Did you ever lied to your best friends?

@n30wing (4768)
Philippines
May 14, 2009 3:38am CST
Well I am just human to commit mistakes, and I am not perfect all the time, I am just human. Well if my best friend invites me out to go with him, and really tired or really needed rest I give him lies not to go out with him. But it doesn't mean I will do that to him often. Cause it's to hard to say no especially to a best friend or someone who is close to you. Some friends can't accept no, they just feel bad about it if you can't go with them. But also we do also have our own priorities like work and family and you also get burnout and I rather be alone for a while. Have a nice day to you all!
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13 responses
@mimuche (163)
• Canada
15 May 09
I tried and then I felt so bad about it so I eventually told her the truth after a week or so. I was just afraid she would be too sad because was nothing good to hear. We share everything and it always makes it easier to solve any problem. And the best thing is that if you do not want to do something you just say no and no one will be mad or sad. We have been able to adjust to each others personality really well and I think it is important to have such friend in life.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi mimuche, not all friends can understand the word No. Even you already answered no they will still force you to be yes. It makes me piss off sometimes. Well everyone deserve their own privacy or being alone some how or another. Yes when you seem seeing them sad it also makes you feel sad too. But that is life how it goes. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@mimuche (163)
• Canada
22 May 09
i agree ... that is why i consider myself lucky to have a best friend that takes no for a no and a yes for a yes.I have many other friends that kinda push me to do something that i do not really want to do but they want so i know how it is
@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
14 May 09
i admit that i did lie to them, but it was just a white lies. my friends are very good to me and they are very understanding. there are times that i could tell that they know that i am lying to them but still they didn't confront me.
• United States
15 May 09
Small lies may actually build friendships but it's the lies that cause heart break and lost of contact that break them apart.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi aileen, well there are things you don't want to make your best friend feeling bad or disappointed. Your lucky to have friends like them they don't confront you, and still do understand you. Have a nice day to you!
• India
14 May 09
Yes,i lied to my best friend one or more occasions.It is very difficult to see person who never tells a lie in his whole life.I do lie and as such I only lie when I really need to.In situation we have to tell lie to escape from some serious problems.There is nothing wrong in telling lies,if it not hurt any one.
• United States
15 May 09
We ae all human therefore we make mistakes, we lie, and we have many faults so anyone who says no to this post is a liar. :)
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi sreejithsreen, same here I don't really want to lie but it's a way for an excuse. So I wont hurt his feelings and feeling disappointed. But I only lied once or twice not more than that. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
15 May 09
yes,I have ever lied to my best friend .But it is not because I don't want to do something but my friend want to do. If I don't want to do something,I will say the truth.That just because something I don't want to share with friends. I don't know wether it is good. Do you have something you don't want to share with others,even your best friend?
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi yoyozhou, I think we all need our private moments, that you want to be alone for a while, same with them. Not all the time also you could be opening up everything like what they don't like this or that to you. But we also have our own life to learn. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Romania
15 May 09
Yes, I have and I think everybody has, at some point in their life. It's our human nature. But sometimes I feel like I don't diserve to have a best friend. I am one of those people that care more about themselves than about their friends. And it's not just inocent lies that I use, but sometimes I really hurt the people around me for my own well being. I tried to change, and I still try, but it's in my genes, I am just too selfish and egocentristic.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi terbeag, well I think all of us needs to be alone, have our own private moments that friends don't understand. They will always force you to understand them. Some friends are selfish they only think of what they can get, and you can't get anything from them even time. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@Ruby722 (797)
• China
15 May 09
Well,If it is a kindly lie i think you friend will understand you behavior Or mabye you can just told he/she you was tired. you didn't need lie to them Sometime i have this problem too.they always want to you go out with them and do something you don't like.if i felt tired.i told her i din't want to go.If her/his is your good friend i think they will understand you
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi Ruby722, well ruby not all friends can't understand you. Not all friends can understand you your tired. The NO sometimes times it should be yes. But sometimes you also need privacy or being alone. I just don't know if they also do it to me telling a lie. Anyway have a great day a head!
