I Wish I Hadn't Said That1

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
May 9, 2009 1:25pm CST
I recently opened a discussion here on myLot that I soon came to regret because the kinds of responses I got let me know that the responders don't know me nearly well enough to advise me on such a subject without knowledge of my personal family dynamics. Most of the responses were very understanding and helpful, but I came away feeling that some of them had judged me too harshly and wrongly. Has this ever happened to you? You post a discussion on something that is weighing heavily upon your mind only to wish later that you could take it all back?
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@teresat (156)
• United States
10 May 09
All the time! Being on myLot and even on other blogging sites, I find people tend to jump to conclusions. Many are so busy trying to make a few extra cents, they don't take the time to really read what the blogger is saying. They assume they know what is being said based on a quick read of the blog. Others, have been judged so harshly themselves that the only thing they know to do is pass that same judgment onto others. There is an old saying that says: Hurting people, hurt people. People can't rise above to see others past how they can see themselves.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
And we all know, teresat, what happens when we make assumptions!
@Kenorv (343)
• United States
10 May 09
There are a lot of things that I say or write on the internet that I wish I could take back. I'm sure that everyone is that way.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
I agree that it would be nice if we could sometimes have a do-over, Kenorv.
@gabs8513 (48694)
• United Kingdom
9 May 09
Sweetie that is the Problem in this world now they judge to fast and do not read into it properly That is one thing that makes me angry with the world Do not worry about it People who know you and love you know what a wonderful Person and Friend you are Love you Hugs
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
I learned a long time ago, gabs, that it is foolhardy to rush to judgment, and I guess there are some here who need to learn that lesson as well. I just hate it when people take what I say in any way other than the way I meant it to be.
@stephcjh (38695)
• United States
10 May 09
I have done that a few times too. I wish we could delete those kinds of discussions too. I am a hard person to understand anyway, it seems.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
I think a solution to the problem, stephcjh, would be that we should try to get to know each other a little better. A member suggested awhile back that we should each write something about ourselves and post it on our profile pages, and I think that was a great way to get to know one another better.
@kezabelle (2979)
10 May 09
It does happen but thats is the trouble with posting personal situations on a public forum if a few people who dont know your full situation answer you then they may judge simply because they dont know the full situation, I think really it is best on somewhere like here when looking for advice is to post everything that is related to the problem so people can advise properly or dont post it on such a large forum use a smaller more personal one where everyone knows you.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
I try to avoid posting anything that is deeply personal, kezabelle, but sometimes it does creep into the discussion. I am on a few forums and I don't know very many people on most of them. I know more people here on myLot than any of the others.
@4u2enjoy (300)
• Malaysia
10 May 09
Yeah that is normal. Sometimes people don't get what are you writing about. I normally don't bother harsh responds. What really matter is i don't write about craps.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
16 May 09
I never write about crap, 4u, at least that is my opinion. I simply dislike members acting in a rude manner when it is uncalled for.
• United States
19 May 09
I just recently took a comment by a friend the wrong way. I thought he was just agreeing with me to be polite yet he wasn't. After writing back and forth, we cleared the air and i apologize. Saying yu are sorry and really mean it is the best way to feel better.
@maximax8 (31136)
• United Kingdom
9 May 09
On a My Lot post I wrote "cease the moment" and I had meant " seize the moment". Once written it can't be taken back. Usually I have had lovely responses to my discussions that I have started however I have had two replies that were upsetting. In one of these I think the My Lot member had misunderstood what I had said in the first place. On the other one I think the My Lot member was being nasty. I have seen a number of other members discussions that have said highly personal things and from the comments they got they probably wish they could take that discussion back.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
13 May 09
It's like they say, maximax, hindsight is 20-20!
@nzalheart (2338)
• India
9 May 09
Hello worldwise1!!! Well I think many times before I start a discussion. I don't want to regret later for what I have said, because we have no right to delete our discussion here on mylot. It would have been nice if mylot had this feature. So as far as possible I don't post such things which makes me regretted and I think of the future too. We can't say, the thing we write here could be read by some one we know in real life which we didn't want them to know. That's why I mostly become careful while posting things out here... If you wont it deleted, may someone violate the rule there in the thread and may your thread get deleted lol...Don't mind friend, just a funny idea... happy mylotting...
@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
9 May 09
I haven't experienced that yet, but I have seen it on other posts. Some people are quick to judge and others will be more understanding. Don't let it bother you too much though =)
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
13 May 09
I only hope, tabsnlos, that my experience will make me more selective in my future choice of topics.