-D we both will be happy then! is it okay? by the way you haven't told how she tortures you?
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
9 May 09
You can take your things when you go to bath and then bring back when you have finished and keep them at some safe place, where he can not find these things, or else you can say him directly coz such people dont understand the hints and they shamelessly continue their irritating activities.
• India
9 May 09
but i don't like these things personally. i love to share my lunch with friends. but this guy is not eating my lunch he is trying to eat me instead :-)
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
9 May 09
lolz... I never have this kind of problem. I used to rent a room from someone too and everything that is belong to me, I just keep in my room. Once I want to use it, then I just bring it with me. If you dont want him to use your stuff then keep them in your room and when you need to use bathroom, bring them with you. I cant find anything difficult. He can't eat your soap and no one can't either... He just try to destroy your stuff or just got lost it somehow. Take it easy and always smile at him like this NO MORE SOAP, so what is he going to do ? lolz. I am sure he will buy himself a soap
• India
9 May 09
ha ha ha so funny! really telling smiley he is doing that, he is eating my soap. you tell me how can anyone use a brand new soap and it turns 1Dimensional in just 2 days. He doesn't buy anything. one day he found that my washing soap was missing and he washed his clothes with my Fiama Di willis soap which is very expansive. sometimes he wash hands with my dove soap. and i get so crazy when i find water mixed in that shampoo bottle. why Does he need to do so?
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
9 May 09
There's only one solution, which is to stop sharing all your things with him.. haha =D If he were to question u, then u shall tell him the truth.. And if he says u are being petty, than get him to buy those things instead.. haha =D Though it's ok to share things, but one should always know their limits and never take things for granted.. In this case here, he's clearly trying to take advantage of u..
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
9 May 09
Then let him tell.. No matter what he does, he will still be at the losing end, because u wont be sharing anymore things with him ^_^
• India
9 May 09
he is trying to blackmail me by saying that he will tell my parents about my girl friend if he stopped him from using my Deodrant and other stuff.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
9 May 09
Hi, Deepak_Online! If you are the main rent payer and the room is under your name, it would be best to kick him out. Even if you hide your personal things he may still find them and use them. He should just use his own personal items instead of yours. It is not healthy to use other peoples personal items. For sanitary reasons it is best to have seperate items. Kick him out, this has gone too far! Also before you kick him out, have a man to man talk with him and let him know that you don't appreciate him using your personal items. Tell him that it is very disrespectful to use them. Be blunt with him and let him see that you are serious about not allowing him to walk over you like he is. If he still dosen't want to comply to your request, then give him the boot! As for me, I don't think that I could ever room with another roomate, there will always be some kind of problems down along the line. When I was in college, I used to room with this girl from upstate. And when I was in my classes and away from the room, she would bring her friends over and they would eat near my dresser. I mean she had her side of the room and I had mines. I confronted her about it, when it kept on going on and on. She listened to me, but I could tell that she was not happy with my choice of words that I gave to her. So, from this incident, I could never room with another person. They will have to be very respectable for it to work. Respect is the main key in making it all work out when you are rooming with another roomate. I hope that your roomate stops being annoying. If he does not get himself together, then you will have to let him go.
• India
9 May 09
we share the room rent. so i can't kick him out. i am no blunt and i have never been rude to anybody before. he is taking advantage of my cute image. you know sometimes i really feel like boxing off his nose. but i haven't did it before so i lack some courage.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
14 May 09
He is Crazy too, First of all I would tell him to get his own person things, I would keep my Soap in my room. No you don't have to kick his A$$ just tell him in a nice way. That is not good when you have to share a room, but if that is all you can afford themn I guess yo will have to put up with it, but I would still tell him as long as you don't say anything he will keep doing it. Ok, I hope you get things strait with that Bum. Ok, Have a nice day! You should'nt have to put up with that.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 May 09
i dont have any kind of neighbor that irritates me.. im glad! :D hehe but well if that is the case for you, you will have to at least well give him the benefit of the doubt for his actions. you just have to try to understand him more, better and try to keep up. or you dont have to mind him.
• India
10 May 09
Well, don't keep your soaps and shampoos in the bathroom. Keep them in your room and do not let him touch them no matter what. Tell them that you have been diagnosed with a skin disease that is contagious and spreads when someone uses your clothes or soap. That will surely make him stop using your soap and clothes. Added advantage eh? For the shampoo, you just gotta protect it. I know it can be irritating to have such a person, but since you are sharing the bathroom, people can take it for granted that everything in the bathroom is shared. Hope you get rid of this antiques. bourne
@dsharat (456)
• India
9 May 09
Lol!!! Some of our Indians are really weird and look very cheap.Some times even I face these situations.They really test our tolerance.What I do is I'll try to be patient and even then if they do the same things with me then I'll also try to go in their way.If was in your position I'll start using his things as he does with yours.Try to get the same irritation that he causes you.Then one fine day he will try to warn you,at that time you can also tell that it feels me the same when yo use my things.You have to go in this way because some people will come to know their misbehavior or mistakes when they face the same situation...Don't delay in letting him know..Hope it works to you..
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
9 May 09
hmmmm,i think it is very hard to get long well if share rent fee with others.there will be so many troubles each other.anyway,you should just choose bear what he did wrong to you.be happy ,friend.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
9 May 09
I used to stay in hostel and we share bathroom too. It is a common knowledge not to leave any of your toiletries in the bathroom, or you'll find them empty. Since you rent a room, keep them in your room. If you're not comfortable with this, just talk to him. I am not sure whether this will work.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
9 May 09
Oh,crazy! The guy is odd! You can ask him for money.Or don't put your soap and shampoo in the bathroom. When you need to use them,you take out them.