• Philippines
15 May 09
I lied to my bestfriend, most especially when i dont want her to know that im dating someone that she doesn't approved of. I just dont want to have arguments with her so when she asked me where did i go the other day, i will tell her i just stay in the house and watch tv. thats lying, right?
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi charlenmendoza, I think we still have our own privacy. Some friends cannot understand it. Well we know that they are just concern to us. But we also should have our own limits. Their are things we can just opening up to them. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• United States
15 May 09
Honestly, yes. It happens sometimes without me even knowing. I've lied to them to prevent hurting their feelings, I've lied to them about unnecessary things, but I've told the truth more. I'm a honest man and I only lie to better someone unless it back fires on me...
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi djsimonmlb, likewise I lie but not that often I guess. I just don't want them to feel bad or feeling disappointed when I say No. Some friends cannot understand the word No. I hate the feeling not to tell them the truth but it will be easier sometimes for them to understand. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• United States
14 May 09
I wouldn't say I lie to my friends but I am not always honest with them. When we all get around each other and talk about certain stuff I am always the one who wants try something or do something and they look at me weird. It's not that they don't support me but I know they might not think it's normal. Lately, I have been going out a lot and I try to invite my roomie but she never goes and then all of a sudden she wants to go when I am either tired or in the middle of something else and she said I let her down but I don't think thats true. I normally tell her I am doing something else. Or if I did something that I know they wouldn't have expected from me I don't tell them either.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi Flirtykumquat, well for me I am not perfect, I also commit mistakes. But there are things that is only for me and keeping it inside me, and there are thing I can tell them. I just don't like to disappointed them when they ask me to go with them. But there are really days that I am really tired. They can't just understand the word no sometimes. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
14 May 09
I don't identify a lie with a cheat. I never cheat my friends. Sometime I lie them, but it's just a white lie. In fact, if I have to hide something behind my friend, it's because I think it's better for him/her. If my friend can't understand that and merely criticize me for disguiding the truth, I think that our relation is not worth forcing to maintain.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi coldmoon, I agree with what you said. Sometimes friends doesn't understand this. I only think that there are things you can open it up to them, and there are things you have to keep it to your own. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
14 May 09
I am not perfect either and I am only human who also makes mistakes, but I have never lied to my best friend. If you friend is truly your best friends then you should be able to tell him/her the truth and they should be able to accept it no problems. A true friend will understand that you are too tired, or just not in the mood to go out or do whatever activity it may be they want to do. I mean if you wanted to go do something would not understand if your friend said they did not feel like going? Honesty is always the best policy and if your friend cannot accept this then they are not your true best friend......
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi Ozarkgirl, well not all friends can understand. Some are so selfish that they can't understand your tired. But this friends are already time tested. I feel bad when I lie but it only happens once or twice not more than that. I hate also when I disappointed them. Well I am not perfect, I am just human! Anyway have a nice day to you!
@shibham (17019)
• India
14 May 09
hai friend. yes, if i have to maintain a secrecy then i tell a lie. my best friend stays always with me but i don't share my everything with him, if he want to know something about which i don't want to expose, then i often lie.thanks.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi shibham, I agree with what you said. Not all the time you can tell everything to you best friend. You still have a privacy or a secret you can't tell. But some you can open it up to your best friend. But I only say no to my best friend just don't want him to feel disappointed. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
14 May 09
Hi N30wing, Good question! I think i do lied to my best friend. But that was a white lie i would say so. Just like you say, it's hard to say no to your closed friends. In China, we so-called "give faces", means if someone invited you to go out, that means they are giving you a face(favor), you should accept this favor, or you will be consider as you don't appreciated their favor.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Hi vivianchen, well I never want to say no to my best friend. So usually I lie just to make an excuse that he will understand. But it only happens to me once or twice but not more then that. Does my best friend lie to me to just not to say no to me. It's really hard to say no to a best friend! Have a nice day to you!