Birthday parties

@lilybug (21107)
United States
May 9, 2009 11:00am CST
My son was invited to a birthday party today. It is for a kid in his class that he really does not know very well, but he wanted to go anyway. My son asked the boy what he wanted for his birthday and he replied that he wanted a Walmart gift card. How much would you spend on a kid that your child does not really know? My son of course is thinking what he would like to get, which I think is too much. I was thinking about just slipping a $5 bill in the card.
12 responses
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
15 May 09
I think five dollars either in cash or gift card is real reasonable. Both for his age and for someone you barely know. So if i were you I would just go with that.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
15 May 09
He ended up getting $5 cash in a card.
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
9 May 09
I think $5 is great for a child you do not know. Hope you son has a great time at this party, and who knows maybe after this party your son and this child he does not know too well will become best friends.....friendships start and grow in the most unlikely places and at the most unexpected times. Happy Mylotting!!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
9 May 09
He is still there. When he got out of the car there were a lot of kids that said hi to him and knew him by name, so I am sure he is having a wonderful time there.
• India
9 May 09
More than good enough, if you ask me. Children are of course swayed by such things and they needn’t worry about our purse so for them, anything is OK…the more expensive the better. In some ways, I dread birthday parties esp. if I don’t know them as my son is very gullible and obstinate in these matters…he always thinks he’s giving the cheapest gifts. I of course put my foot down, either you go with what I buy or you don’t go at all.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
9 May 09
Yeah, my son always tries to go overboard when picking out gifts for people. Mommy is not made out of money.
• United States
9 May 09
Well I think it depends of the ages of the children you are talking about. If it's between 5-7, we have always done like $10, anything older we have done $20 but that's what works for us. A different amount may be better for you and your budget. Cash and gift cards seem to be what most kids are asking for these days- my oldest son wnet to a party where his 12 year old buddy walked away with over $150 bucks from all his friends- but he (the little boy) put it toward a new gaming console- so like I said its up to you. Good luck and happy mylotting!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
9 May 09
This boy is turning 9. If he was actually a friend of my son then I would give him more, but this boy just invited the whole class. My son decided he wanted to go anyway.
• United States
9 May 09
I think that $5 is great for elementary, $10 for jr high and $20 for high school. Expecially if the kid asks for money, graduation is different but for birthdays this should be ok.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
9 May 09
The boy is 9. If it was a friend of his I might go for maybe $10, but this kid he barely knows.
• Philippines
25 May 09
Since the celebrant is just a kid, giving money is not advisable. I think doing so will teach them to be materialistic. Just give him something a kid of his age should have. I came across this site which will help you in finding the right gift http://www.gifti.us
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
19 May 09
I would probably do the same thing. My nephew is saving up with his brother for a new expensive toy. It will take them a while to save up. He said he wants cash or a gift card. That is easier because we know them. $5 seems appropriate given the situation.
• United States
15 May 09
I'd say $5-10 would be fine; though I'd lean more tward the $10 so you don't look too cheap. But I agree if you don't really know them or the parents I wouldn't worry about how much you put in the envelope.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 May 09
From the sounds of it, this kid invited the whole class just so he could get more presents and more money! Especially since he's asking for a gift card and not an actual toy, totally sounds greedy. Whenever parents call and ask what my kids want I just tell them "Oh he's interested in cars and superheroes, so you can't go wrong if you pick something of that nature" that way they decide what to get. I like for my kids to be surprised and get something they wouldn't actually pick out, or I wouldn't pick out for them. You never know how much they may enjoy something you'd never think to get them, you know? When I take my kids to someone else's birthday party, I never ask what they want. I use my imagination and find a gift between $5 and $10 that they'd enjoy. It would probably be something my own kid has and loves. To get an idea I go by what's on the invitation. If it's a Transformers invitation, you can bet the kid likes super heroes. If it's a football invitation, the kid likes sports, etc etc.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
10 May 09
Five dollars should be just fine, expecially for a kid your son really do not know. If it was a kid that my son was friends with, I would give a care with ten dollars. It was nice that your son was invited to the party, but you shouldn't go overboard with the gift. I am sure the kid would appreciate anything that he got.
@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
15 May 09
hi lilybug, belated happy birthday to your son! i havent got any child at the moment but i think first birthday will be thinking of giving him/her a party coz to reckon that he/she is our first baby and the first grandson in the family. but i think, after 2 years old, i will be practical in giving him/her birthday parties.
• Philippines
15 May 09
for me it's just OK to spend $5 on the kid that your son doesn't really know well. besides, it is better to give than to receive ;)