is it difficult to make new friends in your life?

@fwangaa (3058)
China
May 13, 2009 10:58pm CST
i think it is very difficult. when you want to make a friend. you should tell him which work you work at. if you don't to tell him which job you work at, they will don't beleive you. if you tell them which work you worked at. you will not gain true friend. my job gaved by one of my relatives. i don't feel very well by that reasons. so i don't want to say i am work in.... .. because i know i don't want to say i am very good so i am in that job. i want to find a job by myself. what about you , ?? are you also have this case?
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17 responses
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
14 May 09
Hello fwangaa. I don't think that it is difficult for me to make new friends in my life. I usually like to make friends who have the same interests and share the same thoughts with me because this kind of friendship lasts longer, I guess. But one of the most important qualities that the friend I would like to make is supposed to be positive in personality, nice and kind-hearted to people as well. I don't think that it has anything to do with your job when making friends is related to. Good day.
• Hong Kong
21 May 09
But unfortunately I can't find so many people have the same thoughts with me and hav e same interests, that makes me quite hard to make new friends with others. I sticked to the rule to make friends to the very same kind of person before, and it was indeed very wrong, and I found it was quite pity to miss so many chance to meet different persons. So now, I am very kind to every different type of person.
@besthope44 (12141)
• India
17 Jul 10
Well friendship is nice gift of life. They are gifted.
@HelloMickey (1656)
• Hong Kong
21 May 09
Quite difficult to make new friends when I get older. As I always wanted to make friends with who have same interets and some thought with me, but indeed it was quite difficult to meet somebodies would really like me. So now, I only want to know different kind of person and make friends with them. But if you find your friends need to know every details about you, you can just tell them where you work at and what kind of job you are doing, you don't really need to tell me how you got your job. I think somehow so-called friends should respect others and don't need to question others all kind of details or privacy. I once worked in my relative's company and I couldn't make friends with my workmates, as they all knew my relationship with the boss, so they would stay very close to me, as they didn't want their gossips about the company were known by me.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
18 May 09
Yes. It is very hard for me to do that. I only have a couple of true friends and that is it. It took me forever to find them also.
• United States
14 May 09
I have always had that problem of making new friends. Its not easy if you are not an open person. I have been becoming more and more open latelly though. And since we moved out to TN two years ago we have more friends then I ever had in California. Its amazing! People are totally nice. That and no wifi unless I go in public few times a week tends to make me make more friends. So do I find it difficult? Still yes. But not as much. I guess it gets easier with time and such. But finding GREAT friends isnt the same. In high school I had a ton of friends then when I graduated 10 yrs ago they all kinda stopped being really great friends with me I dont even know if they were friends. Now its like I have a few great friends but not as much. Who knows though right?
• Philippines
14 May 09
I think it difficult to make friends now. It's like everyone has their own set of friends and they would stick with them. When I was in college I stop for one year in school. My friends graduated already and I was left in school alone with no friends. Everyone has a friend and it's hard to get into a group. So I just stick with my self. Even at my work you wouldnt know who to trust. It's really hard. That's why we should treasure the friendship that we made with our friends.
@mimuche (163)
• Canada
14 May 09
i think it depends more on the personality of a person. But the world is moving so fast these days that there is no space left to be shy and discouraged. I have been traveling a lot and the one thing I have learned is that for as long as you wish to make friends you will. Give someone a smile, a sincere compliment and never be afraid to acknowledge someone's achievements, because that what friendship is all about. However I think it is never enough to point out the importance of "whose advice you buy". There are people out there who give you a huge and loving smile while backstabbing you. What I think is harder, is to develop and very good friendship only because it takes more time and trust. And never be afraid to do things on your own. You have to fail before you reach your goal because then you won't let it go that easily, which will make you a fighter.
• United States
14 May 09
It's not difficult for me to make new friends, I love making new friends. In some instances it may be difficult but that may just be on the person you are talking to. And it's not like you have to make them your best friend and have to hang out with them all the time... just make them a friend. I've made a few new friends this past week and I only see them in one place and I don't go there very often but they are still my friends.
• United States
14 May 09
yes cause im shy and there back stab ppl in the world
• Singapore
14 May 09
I think it is very difficult. I am an introvert to begin with so it is very hard for me to start a conversation with people around me. Even if I managed to start the conversation, it wouldn't last for more than 5 sentences. =_=
@rakesh284 (1472)
• India
14 May 09
Yes you are right up to some extent because sometimes it might happen that we may find friends but they will not be good friends until we will be open minded with them. These days recession is going on and every other day we may notice some decline in salary or manpower at every organization and so everybody is tensed and are worried about there own problems and so are avoiding to make new friends.
@haiershen (1082)
• China
14 May 09
hi, in my opinion, make a real friends is very difficult, but make a new friends is easy, if somebody stayed together for a long time or doing working at an office, after the day passed, friendship will be appeared in our life, we will concern each other very well.
• China
14 May 09
Haha,i guess you are a chinese while i have finished reading your discussion,then i read you profile,It show that i have got the right answer.Not everyone want to make use of his friends' special job to realise his secret purpose.I know a classmate who works in CCTV ,but i haven't visit him ever so far.Because we all are busy and i don't care what i can get from him.
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
14 May 09
hi fwangaa! i sometimes find it difficult to make new friends with a stranger.i think it's because i'm a shy type of a person.but if someone approaches me and initiates a conversation,then i will not hesitate to make friends with him/her.i think it's okay to tell them about the nature of your work.it's up to them to believe you or not. happy mylotting!
@geo_raju (259)
• India
14 May 09
i don't think it is difficult to get a new friend but to get a good friend is really difficult.with a friend you should be open, even if you are having a low grade job your friends won't matter that.just be open with him ,after all friends are for that.to share your sorrows and happiness.a good friend will be there for you at your difficult times.i don't think having a large no. of friends is not a great deal but having a genuine one is .
• India
14 May 09
hi fwangaa.well yes i too have difficulties in making new friends , but a real friend will be the one who will stand beside you even though you have a thousand bad qualities , search for such friends and not for those who are there for you only till you are good.friends should always be chosen after thinking a 100 times.and as far as your job is concerned, it is great to hear that you want to find a job on your own. i too wan to do that.best of luck.
@geniustiger (1696)
• Philippines
14 May 09
i think not for me i not make that difficult for i make new friends whoever they are, what their jobs, hobbies or talent as long as they wanted also to be a friend of mine im willing. but if i can sense that im not comfortable with them because of their status symbol i apart from it . but if they willing to care w/ me i would also trying to grow it until we become old in the sense that there deeds are right and good.