this is for the people in seriuos relationships?

United States
May 11, 2009 9:26pm CST
I would like to know how often do you get to leave and hang out with your friends? Like for example like to go out to eat or to the bar whatever, no kids just you and your friends? I am curious because my boyfriend seems to go out like twice a week which to me seems like a lot. He goes to the same friends house and he stays to like 1 am? So I ask mylotters how often do you get to go out? Let me know thanks :)
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
12 May 09
I don't go out unnecessarily to friends house or anywhere and waste my time for no good reasons. I am always at home 24/7 unless there are invitations for dinner then I leave my house to attend to it. Having a boyfriend who used to stay long hours with other people is a matter of concern and you should think twice to be with such kind of person. It doesn't sound right and try to find out why he does that. It is definitely not good to be with such kind of person as I have bad experience myself with someone who stay away most of the time rather then spending time with you. Think about it seriously.
• United States
12 May 09
I know I do get worried a little to be honest. I think that 2 times a week is a little too much when you have a family and other things that are going on. But I also realize that he needs a break too and cannot always be around me 24/7. Thanks for the warning and I will keep my guard up. Take care and thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion. Oh by the way his friend is a male if that might make a difference to you. No females:)
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
12 May 09
It doesn't make it a difference whether his friends are male or female, the problem here is him wasting his time hanging around and wasting away his time in empty talks with his friends. My husband was that kind of person. During our early part of marriage he spend most of his time hanging around with his friends. The time could have spend in many beneficial pursuit. We can't take put back the time that has passed us and many people who indulge in this kind of habit will always end up a loser.
• United States
12 May 09
Well I say you are very opinionated about this. I do have a question for you are you still with this current husband that you are talking about? I am curious as to why you feel this way and I would like to know if you do not mind answering that. Take care and I hope to hear back from you.
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@lumenmom (1995)
• United States
12 May 09
I personally do not go out much with friends. Most of my close friends don't live here anymore and there's just not a lot of places I like to go that my daughter cannot go also. A couple of months ago I had to be dragged to a fancy gala which lasted til midnight. It was a lot of fun but then most of the attendees were parents and teachers at my daughter's school.....it was a fundraiser event. Other than that, I have not been out at all this year.
• United States
12 May 09
I would love to go out more often with my friends but money, time and no car is a real issue for me at the moment. I got to spend some time today with a girlfriend of mine for a few hours but it seemed more like work cause we were cleaning her car out. I guess I have to help people clean their cars now I enjoyed it and I would do it again so has been helping me and thats cool. Take care and happy mylotting as well.
• India
12 May 09
I use to go on out for recreation, whether it is with girls or boys.you know after 5 hectic working days you need recreation that put energy in you to word hard again for five days..by this way don't feel much pressure..every body should enjoy weekends, and me and my friends enjoy a lot,we people really hai fabulous time... life is like icecream enjoy it before it melt:)
• United States
13 May 09
I like that saying enjoy life like ice cream before it melts! That is really cute and I thank you for taking the time to respond to my discussion here as well.
• United States
12 May 09
Are you asking this question because you have doubts as to what your boyfriend is doing at his friends house til 1 am twice per week? My husband occasionally goes places without me and I occasionally go out without him. It really does not happen often. We just chose to do things together as a family
• United States
13 May 09
I do not have any doubts really I just want him to spend more time with me is all. I understand he needs away time and I think I am becoming more understanding of that now and I am gonna contintue to be more understanding as well. Thanks for your thoughts and happy mylotting as well.
@manleyjoe (1599)
• United States
12 May 09
I could go every day if I wanted to. I have a wife that keeps me happy at home so I do not need to go out with friends unless it is with another couple. We both have friends that we see from time to time but never stay out with them until the early morning hours.
• United States
12 May 09
See this is how I feel about it. I feel my boyfriend should not be out that late at night. I understand he is really close to his buddie but I am imporant and so are our daughters. Anyway thanks for your thoughts on this issue and happy mylotting to you as well.
@zzyw87 (1260)
• Philippines
12 May 09
I am in a serious and longtime relationship and me and my guy are still in love. Yes, we make it a point to spend time with our own group of friends once in a while. For example, I usually go out with my own set of friends once every two weeks. My guy, on the other hand, hangs out with his buddies once a week, either at his or their house. Twice a week is actually fine with me as long as they are not doing anything wrong. People should have their own space even in relationships.
• United States
12 May 09
I know everyone needs their space but a relationship needs to be put first at least that is my feelings on it. Take care and thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion. Happy mylotting as well.
• Canada
12 May 09
Hi there! I go out whenever I want. My partner and I always make sure we make our arrangements in advance so that one of us can stay with the girls. Sometimes I go out three or four times a week, it really depends on what I feel like doing. Having a family doesn't mean we have to be stuck home or not have a social life. And if you don't have kids, it is even easier; because you and your boyfriend can each do your own stuff whenever you feel like it. As far as I'm concerned, each person has to keep their own routine even if they are in a relationship - spending time apart actually allows you to appreciate your partner much more :)
• United States
12 May 09
I see what you are saying here. I understand the need to have friends but I also think family is imporant as well and to me should be first proity. This is my opinion and I think that is how people are different. Take care and happy mylotting to you as well.
12 May 09
Hi momtry, Few years ago my hubby used to go out four times a week and I used to hang out with my friends three times a week but it normal and twice a week is ok but now hubby don't go out much at all but I go out for about four times a month. Tamara
• United States
12 May 09
Seems fair enough if it works do not fix it right:) Anyway thanks for taking the time to give me your input on this and happy mylotting as well.
• United States
12 May 09
My husband and I currently do not have any children, so that makes it much easier for us to be able to go hang out with friends. Lately, we have been really busy. We both work full time. My husband is going to school and I am working a part time job to pay for it. So we only get to hang out with our friends about once per week. I do think it is important in any relationship to spend time with friends. I think spending time away from your spouse or significant other sometimes can actually make a relationship stronger. I dont think it is a problem that your boyfriend goes out twice a week. As long as he is still spending time with you and taking care of his responsibilities, I dont understand why it would be a problem. Do you not get to hang out with your friends? Do you feel like you and him dont spend enough time together? I think maybe I am missing the problem about which you are really asking.
• United States
12 May 09
Hi there derlilaStern I think you kinda of understand what I am trying to say. I think that might be a little too much but he does spend time with me so I guess I should really not complain. I guess I wish he would cut it down to like one time a week. But than again I think you are right about the fact that we have become a lot closer when he gets some him time as well. I do spend time with friends but not as much as I would like. I have been not really doing a whole lot but I am starting to get out a lot more than before. Thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion and happy mylotting as well.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
12 May 09
I don't feel going to hang w/ friends twice a week is too much (maybe until 1am is tho) anyway, to answer your question-I haven't gone to hang w/ my friends in months maybe it's b/c things have been very hectic for me but even before I never really went out alone in the entire 19 years I've lived w/ my DM I've left to go out alone a handfull of times.
@Ithink (10459)
• United States
12 May 09
This is a hard one for me as we are pretty much people that like hanging out at home and we have kids so who knows that could change in the future when they are all out of the house. Somehow I dont think it will change thou. lol I do however go out sometimes and I play on a pool league and when it is in session I play every Sat. and Im gone for about 4 hours or so. I encourage him to go out but he really doesnt like to so I guess it just depends on the couple and the individual couple. As long as the relationship is good and you are spending time with you partner I think it is whatever is acceptable to them.