You should only regret the things you didn't do - do you agree?

when i was young,i really did a lot of wrong things which i still was influenced,i couldn't say that i didn't regret for it,may be it is really unhealthy to regret things,because there is no any meanings,sometims i will talk about again and again,it makes my hubby boring too,some people say,there must have something wrong we would be done in youth,but it's unworthy if it is too big problem.

If you went back in time and did it all over again, there's no guarantee that you'll end up the exact same person you are now :) And I doubt if you hate who you turned out to be :) Worrying about something you have done in the past will not solve anything. If you're still bothered by your past actions because you ended up hurting someone, then why not make amends and show your remorse to the person affected? That might bring closure in your worries and prove to be another good experience that will help you mature :) I think I like that line, "regrets are for things you didn't do" because the main regret there is the time lost. You could have done that at that exact moment but you didn't and you will never know the outcome :D That's certainly something worth regretting :) But I think regret is something that we should get rid of - not by forgetting them but by closing up old issues through reflection and proper conversation :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

i think its natural to regret some things in the past.. when it becomes unhealthy is when you get so obsessed over how you did wrong and what you would have done differently that you tear yourself up over it..

This is another discussion for which there is no easy answer as you may regret both things that you have done and those for which you didnt do when you are able to look back and see things clearly.However I see what you are trying to say and it really hard to come to terms with things you didnt do .Atleast you know the result of things you do but those which you didnt do you may keep asking what if?

I think you will regret things you didn't do and done.you will feel regret when you don't seize opportunity to do things you haven't done.these opportunities come only once and may never come again.you may do things that you never thought of doing,and some of these things you will regret.

Try not to dwell too much on things that are in the past. But when you think about it, try to refocus that energy into doing something positive to atone for what you did wrong, which in turn will make you feel better. They say you regret more the things you didn't do than those you did, but when it comes to my personal experiences, I have greater regrets for actual actions. I don't really like when people say they have no regrets, because often they've done things that deeply hurt others and it's irresponsible and warped not to feel some remorse for that. Yes, they benefited by learning from these mistakes (though I maintain that basic observation of life and humanity should teach you how to behave decently enough that you shouldn't have to EXPERIENCE it), but it's still not right to say you don't regret it in some regard. I've never even been a big fan of the concept that you can make horrible mistakes but learn from them. I don't make serious, tragic mistakes and I can hardly see how people do. I think before I act and give a bit of analysis to the consequences! I don't see why more people can't use their brains...

I have heard the sentence "It is better to regret the things you did than the things you never did", and I think it is true in some situations. If you want to try something: A challinging job, a new education, having your own business etc, I think it is better to try than to say: "I might fail, I am not going to try" because you don't try, you might regret it, and later in your life you might wonder what would have been IF you have followed your dreams. Or if you are too shy to contact a man or woman that you are interested in and miss out of the chance, because you didn't try. I have had many failures in my life, and of course I am sad that things didn't go the way I planned, but I still glad I tried. In other situations I think it is normal to regret the things you did for instanse when you hurt someone, or behaved in a way that was wrong. I regret some things I did in the past, but I have learned form those things, and I know that I would never do the same thing again. I think that your own mistakes makes you a more tolerant person. When you don't have much experience, you might judge someone for their behaviour, but later on when you have been in a similar situation, it is much easier to understand and forgive others. Personally I think that my mistakes have made me more understanding and forgiving. There are some things that I regret and some things that I wish that I could take back, but that isn't possible, so I try to use in a positive way instead, and I try to focus on the things that I have learned.